My step daughter is being stalked by her soon to be ex-husband, need some info

I've actually heard some of his bullshit first hand.

I have a healthy skepticism about pretty much everything, particularly with my stepdaughter. This time she's been the mature, rational one and her husband is acting in ways I'd never have imagined him capable of.

I'm sorry you had that experience. I cannot imagine how much anxiety that produces on a constant basis.

a. child is involved
b. child is involved
c. child is involved

no room to guess

protect the child at all cost

Give someone else like me the car and the phone send him into a trap, if this doesn't work they r using much higher tech,

What was sad is the courts actually facilitated their harassment of me. There was nothing any amount of money would have done to stop them.

I still have PTSD over this shit.

I’ll be thinking of your step-daughter and hope she doesn’t have as tough a road.



Last Edited by Eyeball Replacement on 09/28/2019 11:49 PM

Here's what's not "right" about it all. And her mom and I did our best to advise they not marry but you know how kids don't always listen. I should say young adults, both are in their early 30's and it was first marriage for both of them. But...they met at AA. Never seen two people, early in their sobriety, make a go of it. They had a bad case of "well we're different..." They weren't different, sadly.

But it's not going to do any good to do the "see? told you so..." routine, that train is down the tracks and she's gotta deal with where life is right now.

That I guarantee. She's the only true innocent in all of this.

She needs to go to settings on her phone. Then touch her name and scroll down and see what devices are linked to that Apple ID. That is how the governor of Alabama got caught cheating on his wife. He gave her his old I pad that was signed in to the Apple ID. She could see all of his texts and knew every call he received and where he was at all times.

You need professional help NOW!

Routers need to be replaced. Change the password that came with the router. Increase firewall settings. No wi-fi. Ethernet cable only. That leaves only one access point.

Publish in newspaper "not responsible for debts,etc."

Any joint accounts, credit cards, browsers, one drives, social media, etc. Get off the net!

Check home (yours and hers) for audio and video recorders.

Take this very seriously. I lived in fear for 5 years. Even pets were poisoned.

Get. A GPS jammer . protect your self.

Get active and sneak up on this dudes car and place a GPS on him ..

You might also walk the area try to find out how you would stalk the house ,
Where would you park? Where would you hide?
And put trail cams up!
Hopefully this a hole doesn't roll with NVG

Don't ever produce a firearm its aggregated assault.
Also nail shut or padlock the crawlspace if there is one . having a armed psyco under your house is well...

Cameras and more cameras ..working and dummy.

Get a real dog

everyone is a victim
its the spirit of evil that works through others
and since this man may be not in his right mind anything can lead him
so be careful
take precautions with your family
I recommend talking to the child pediatrician about the situation, they know what to look out for if theres anything weird going on they can catch it through behaviour and check ups
make sure the school knows about this..
not sure if the dad has family you can talk to but reach otu to the family via lawyers and or counsellors to get the dad the help he needs
your stepdaughter needs to understand that in domestic violence cases such as these..this is the most dangerous time for her and her child
most of the crimes against women happen when they leave
and they involve the child..hence all these amber alerts
so please above all else protect the little one...even if it means taking custody for a bit until the mom sorts herself out

Not a 'normal break-up'
It's something Lesley Ackrill has seen repeatedly during her three decades at Interval House, a shelter for abused women and children in Toronto.

"If there's a history of violence in the marriage or union, we in the field know that the most dangerous time of a woman's life is when she tries to leave — when she makes the break," she said.

"Prior to this, he believes she's controllable and controlled, and that he can continue to try and control her through abuse."
80%

of victims in police-reported intimate partner homicides in 2014 were women
26%

of all women who are murdered by their spouse had left the relationship
70%

of spousal violence is not reported to the police
[link to www.cbc.ca (secure)]

if this man was like this now he was like this before she may have not ever mentioned it
I would ask the child how she feels about the dad and the situation if shes scared
get the child counselling asap..precious angel needs protection and gudiance

and pray pray pray for protection and heed Gods voice and guidance through others
truth hits in the gut there is no denying truth

There are some really good books on how to disappear without a trace. One of the books is by privacy consultant, JJ Luna. His most famous book is called, "How to Be Invisible". In this book, he outline the different stages of personal privacy, from basic privacy on one end to the Witness Protection Program on the other. It depends on your goals.

One of the main keys he stresses is that you have to remove your personal address from the public. One of the ways to do this is to simply move to a rental, and use a PO Box for mail. Make your phone number unlisted. If you purchase a house, you would need to pay for it in cash, and register it in the name of a trust or LLC. The gist is to de-link your name to your home address. His book is a great primer on realistic ideas and strategies regarding personal privacy. A lot of people who have had stalkers have read the book according to his forum on his web site. I am sure there are some other books on personal privacy that are good as well, this is just one.

I'm sorry to hear this...so sad that people have to go through this.

As for me.... I do not drink at all.... not a drop.... haven't for years

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haha

Don't drink everyone.


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Yes actually iPhones do have a hidden backdoor tracking feature that can only be disabled from the Apple store, or going through her phone provider and doing it through there. My bet is he is probably looking at her phone records, and using the tracking ability at the phone service provider's website. That is if they are on the same plan. Or if he knows her info.

You can buy a bug finder for less than $20, download an app to find them, or read up on rigging your own.

Anything she wears or carries regularly could be bugged, especially anything he gifted her. Think jewelry, purse, baby car seat, etc.

Check the car seat out very carefully. It would be easy to hide a tracker somewhere in the lining or underneath and he could try to justify it by saying it was a way to keep tabs on the baby instead of her.

I’d suggest parking the current car seat in the garage and getting her a new one or swapping it out with yours if you have one so it moves around like it always did but he’s chasing someone else.

If she hasn’t already, she needs to take down all social media, change her phone number, and change passwords on everything.

She also needs to take an honest inventory of all her friends and acquaintances. He could be using one or more of them as his flying monkeys and getting real-time intel from people she thinks she can trust. (Read up on or watch videos on malignant narcissism.)

She’s lucky to have you in her corner.

have her go dark for 3 days, turn everything off and park the car in your garage. set up a camera and wait and watch, if you catch him driving around scoping, call the police on him.

that sets precedent. do it again and if police get called you have grounds for a restraining order.

Over what?

Why did he and his wife stalk you?

Check her purse..she takes it everywhere, right?

like i said crazy people here...and evil

you can also hire a private detective to follow him around

That's the long way of doing it, don't you think? Just type your question in a search engine if you can't find what you want in the Settings menus.' Find My Phone' on Android also, is usually a feature you have to turn on because it is off by default.

He cheated on me with her. I wanted the divorce, he didn’t. He got stuck with her. They both made my life a living hell for 12 years until I had finally had enough. No amount of police, legal or other help would get them to stop.

wow

you need to write a book about this
a testimony to women on how to overcome evil like that

there is a child involved her threatened her and the child
go away youre insane

People who think men, any men, are 'rational' when it comes to personal relationships deserve anything they get for being so fucking stupid. There's a reason that 99% of violent crimes are committed by men. What do you think it is? It's because they are incapable of controlling themselves. That's emotion-based, nothing rational about it.