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sorrow'sTear
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 85828014 United States 12/04/2023 02:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to Dominican republic, Russia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Phillipines. Find woman. Procreate knowing she's using you. Have children and be happy. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 85828014 Would stay where I'm at, since I have an income here. Not saying to move there genius. Just take a trip and find a wife. Passport bros is the new thing. Google it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 86576624 United States 12/04/2023 02:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it's irresponsible Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62509300 you will be 70+ before the first kid is done HS My father was 54 when I was born and 56 when my brother was and so STFU You Do Not Not Know What You Speak. I am in my 50s now and I have thought about it, but I have decided adoption is the way to go personally.... |
Rabbit In The Hat
User ID: 86542706 United States 12/04/2023 02:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It’s only natural to want someone to share your life with. Just make sure you choose a decent person. My husband and I started our family later in life (I was in my late 30’s through early 40’s and he was in his late 40’s through early 50’s) we have three amazing children and no regrets. I wish you the best. |
sorrow'sTear
(OP) User ID: 72896110 United States 12/04/2023 02:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it's irresponsible Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62509300 you will be 70+ before the first kid is done HS My father was 54 when I was born and 56 when my brother was and so STFU You Do Not Not Know What You Speak. I am in my 50s now and I have thought about it, but I have decided adoption is the way to go personally.... I want the entire experience: from the dating and selection, all the way to (hopefully) leading a great family. |
sorrow'sTear
(OP) User ID: 72896110 United States 12/04/2023 02:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to Dominican republic, Russia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Phillipines. Find woman. Procreate knowing she's using you. Have children and be happy. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 85828014 Would stay where I'm at, since I have an income here. Not saying to move there genius. Just take a trip and find a wife. Passport bros is the new thing. Google it. Ahh. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79357950 Canada 12/04/2023 02:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to Dominican republic, Russia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Phillipines. Find woman. Procreate knowing she's using you. Have children and be happy. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 85828014 Would stay where I'm at, since I have an income here. Not saying to move there genius. Just take a trip and find a wife. Passport bros is the new thing. Google it. It aint new, people been doing that for decades, the new passport bro clowns off tiktok are ruining the vibe though |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 85828014 United States 12/04/2023 02:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to Dominican republic, Russia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Phillipines. Find woman. Procreate knowing she's using you. Have children and be happy. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 85828014 Would stay where I'm at, since I have an income here. Not saying to move there genius. Just take a trip and find a wife. Passport bros is the new thing. Google it. It aint new, people been doing that for decades, the new passport bro clowns off tiktok are ruining the vibe though I agree its embarrassing but by the sounds of it, it's this guys only shot at procreation. Go sir. Hop on a jet. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76626437 United States 12/04/2023 02:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You have to emotionally enslave a woman for her to stay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84952617 Unless she's a woman of God. There's levels to all of these things. Seek God genuinely. Even godly females want cash and security and some way to pin you down for free ( to them, anyway), and I promise you all their vanity and fantasies dont go away. Females are willing and expecting to share fully in your success, of promise of future success. If you dont deliver you will dearly. They really dont have to give a proper accounting for themselves as to why they should leave with all your valuables and court ordered obligations. Thats what it is. Do you think some female, even a desperate one, is willing to watch you play videogames all day or get all hot and bothered by your absolute ordinaryness and social stasis as a nonentity? |
sorrow'sTear
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76626437 United States 12/04/2023 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not saying to move there genius. Just take a trip and find a wife. Passport bros is the new thing. Google it. It aint new, people been doing that for decades, the new passport bro clowns off tiktok are ruining the vibe though I agree its embarrassing but by the sounds of it, it's this guys only shot at procreation. Go sir. Hop on a jet. Really? The play for pay girls might fool you into believing that its only you, but you dont know that they aint fucking the next guy getting off the plane that you are getting on and so on and so on. Generating street urching children with prostitutes really shouldnt be a thing for a decent man. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79300949 United States 12/04/2023 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All we can hope for is for society to treat elders with respect and don’t take advantage of them similar to how we want society to treat children. I don’t have kids of my own and I wouldn’t mind retiring to a nursing home if I was treated with respect and wasn’t taken care of by people I don't know.. Parents who have good relationships with their kids tend to have their kids with them when they are nearing death which is a good thing to have. And maybe some day all people who don’t have anyone will have some people with them. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 76626437 United States 12/04/2023 02:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There is a time for every purpose. Families are for the young and fit with a potential for a gu. And you aint young anymore. You have about one chance in 10000 that you will find any real family from strangers and people from outside of your culture at this point in time. It would not be good karma to generate some half breed street children who will end up in central or south american brothels or prisons and thats what your most likely result will be. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 86295338 United States 12/04/2023 02:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Probably should post anonymous, but who cares, right? Quoting: sorrow'sTear I'm feelin' bad today. As a man, I'll soon be moving from 51yo virgin to 52yo virgin. The problem I face, is that I'm still in the place I never progressed from nearly 40 years ago. And with that, I still want not only an intimate experience, but also a family and all the things. Specifically the last year I feel like I've lost the last bits of attractiveness I may have had. Where as just a year before, I could at least get a smile out of woman in passing. Now it's like I'm absolutely invisible or they go well out of their way to avoid eye contact and misinterpretation. I figured as I got older, I'd just gravitate further into hobbies or maybe some type of business, but it's not the case. Women are on my mind 24/7 and crushes all other interests. I thought men dry up in their 50s? This is kinda like hell. Would it be different if I had all of the desires fulfilled and long behind me? If your thirsty, you drink. If you're hungry, you eat. If you're tired you sleep. If you crave intimacy and your old, you... So, any older guys here that jumped in late and made it happen? Love, family, etc? How low did you go with your standards and what is worth it? H ad a son with my younger wife at 57. He's the best thing that ever happened to me. They both keep me young! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 86603284 Pakistan 12/04/2023 02:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it's irresponsible Quoting: Anonymous Coward 62509300 you will be 70+ before the first kid is done HS Foolish statement. if you have a kid at 35 year age and you die at 40 then does this mean it is irresponsible? alpacino had a kid at over 80... it is not you who will raise and feed your kids ,it is God who does that, so trust in Him.. age is just a number ,sometimes a 70 year old father can be much better than a thirty year old one |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 49598504 United States 12/04/2023 02:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Probably should post anonymous, but who cares, right? Quoting: sorrow'sTear I'm feelin' bad today. As a man, I'll soon be moving from 51yo virgin to 52yo virgin. The problem I face, is that I'm still in the place I never progressed from nearly 40 years ago. And with that, I still want not only an intimate experience, but also a family and all the things. Specifically the last year I feel like I've lost the last bits of attractiveness I may have had. Where as just a year before, I could at least get a smile out of woman in passing. Now it's like I'm absolutely invisible or they go well out of their way to avoid eye contact and misinterpretation. I figured as I got older, I'd just gravitate further into hobbies or maybe some type of business, but it's not the case. Women are on my mind 24/7 and crushes all other interests. I thought men dry up in their 50s? This is kinda like hell. Would it be different if I had all of the desires fulfilled and long behind me? If your thirsty, you drink. If you're hungry, you eat. If you're tired you sleep. If you crave intimacy and your old, you... So, any older guys here that jumped in late and made it happen? Love, family, etc? How low did you go with your standards and what is worth it? Why would I start a family? I've already had my prostate removed because of cancer (guys, get your prostate checked every year starting at 35). The women I know of all ages already have kids (my little sweetheart is 29 and has 5) I'm not wealthy to support kids. I don't have the energy to be around kids 24/7. so why would I? |
sorrow'sTear
(OP) User ID: 72896110 United States 12/04/2023 02:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You have to emotionally enslave a woman for her to stay. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84952617 Unless she's a woman of God. There's levels to all of these things. Seek God genuinely. Even godly females want cash and security and some way to pin you down for free ( to them, anyway), and I promise you all their vanity and fantasies dont go away. Females are willing and expecting to share fully in your success, of promise of future success. If you dont deliver you will dearly. They really dont have to give a proper accounting for themselves as to why they should leave with all your valuables and court ordered obligations. Thats what it is. Do you think some female, even a desperate one, is willing to watch you play videogames all day or get all hot and bothered by your absolute ordinaryness and social stasis as a nonentity? Very few people are social stars, and most people don't have time for tons of people. Not sure what you're getting at here. I don't do video games. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 80695649 United States 12/04/2023 02:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My dad was 46 when I was born. My nephew just started a new family with a new wife, and he's 52. Older parents happen. It's not the age that is the issue; it's the person's youthfulness. I've seen old and worn out people who are 40 and too old to run after babies. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 85052592 United States 12/04/2023 02:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | in another 20 years it will be a third world hellhole like Brazil, but with a lot of nukes and no amount of good folks having babies is going to fix that -- it's far too late |
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sorrow'sTear
(OP) User ID: 72896110 United States 12/04/2023 02:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There is a time for every purpose. Families are for the young and fit with a potential for a gu. And you aint young anymore. You have about one chance in 10000 that you will find any real family from strangers and people from outside of your culture at this point in time. It would not be good karma to generate some half breed street children who will end up in central or south american brothels or prisons and thats what your most likely result will be. What's a GU? logical, I don't agree with you. No child of mine would end up in a SA brothel or prison. And as far as a time for every purpose, things don't always, and I'd even go as far to say: rarely work out on schedule. You assume a level of fitness based on age. Some people are outside the norms. just as I am late to the gate with family, I'm physically training like someone much younger than me. Genetic defects aside, I probably fall outside your recognized norm. |
sorrow'sTear
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Chi-TownMark
User ID: 71489575 United States 12/04/2023 02:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Probably should post anonymous, but who cares, right? Quoting: sorrow'sTear I'm feelin' bad today. As a man, I'll soon be moving from 51yo virgin to 52yo virgin. The problem I face, is that I'm still in the place I never progressed from nearly 40 years ago. And with that, I still want not only an intimate experience, but also a family and all the things. Specifically the last year I feel like I've lost the last bits of attractiveness I may have had. Where as just a year before, I could at least get a smile out of woman in passing. Now it's like I'm absolutely invisible or they go well out of their way to avoid eye contact and misinterpretation. I figured as I got older, I'd just gravitate further into hobbies or maybe some type of business, but it's not the case. Women are on my mind 24/7 and crushes all other interests. I thought men dry up in their 50s? This is kinda like hell. Would it be different if I had all of the desires fulfilled and long behind me? If your thirsty, you drink. If you're hungry, you eat. If you're tired you sleep. If you crave intimacy and your old, you... So, any older guys here that jumped in late and made it happen? Love, family, etc? How low did you go with your standards and what is worth it? My friend this is a normal feeling, 100 years ago we’d send guys like you somewhere to die in a field fighting over some meaningless cause. But due to a lack of wars you seemed to slip through the cracks and survived. I’d suggest you don’t procreate, it doesn’t sound like you have anything useful to teach you offspring that will benefit the next generation. |