Thank you and goodbye. Suggestions, prayers, thoughts and help greatly needed.

I admit I am not the best of writing all this in shock and all. Just reaching out for help, although I have no idea what help opportunities there are. It can be anything, shelter, help towards burial, warm words of advice. Anything. I am about to meet the Russian system head on with no safety gear, or training / experience. I have no idea what to do, when all of this crumbles around me. Sorry, if I offended anyone. Just needed to get it all out.

condolences

just take the job..they will provide you with everything

this is no 15th century..govt provides uniforms,weapons,safety gears,food and training

you might even make some good friends

and yes,tell us when russia gets in war with USA

sorry to hear that
your only relative.that is bad..i hope you arrange it well

No offense, but this smells like troll post, what this has to do with Russian army?

If you are able to join army, means you are able to work and feed your self.

OP isn't a troll...I will vouch for him...

I'm so sorry to hear you're having troubles ;(

I'm kinda having troubles too so I can't offer anything but well-wishes (I will visually imagine you being well, feed, and under shelter) and compassion. IMO, this is all a test to see our true character...will you sell out to have a little money and security? Or will you stand up for what you believe in ~ even if it means being broke and homeless...

Keep your head up OP and PM me if you want to chat, I will PM you my email right now.

Don't forget, I love you!

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles OP.

Cremation is a heck of a lot cheaper than burials. Good luck to you, I'll say a prayer for you.

I am so sorry OP. Hugs to you !

you are a fluke of the universe

Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your Grandma.

Love and prayers go out to you!

So sad for your loss, Snuffie--I've seen your posts on GLP for a long time--didn't know you had these kinds of difficulties.
I can see why you are upset.

I can tell you right now, tho, that being able to "cope" when your last relative has passed IS possible. I've been able to do it--everyone is gone--and since my people came from Sweden in the early 1900's there is no link for me with the relatives still left in Europe. (And, I don't have the dough even if I could get in touch to go there!) I have to say that it feels pretty strange after growing up with tons of family all around. Some Christmas gatherings would see 50 people crowding around getting their food, talking, singing, what great memories...."Secret Gardens of the Heart." But, be honest, at some level you saw this coming.

You CAN carry this, Snuffie. Even if you are feeling in shock as you say--it will pass--and you will be able to handle it.
I wish that I could offer you some assistance--being that I am in the same situation you are in, you can understand why
I cannot. All I can do is offer a 'cyber hug' and send you strength.
Blessings, Snuffie. Stay in touch. You are going to make it
just fine!

Just one suggestion: If you can afford it try to find the book "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. This guy was in your situation and lived on a park bench for 2 years. He finally was able to "see" and his insights have really saved my bacon! Also...consider an animal companion--my dog brings me a great deal of comfort on my "blue" days.
Keep going! We're here for you.
Watch this--the narrator's voice is Eckhart Tolle


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Last Edited by TheOracle'sCookie on 12/27/2014 12:19 PM

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Just a short update, didn't get much sleep tonight. I kept checking in her empty room for some reason. Grandmother is in the morgue now and I have a difficult Monday ahead of me negotiating for a burial. As well as getting all the death certificates and paperwork.

She was a devote Orthodox Christian and her wish was to be buried according to the custom. Our neighbor, as sad as he got when the news came seemed strong. Helped me out with calling a hearse and all. He is also going to arrange a church service.

Even if the church community helps out with burial there is still a large issue that worries me. Sadly Granny's Will was really out of date and pointing to someone completely else. Very distant relatives. We never managed to get it updated and most likely I would be loosing this house as soon as they find out of her death and arrange the paperwork. Still quite a lot of darkness and uncertainty ahead of me.


Heartfelt thanks for all you kind words, prayers and support though, they really do help a lot!

I had the care for my Grandmother, when she was ill. I did a few off jobs online now and then. Right now I could work full time for sure. Sadly there aren't a lot of jobs here, that I'm able to take without papers from the military. Honestly I haven't gotten them, because I am really afraid of it.

I never fit in with the usual Russian society, I doubt the harsh military conditions would do me any good. I will fight to get a health, or mental leave. Then perhaps look for a job. Again, I have all my college education in Norway. I finished a measly four primary school classes here in Russia. Surely there will be some job for me, I just need to find it!

I am good at photography, and I can do translations Norwegian - English - Russian. Which isn't on my mind right now. What bothers me the most is Granny's proper burial, and the housing issue. Not much point of having a job, if I would go homeless?

Darn, sorry to bother you again folks. I just woke up in the middle of the night here and feel such emptiness. I had a daily routine here for over seven years and now it has all collapsed. All I can think of is what daily, simple actions I did that filled my life. Now it seems like an empty void. The more need for someone around to be with!

Much love Snuffie ;)

Keep your head up my friend...thinking of you!

I am so sorry about your predicament Snuffielover. I do not have much advice to give you right now. All I can say is I really hope that as bad as things seem right now, your immediate future gets smoothed out and things get less uncertain and become more positive.

Best wishes!

If you are the only relative wouldnt what she has go to you anyway?I would think so unless she has it willed to someone else specifically.

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You will get through this. You will find your way. Look for kindness and comfort and accept it.
Sending you positive thoughts and strength

Her church will come through to show you God's love.

Hugs to you during this difficult time, keep your chin up! I have you in my thoughts.

Oh My God Snuffie!!! I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother!! I know she is the only person you have on this planet that gives a damn about you.

Where will you live? How will you eat? I'm worried about you.

You are a great kid with an amazing heart. I don't know what to do other than send prayers your way.

To any haters who may respond to this thread..Get Lost!

Everyone else, Please pray for Snuffie.

Can you start selling what is in the house? You may not have the house in your name but you can sell what is inside before they take the house

Snuffie...


Please just breath right now. All of this will fall into place as it should. You need to rest in the moment with your memories of your Gram.


The house thing will take a while. In America something like this would probably take about 6 months to a year to work out. You have time to make plans.


So Sorry for you Loss..

Oh! Snuffie!

Since you're in Russia, find a Ringing Cedars community! They will take you in, give you your own plot of land and even help you build your own house.

You are in my prayers

We loved your thread about the terrible air in your city once.

you will get through this.

The relatives listed in the will may or may not be reachable, and may or may not be interested in her estate.

Let the Church help you.

We will pray.

Prayers to you my friend:). I think you're in shock right now...I'm in a similar situation and can totally empathize! Live in the moment for the next few days and then go from there.

Also remember that you have awesome skills! There are not many people that are fluent in 3 languages!! Perhaps this is a way to get you back to Norway, which I'm sure is a calmer place to live than Russia.

I know it's hard atm.. but DON'T lose hope!