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Larry D. Croc
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User ID: 77621160 United States09/28/2019 10:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As the title says, my step-daughter is being stalked somehow by her soon to be ex-husband. Quoting: Larry D. Croc He knows where her automobile is pretty much all the time. Or...he knows where her phone is. She had an iPhone, just got a different one. She had her car checked for GPS devices today and they said they couldn't find any sort of device that had been attached to the car. Is there something about the iPhone that might allow him to be able to "locate" her when its in her possession? If he had something on her old phone that shouldn't be an issue given her new phone. Anything I should check on her car? Thanks in advance for any guidance you can offer. GLP isn't my first choice for medical or legal advice but for this sort of thing? I cannot think of anywhere BETTER to get useful information. Make sure she has “location services” turned off on her phone. Also turn off “share my location”. Is her car a new car with an app to turn it on/show engine stats/etc? If so, she needs to somehow remove the app from all devices. Like me and my husband both have the app for our brand car downloaded to our phones and we can see where the car is located at all times. Also he could have put one of those kid tracker watches/gizmos/keychains in her car or purse. That’s all I can think of for now. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77797825 United States09/28/2019 10:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 10:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Apple has something called Find My Phone which lets you track a phone. If it's tied to her Apple account he might have access to it despite her using a new phone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77797825 Is there a way to turn that "feature" off? "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77797825 United States09/28/2019 10:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Apple has something called Find My Phone which lets you track a phone. If it's tied to her Apple account he might have access to it despite her using a new phone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77797825 Is there a way to turn that "feature" off? I don't know, I've only heard about it from family members who use Iphones. You could go to an Apple store and ask the employees about it. |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 10:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As the title says, my step-daughter is being stalked somehow by her soon to be ex-husband. Quoting: Larry D. Croc He knows where her automobile is pretty much all the time. Or...he knows where her phone is. She had an iPhone, just got a different one. She had her car checked for GPS devices today and they said they couldn't find any sort of device that had been attached to the car. Is there something about the iPhone that might allow him to be able to "locate" her when its in her possession? If he had something on her old phone that shouldn't be an issue given her new phone. Anything I should check on her car? Thanks in advance for any guidance you can offer. GLP isn't my first choice for medical or legal advice but for this sort of thing? I cannot think of anywhere BETTER to get useful information. Make sure she has “location services” turned off on her phone. Also turn off “share my location”. Is her car a new car with an app to turn it on/show engine stats/etc? If so, she needs to somehow remove the app from all devices. Like me and my husband both have the app for our brand car downloaded to our phones and we can see where the car is located at all times. Also he could have put one of those kid tracker watches/gizmos/keychains in her car or purse. That’s all I can think of for now. Thank you very much. I appreciate the information, very helpful and my wife is texting it to her right now. Guy's turned out to be an ass of the first order and she's scared shitless. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 10:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Apple has something called Find My Phone which lets you track a phone. If it's tied to her Apple account he might have access to it despite her using a new phone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77797825 Is there a way to turn that "feature" off? I don't know, I've only heard about it from family members who use Iphones. You could go to an Apple store and ask the employees about it. Thanks, I'll have her do that at the first convenience. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76315674 United States09/28/2019 11:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77727366 United States09/28/2019 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | make sure she nips it in the bud and doesnt get emotional or "play nice" law enforcement has a tendency to back away from these things especially if they were together as a couple. she needs to document everything and go to the authorities the first time something happens. make sure she cant be talked out of any action to "save" the poor guy any trouble and stay vigilant and put his ass in jail if it comes to that. if this guy is a sociopath, the hard she hits at the beginning the better it will be for her if this progresses. |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Need to get restraining order ASAP to cover your bases if she feels endangered Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76315674 We're very close to that. She stopped at the police station today and gave them a rundown on what's been happening. They actually took a report and said to call them if she didn't feel safe at home. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77727366 United States09/28/2019 11:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451  Canada09/28/2019 11:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As the title says, my step-daughter is being stalked somehow by her soon to be ex-husband. Quoting: Larry D. Croc He knows where her automobile is pretty much all the time. Or...he knows where her phone is. She had an iPhone, just got a different one. She had her car checked for GPS devices today and they said they couldn't find any sort of device that had been attached to the car. Is there something about the iPhone that might allow him to be able to "locate" her when its in her possession? If he had something on her old phone that shouldn't be an issue given her new phone. Anything I should check on her car? Thanks in advance for any guidance you can offer. GLP isn't my first choice for medical or legal advice but for this sort of thing? I cannot think of anywhere BETTER to get useful information. yes absolutely, there is an app that he can track her if he has access to her email and passwords he can track via find my phone |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Apple has something called Find My Phone which lets you track a phone. If it's tied to her Apple account he might have access to it despite her using a new phone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77797825 Is there a way to turn that "feature" off? she has to go to settings and look for it [link to www.imore.com (secure)] get her to change her email address if possible or at the least their password |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | make sure she nips it in the bud and doesnt get emotional or "play nice" Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77727366 law enforcement has a tendency to back away from these things especially if they were together as a couple. she needs to document everything and go to the authorities the first time something happens. make sure she cant be talked out of any action to "save" the poor guy any trouble and stay vigilant and put his ass in jail if it comes to that. if this guy is a sociopath, the hard she hits at the beginning the better it will be for her if this progresses. That's what we're advising her to do. He keeps, like an ass, trying to put their one year old daughter in the middle. "I'll make sure you never see her again." "How much money do I have to give you so you never see her again?" And on and on and on. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 78015690  Mexico09/28/2019 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is not possible to stalk your wife. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78015690 Soon to be ex? She's a POS no doubt. I don't buy the story. Who the hell claims stalking on someone who is still their husband other than a patent psychopath? What did he do to deserve the title? Not put the clothes in the dryer on time? If this guy did nothing to harm her, all the posters saying "restraining order" and "he could be dangerous" and all the other B.S. are nation destroying hacks that are feeding the problem. If you do anything other than side with the guy in this case, you SUCK because YOU CAUSE piles of poop in places like San Francisco when perfectly innocent people are flushed out into the streets by the courts, after everything they need to make it is stolen from them by hags like Op's.  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is not possible to stalk your wife. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78015690 Soon to be ex? She's a POS no doubt. I don't buy the story. Who the hell claims stalking on someone who is still their husband other than a patent psychopath? What did he do to deserve the title? Not put the clothes in the dryer on time? If this guy did nothing to harm her, all the posters saying "restraining order" and "he could be dangerous" and all the other B.S. are nation destroying hacks that are feeding the problem. If you do anything other than side with the guy in this case, you SUCK because YOU CAUSE piles of poop in places like San Francisco when perfectly innocent people are flushed out into the streets by the courts, after everything they need to make it is stolen from them by hags like Op's. get help psycho |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Apple has something called Find My Phone which lets you track a phone. If it's tied to her Apple account he might have access to it despite her using a new phone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77797825 Is there a way to turn that "feature" off? she has to go to settings and look for it [link to www.imore.com (secure)] get her to change her email address if possible or at the least their password Passwords are being changed every other day as a result of this goof's behavior. And not written down. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| smeddly
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| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is not possible to stalk your wife. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78015690 Soon to be ex? She's a POS no doubt. I don't buy the story. Who the hell claims stalking on someone who is still their husband other than a patent psychopath? What did he do to deserve the title? Not put the clothes in the dryer on time? If this guy did nothing to harm her, all the posters saying "restraining order" and "he could be dangerous" and all the other B.S. are nation destroying hacks that are feeding the problem. If you do anything other than side with the guy in this case, you SUCK because YOU CAUSE piles of poop in places like San Francisco when perfectly innocent people are flushed out into the streets by the courts, after everything they need to make it is stolen from them by hags like Op's. Thanks for trying to disrupt, butt munch. Take your insane raving somewhere else. There's a one year old child that this ass is trying to use as a bargaining chip. So, with all due respect? Go fuck yourself, you're not needed here. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Treerat
User ID: 77220281 United States09/28/2019 11:10 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | make sure she nips it in the bud and doesnt get emotional or "play nice" Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77727366 law enforcement has a tendency to back away from these things especially if they were together as a couple. she needs to document everything and go to the authorities the first time something happens. make sure she cant be talked out of any action to "save" the poor guy any trouble and stay vigilant and put his ass in jail if it comes to that. if this guy is a sociopath, the hard she hits at the beginning the better it will be for her if this progresses. That's what we're advising her to do. He keeps, like an ass, trying to put their one year old daughter in the middle. "I'll make sure you never see her again." "How much money do I have to give you so you never see her again?" And on and on and on. does she have custody? if not I recommend getting a restraining order asap...does she have a laywer? the police should be able to get her the help she needs but this is not something to brush off especially if kids are involved womens shelters have facilities to protect women and their children from men like this I recommend speaking to them asap...counsellors at a womans shelter and social worker ..fi she is afraid for her child you may need to get childrens aid involved |
| PugTard
Thread Thrasher User ID: 70226723 United States09/28/2019 11:11 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I know this seems very obvious and it really depends on where you live but what about at least purchasing a weapon? Are we there yet? "So if we don't get some cool rules ourselves, pronto, we'll just be bogus too" Jeff Spicoli "Don't take any wooden nickels" Pugtard |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76774152 United States09/28/2019 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is not possible to stalk your wife. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 78015690 Soon to be ex? She's a POS no doubt. I don't buy the story. Who the hell claims stalking on someone who is still their husband other than a patent psychopath? What did he do to deserve the title? Not put the clothes in the dryer on time? If this guy did nothing to harm her, all the posters saying "restraining order" and "he could be dangerous" and all the other B.S. are nation destroying hacks that are feeding the problem. If you do anything other than side with the guy in this case, you SUCK because YOU CAUSE piles of poop in places like San Francisco when perfectly innocent people are flushed out into the streets by the courts, after everything they need to make it is stolen from them by hags like Op's. My Uncle had a neighbor who's brother told him never believe a soon to be divorced step daughter. Fact |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77727366 United States09/28/2019 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | make sure she nips it in the bud and doesnt get emotional or "play nice" Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77727366 law enforcement has a tendency to back away from these things especially if they were together as a couple. she needs to document everything and go to the authorities the first time something happens. make sure she cant be talked out of any action to "save" the poor guy any trouble and stay vigilant and put his ass in jail if it comes to that. if this guy is a sociopath, the hard she hits at the beginning the better it will be for her if this progresses. That's what we're advising her to do. He keeps, like an ass, trying to put their one year old daughter in the middle. "I'll make sure you never see her again." "How much money do I have to give you so you never see her again?" And on and on and on. recorded it all, my sister is 6 years later, remarried with 2 little kids still dealing with this shit from an ex who is a sociopath. custody battles will enlist an ad litem who literally will think a father in jail should have visitation rights or the father who raped the mother should have rights.. so she needs to take his ass down from the get go. Do whatever you have to do to get his ass locked up. it will server her well in the custody hearing. my sister "never wanted to destroy his life" so never had him arrested when he would stalk or break into her house and she has paid dearly for that mistake. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her phone and her car drive it out into country. Pull down a dead end road and wait him out. Then help him come to a understanding .. Good luck. Family comes 1st Quoting: Treerat ^^^NO do not do the above in any circumstance men like this will manipulate their way to an agreement then when shes in their midst attack just continue on the path you re on and do whats necessary to involve the authorities counsellors and lawyers to get a judge to push that restraining order forward and make sure shes not alone and her daughters not alone.. |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her phone and her car drive it out into country. Pull down a dead end road and wait him out. Then help him come to a understanding .. Good luck. Family comes 1st Quoting: Treerat I've actually thought about having the "let's come to Jesus" moment with this creep. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | make sure she nips it in the bud and doesnt get emotional or "play nice" Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77727366 law enforcement has a tendency to back away from these things especially if they were together as a couple. she needs to document everything and go to the authorities the first time something happens. make sure she cant be talked out of any action to "save" the poor guy any trouble and stay vigilant and put his ass in jail if it comes to that. if this guy is a sociopath, the hard she hits at the beginning the better it will be for her if this progresses. That's what we're advising her to do. He keeps, like an ass, trying to put their one year old daughter in the middle. "I'll make sure you never see her again." "How much money do I have to give you so you never see her again?" And on and on and on. recorded it all, my sister is 6 years later, remarried with 2 little kids still dealing with this shit from an ex who is a sociopath. custody battles will enlist an ad litem who literally will think a father in jail should have visitation rights or the father who raped the mother should have rights.. so she needs to take his ass down from the get go. Do whatever you have to do to get his ass locked up. it will server her well in the custody hearing. my sister "never wanted to destroy his life" so never had him arrested when he would stalk or break into her house and she has paid dearly for that mistake. ^^^100% do as above get the authorities involved and start talking about the violence the threats and if there was sexual assault, mention any drugs or drinking and the fact he threatened her and her daughter ...stress the fact that he is violent and make sure she realizes this could mean her life or her childs she needs to protect her child at all cost screw him to hell |
| Larry D. Croc
(OP) User ID: 70736097 United States09/28/2019 11:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I know this seems very obvious and it really depends on where you live but what about at least purchasing a weapon? Quoting: PugTard If you don't own a weapon...you need to fix that shit....ASAFP! What this shit head doesn't realize, to his detriment, is that while I'm really, really slow to anger that I do have my limits. I've got one nerve left and he's on it. As to having to "fix" anything in terms of what might be in my ownership? Not a problem at all. Fine tuned a very nice Swedish Mauser the other day, less than a minute of angle at two hundred fifty yards which is how far the range goes in terms of shootable distances. I've worked with my Glock 19 until we've developed a very productive working relationship. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her phone and her car drive it out into country. Pull down a dead end road and wait him out. Then help him come to a understanding .. Good luck. Family comes 1st Quoting: Treerat I've actually thought about having the "let's come to Jesus" moment with this creep. dont be stupid he wants to take her down and will use the kid to do it you are talking about someone who wants to seriously hurt a woman and her child clearly he is not stable hence, get the help to protect them via the law |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77349451 Canada09/28/2019 11:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her phone and her car drive it out into country. Pull down a dead end road and wait him out. Then help him come to a understanding .. Good luck. Family comes 1st Quoting: Treerat I've actually thought about having the "let's come to Jesus" moment with this creep. dont be stupid he wants to take her down and will use the kid to do it you are talking about someone who wants to seriously hurt a woman and her child clearly he is not stable hence, get the help to protect them via the law Jesus would say the same, get the child protected. Jesus cares about the child and the mothers job is to protect that child and your job as her dad is to protect her... so dont be stupid |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77727366 United States09/28/2019 11:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her phone and her car drive it out into country. Pull down a dead end road and wait him out. Then help him come to a understanding .. Good luck. Family comes 1st Quoting: Treerat I've actually thought about having the "let's come to Jesus" moment with this creep. he will play the card "her and her entire family are setting me up so that I never have a relationship with my kid, its all lies and a game to keep me away from my kid" |
