My Wife answers EVERY question, WITH A QUESTION!!!!

Oh my gosh. we're all wired the same !!!



example ...

Jaso: Honey Bunny, have you seen my grey pants?

Me: Why would I know where you last took them off?


I could of said Next to your side of the bed. but NO I went the question route.



Last Edited by Wake up men on 11/23/2021 03:04 AM

make me a sandwich please?
:D

What kind of sandwich?

Who invented marriage anyway?

Followed by,

Are you sure you don't want to make it yourself?

What if I don't make it how you want it?



Last Edited by Travis Bickle on 11/23/2021 03:46 AM

And your point is?????????

Wrong direction.

After she says "Are you sure". Your answer should be:

"Let me make you a drink, and maybe we can then find the menu... what was one drink on the menu?"

She's asking you for love and not technical data.

Lol, why do you have to be so mean?

Recently, my wife stated that she hates questions from me. She said it was killing the relationship.

So I have stopped asking questions when speaking with her.

She only hears statements from me now.

I can't yet tell if it's helping the marriage.

She may have been gaslighting me.

I love this post....

We're not divorced yet and, I don't believe we'll ever be. We're still quite in love but...

My husband does this shit as well. It's the small peeve I have about him.

Me: What do you want for dinner tonight? (and then I'll list the choices of what I can make)

Him: What do you want for dinner tonight?

Yeah, the question with a question thing is maddening. Also, he interrupts a lot.

Oh my,

I think my first response would be;

"Are general questions okay or are you talking about specific questions?"

I feel for you...

I was surprised how hard it is to frame a question as a statement! You have to think about it. It shuts down that "mind-to-mouth" express.

Just yesterday, I wanted to ask her an intimate question that would require a simple "Yes or No" response. (...the type of question that most annoys her and that she refuses to answer.) So I took the time to formulate a statement and said it.

SURPRISE! She responded to my statement in a way that answered the question I had!

So, it's working out, at least for me...at least for now.

Oh my FUCKING GOD!!!!

THE DINNER SCENARIO...

Wife: " What would you like to eat tonight, I was thinking about just ordering a pizza"

Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do that"

Wife: "Or, we could order Chinese food... I just don't want to make anything"

Me: "Pizza sounds good, let's do THAT"

Wife: " You don't want Chinese food?"

Me: "Chinese sounds good too, YOU pick, I'll eat whatever"


Wife "We can get whatever you want"

Me: "I kind of like the Chinese idea"

Wife: "I don't want Chinese food"

Me:

My wife and I have been married for nearly 36 years. She asks me lots of questions, but invariably leaves out the most important information, leading to a drawn-out Q & A session.

Example: My daughter's husband (a marine) was transferred from Hawaii to Virginia a few years ago. My wife drove down to LAX to pick up my daughter, who had flown in with their two dogs. They then proceeded to drive to Virginia in my wife's new car.

A few days later, I get a text from my wife.

Wife: What did you use to get the paint off my car?

Me: What paint?

Wife: That red paint on the bumper from when I had it serviced.

Me: Polishing compound.

Wife: This? (sends a photo of rubbing compound).

Me: No, that is too coarse. It will take the paint off.

Wife: Oh, I am glad I asked.

Me: Why?

Wife: Because I don't want to take the paint off.

Me: Take the paint off of what?

Wife: My car door.

Me: What is wrong with your car door?

Wife: It has some scratches on it.

Me: Why does it have scratches on it?

Wife: Max (the dog) scratched it when he was getting out of the car.

Sigh.


This entire conversation should have gone something like this.

Wife: Hey, Max put some scratches on my door getting out of the car. What can I use to remove them?

Me: Polishing compound.

Clear. Plain. Simple.

Ugh.

I had the HARDEST time for years trying to express my frustration....

It comes naturally to her.

I mean, it's part of her paradigm. Just the way she is.

I love her too death but, I'm a statement guy.

Seriously....
I can relate this to SO MANY conversations...

I feel your pain. I guess, I'm NOT alone.

Lol

I avoid dinner questions now.

I make statements.

"I'm making Hamburger Helper for dinner with a side salad. There's enough for two. I'll need 30 minutes in the kitchen and then it will be ready."

A no response from her is optimal. If she says anything like: "I don't want Hamburger Helper," then I respond: "I do not need to be first in the kitchen. You can make your dinner before me."

Then she'll ask me a question. "Would I eat what she wants to make for dinner?"

Then comes my response that gets her wanting me. "That sounds so much better than Hamburger Helper! I'd love to be your sous chef tonight and knock out the dishes as you cook."

Boom!

Dinner gets pushed back an hour.

Sounds like my husband!

I don't like to be passive/aggressive, but situations like these sometimes call for it. When he goes on his dinner merry-go-round, I'll suggest something I know he hates.

Me: Ok then, I want Thai food tonight.
Him: I don't like Thai food.
Me: I know, so you better make a choice or you'll be stuck eating pad-thai.

Well played sir...

Meen on ones feet = Good on the sheet thanks for the green my friend