Thank you and goodbye. Suggestions, prayers, thoughts and help greatly needed.

Hi Snuffie. Please take some time alone, just for yourself. Even if it's just sitting by your GrandMother's now empty bed and talking with her. Or sitting in the garden, gazing at the stars and talking with her.

You are so much stronger inside than anyone will ever know. Let your strength support you, like a leaf on the wind. Let your emotions wash over and through you, like the cleansing winds and rains.

Prayer takes many forms. My prayer for you: "Peace in Knowing".

One night I dreamed a dream.
I was walking along the beach with my Lord. Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life. For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand, one belonging to me and one to my Lord.

When the last scene of my life shot before me I looked back at the footprints in the sand. There was only one set of footprints. I realized that this was at the lowest and saddest times of my life. This always bothered me and I questioned the Lord about my dilemma.

"Lord, You told me when I decided to follow You, You would walk and talk with me all the way. But I'm aware that during the most troublesome times of my life there is only one set of footprints. I just don't understand why, when I need You most, You leave me."

He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you, never, ever, during your trials and testings. When you saw only one set of footprints, It was then that I carried you."

Prayers up OP...

GOD is still here....Lean on him....

Rest for the Weary
"Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. "For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."

Matthew 11

I am so very sorry for your loss OP. I am walking with you in good thoughts and prayers. Stay strong.

There may be an updated Will. Perhaps you only found the previous Will. Did she have an attorney? Here in the U.S. we have deposit boxes in our banks for such documents.

Also, is the copy of the Will you found the only copy? If so, maybe it can "go away" and the distant relatives will have no claim without a Will.

For now it's time to grieve, I know, but don't over look whatever your grandmother may have wanted for you.

She may have hidden a new Will, I can't imagine she would have wanted you to be left in this position.

You've taken care of your grandmother for such a long time and it shows what a kind and loving person you must be.

Now it's your time to care for you and make your life. That is what your grandmother would want you to do.

There's special place in forest. Leave body there for 3 days. Then come back, if body is still there, then try some burial.
Of course, will of dying person is sacred, if she wants orthodox way, so it be.

I am so sorry for your broken heart and passing of your Grandmother. I am thinking about and praying for you!!! Please take time to eat, sleep, and be kind to yourself... Grief is hard work! We are here for you!

I think my dad might be pulling his last straw. My stepmom is not sharing info. I am ok with her decision to keep people under her control, but I feel compelled to pay last respects to a father who never was. I have one regret about the life my parents brought me into. My only regret would be not knowing I could have said Goodbye to my Dad, because my stepmom thought i was comptition. Or my Dad is dying and I have freaked out.

I think my Dad is dying and I feel fucked.

Forge a signature on a typed will, and hope no one finds the old one.

If the only copy of her will is in your house, I'd lose it.

Praying for you.I'm sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss OP, life always finds a way. A path will present itself, wade into it.

What did your grandmother want from you? Do this to honor her and bring back a small amount of fulfillment to yourself. I am saddened by your loss. It is hard losing a grandparent.

Oh....what a great idea!



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It is actually. That country has dash cams for a reason. They're literally like "pics or it didn't happen".

Totally agree! You keeping the house is probably what your grandmother would have wanted, she just wasn't able or aware that the will needed to be updated.

You sound like my brother's two children. His third wife kept all of us at a distance for years. His two children by his first marriage were not included in anything. They even asked for a piece of his clothing after he died, and the third wife closed the door in their face. She ended up with millions, I'm sure. His children should have been given something. She took everything including the money from my deceased mom's house. It was meant for my brother. I split the proceeds three ways (brother, sister and me), and she signed my brother's name to the check. He had no idea, and died thinking I didn't include him.

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Godspeed

You Russians are a tough people... I bet your grandmother was. Just reach down inside you a little, certainly not very far, and find that Russian Spirit.

Praying for you OP. Everything will be okay. My suggestion is to try to stay in each day at a time and not overwhelm your mind with what to do. When you pray for guidance, He is faithful to do it. Do not worry. Trust God.

Love, Ms.SD

Give it all u got

OP? give me a pm....

i feel your pain, i lost my grandmother (best family member i had) back in september.

as there was no purpose in being over east any more, it caused our move back to the west.

maybe a move will shake around the situation?

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My condolences. I didn't read the answers so maybe mine has already been said, but.....maybe you can still ,find, your grandma's will somewhere? Just thinking aloud.

Sorry Comrade...

We are NOT flags, but rather, souls who the ravages of time leaves us tattered and flapping in the wind.

My prayers go with you in this life; let's drink and celebrate in the life hereafter.

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Snuffie, please accept my condolences for your loss. It's too bad that I live so far away, as I do hand digging with a shovel and could probably dig you a grave. It would take me a day or two to dig the hole by hand.

Heartful prayers and warm thoughts sent your way, Snuffie <3

Here is an update for all you kindhearted people. I just got back home after being on my feet since seven in the morning. Got the hospital papers, spent a good deal in the morgue arguing about the most frugal burial. Trying to explain them the rules and all. They don't seem to understand the term "social burial" and wanted tons of extra body handling and pampering options, that I should pay for.

Managed to get it and the price to a bare minimum. I still have to go to a churchyard tomorrow to agree on the price of digging a grave as well as transportation. It's all quite complicated. This is my primary focus. The Will people would come later as there's a six month time period for it all.

Luckily there is a bit of funds I might be entitled to from the Social Services, as I found out today. They sure don't like to advertise it. Will take a while and two tons of paperwork to apply for of course. I will do it! Even with the current developing toothache and depression I got.


Would be wonderful to fill the current void with someone around here I could spend New Year with. Watch the fireworks bloom up around Moscow as the clock strikes twelve. Go skating in Europe's largest skating ring at VDNKh (they renamed that venue Soviet-Style) If I get the burial done I would have all holidays ahead of me to ponder my future course of action and get some relaxation in hopefully. Get my mind off things.