Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 83998124 08/13/2022 09:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She's traumatized and depressed. Reality turned out to be not what she was told it was. Let her be and just love her. Support her for as long as you financially can. Is she smoking crack? Is she robbing you to support a habit? Is she showering every day and eating? Is she unhealthy? Be thankful for what she is not doing. She will snap out of it eventually. The more you push, the more you push her away. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 80412580 That’s the general idea, isn’t it? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80475369 United States 08/13/2022 09:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She refuses to work and just wants to play some game online all day long. She recently lost her job because of the Covid mandates and I feel bad for her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 81583673 Her mother and I said she could come home but she really hasn't done anything since she's been back. Hasn't helped with chores or bills and she sleeps till noon most of the time. I think she stays up all night playing something called CamSoda. I don't know what kind of game it is but she sure seems to like it. Her mother and I are both retired and we just wish she would show some initiate and at least look for a job. I don't know how she manages to stay on unemployment. Dang! Who raised that kid? *scratching head* |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 52877837 United States 08/13/2022 09:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She refuses to work and just wants to play some game online all day long. She recently lost her job because of the Covid mandates and I feel bad for her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 81583673 Her mother and I said she could come home but she really hasn't done anything since she's been back. Hasn't helped with chores or bills and she sleeps till noon most of the time. I think she stays up all night playing something called CamSoda. I don't know what kind of game it is but she sure seems to like it. Her mother and I are both retired and we just wish she would show some initiate and at least look for a job. I don't know how she manages to stay on unemployment. CamSoda IS her job |
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User ID: 84012360 08/13/2022 09:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. Start looking for jobs and apartments for her. Make living there inconvenient by invading her privacy. Ask her questions that will annoy her like “what are your plans?” Don’t loan her money without a signed contract. I would also get her to pay rent. I have seen adult children move in and try to take over. They tend to end up on Dr Phil and True Crime stories. I saw an elderly woman have a heart attack due to stress of adult son in the house; his father couldn’t get him to stop interfering with his financial affairs and was ready to jump off a bridge. Desperate people do desperate things. The price of liberty and even of common humanity is eternal vigilance.” —Aldous Huxley For the waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the complacency of fools will destroy them. Proverbs |
Bornartist User ID: 41213230 United States 08/13/2022 09:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She’s got unemployment and a free roof. Why would she be motivated? Maybe be tougher. Quoting: MrBlonde She starts crying when I get onto her about it. I believe she was traumatized by the past two years dealing with things at work. It's hard. She is depressed and has lost hope. This current world offers little to younger people as the economy, health, life dreams are stalled. She is lucky to have parents who have opened their home for her respite. Many do not and they end up homeless and turning to drugs. Working together with her to find hope and possibilities will do wonders to get her motivated. Being parents as you know doesn't stop when they move out...and then back in. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77566042 Germany 08/13/2022 10:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She refuses to work and just wants to play some game online all day long. She recently lost her job because of the Covid mandates and I feel bad for her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 81583673 Her mother and I said she could come home but she really hasn't done anything since she's been back. Hasn't helped with chores or bills and she sleeps till noon most of the time. I think she stays up all night playing something called CamSoda. I don't know what kind of game it is but she sure seems to like it. Her mother and I are both retired and we just wish she would show some initiate and at least look for a job. I don't know how she manages to stay on unemployment. TOXIC PARENTS...the worst thing she could have done was move back in with you all....stop your whining |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 72264506 United States 08/13/2022 10:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. Dudeee, I'm going to put it this way, I'm single, broke with My Exgirlfriend a year ago, My mother is Cuban without Noo one, so she moved with me, she's 70, she's not Vaxxed, smokes weed from 21, looks 60! Pleanty of Energy, goes to the beach and hangs out with me, I'm 39! I'm not Vaxxed! Soo we talked and share Our own stuff! We Embrace life Bro! 95.8 Vaxxed in Puerto Rico! I lived in a bubble bro! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 80326827 United States 08/13/2022 10:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She’s got unemployment and a free roof. Why would she be motivated? Maybe be tougher. Quoting: MrBlonde She starts crying when I get onto her about it. I believe she was traumatized by the past two years dealing with things at work. It's hard. I am unemployed. I lost my job due to temp contact ran out. A lot of jobs out here are temporary fyi ... It's difficult to find a job that doesn't require a death jab It's also very DIFFICULT TO FIND A JOB IF ONE IS OVER 40 or 45 A LOT OF AGE DISCRIMINATION OUT THERE I AM 59 AND IT'S VERY OBVIOUS I SUFFER FROM AGE DISCRIMINATION please take it easy on her. I am doing the math and I you are retired she is most likely over 45? It's very tough out here SHE IS IN A PERFECT PLACE TO START A NEW CAREER Help her possibly get a woman hair cutting license? A barber license? A Certified nurse certificate? A dentist helper certificate? Talk with her maybe she would like this |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 80326827 United States 08/13/2022 10:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She’s got unemployment and a free roof. Why would she be motivated? Maybe be tougher. Quoting: MrBlonde She starts crying when I get onto her about it. I believe she was traumatized by the past two years dealing with things at work. It's hard. I am unemployed. I lost my job due to temp contact ran out. A lot of jobs out here are temporary fyi ... It's difficult to find a job that doesn't require a death jab It's also very DIFFICULT TO FIND A JOB IF ONE IS OVER 40 or 45 A LOT OF AGE DISCRIMINATION OUT THERE I AM 59 AND IT'S VERY OBVIOUS I SUFFER FROM AGE DISCRIMINATION please take it easy on her. I am doing the math and I you are retired she is most likely over 45? It's very tough out here SHE IS IN A PERFECT PLACE TO START A NEW CAREER Help her possibly get a woman hair cutting license? A barber license? A Certified nurse certificate? A dentist helper certificate? Talk with her maybe she would like this OK I didn’t read the first part ...looked at it quickly She is 38 Well, maybe she would like to start a new career? She can get money by selling online like clothing, purses ect There are several different sites ...one is pos -- mark, eBay ect... It's easy Just a thought |
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AZ rice farmer User ID: 81708099 United States 08/13/2022 10:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. in 22 years she'll be 60 and parents will be dead. Th Earth will have warmed several degrees making most discourse here irrelevant. The daughter's internet will be intermittent, at best. water, food, and most other essentials will be scarce and expensive. Her needs will have to be met by Alphabetised youngsters, good luck with that. Illegals and useless minoeirites will be running amok in-between serving garbage at drive-thrus, when they're not beating the crap out of innocent citizens. Maybe just tell the daughter to make up her mind now whether she intends to be with her brief time on earth. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84006269 United States 08/13/2022 10:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. She’s got unemployment and a free roof. Why would she be motivated? Maybe be tougher. Quoting: MrBlonde She starts crying when I get onto her about it. I believe she was traumatized by the past two years dealing with things at work. It's hard. When she starts to cry you should draw back your fist and tell her that you will give her a reason to cry. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 80326827 United States 08/13/2022 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. Why isn't she married with a loving hubby? And maybe some of your grand children Instead of beating hER up verbally Help to fix her up,...increase her sense of worthy and make her look gorgeous Take her to get her hair and snazzy , get her a fews hot outfits... Take her around town to have some nice dinners Meet some nice men She is 38 ...her child bearing years are almost gone Don't you want a grandchild? My neighbor is 36 , has 3 children ans is a full time mother to 3 and wife This is what women are suppose to do...Be mothers , wives NOT SLEPT INTO SOME NASTY OFFICE DAY 7N DAY OUT FOR LOW PAY WORKING FOR SOME NASTY BOSS 40 PLUS HOURS PER WEEK LIVING IN A SLUM, PAYING WAY TO MUCH IN RENT TO SOME SLUM LORD IS THIS WHAT YOU WANT HER TO DO??? HOW AWFUL DISGUSTING |
Jolly_Roger
User ID: 84009048 United Kingdom 08/13/2022 10:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. Install a hidden camera or baby monitor to make sure she is safe when playing online. “Looking for consciousness in the brain is like looking in the radio for the announcer.” - A Physicist "They've killed God, I can't feel God, my soul is dead." - Clot-Shot Trial Victim Unjabbed, untested, unafraid. |
Jolly_Roger
User ID: 84009048 United Kingdom 08/13/2022 10:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. I think she already is. “Looking for consciousness in the brain is like looking in the radio for the announcer.” - A Physicist "They've killed God, I can't feel God, my soul is dead." - Clot-Shot Trial Victim Unjabbed, untested, unafraid. |
bavaria777
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 84004881 United States 08/13/2022 10:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Our Daughter who is 38 has moved back into our house and lives in the basement. Here is the problem. Don't enable her. Tell her she has to work. Give her a time frame. Tell her she needs to have a job ...any job....within a month. And she's expected to pay rent. If you go soft on her, she'll stay and mooch off you forever. If she's depressed and traumatized, tell her to see a counselor or a hypnotist. A hypnotist can help remove trauma faster. |
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