Domestic Men with Children how do you cope? | |
LittleMe
I don’t want flowers when I die… User ID: 79983911 United States 04/06/2021 10:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Does your wife stay at home with the children? |
ChefElvis
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REaliZe
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kiqs
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kiqs
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~Wisper~
Forum Administrator 04/06/2021 10:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. To know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders. A rock in bad hands killed Abel. A rock in good hands killed Goliath. It isn't about the rock. A true warrior fights not because he hates the one in front of him, but because he loves those behind him. INTP-A |
TheEmptyChild
User ID: 29469609 United States 04/06/2021 10:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Does she spend a lot of time on Facebook? It's a serious question. I've seen this with friends. |
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BasiliusValentinus
User ID: 45290091 United States 04/06/2021 10:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It sounds like you described a god 20 years of my life. Advocating was just the beginning it got worse. It became defending the children and finally protecting the children. Cope? If your situation does not improve coping will turn into how did you all survive. How was you able to save yourself and the kids. And stay alive with sanity intact. I pray your just venting not every situations the same. I would suggest counseling if it's that bad. If the other refuses or in some cases goes along but tries to turn therapist against you or get them to chose sides or favor. I suggest you get a very strong separation plan in place. Document record if you have to any verbal abuse or blow ups that take place. Crappy thing to do I know but wish I had. If she's anything that I'm hoping is not. You have a very ruff ride ahead. The kids are of the utmost importance. Yes they need they're Mother but not if they are put beneath her and targets of abuse of any kind. It's hard to do because naturally they love her no matter how they're treated. But miserable suffering existence in not in any ones best interest Ever. Well, you heard about the Boston Honey, it's not one of those |
CherryPoodoo
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pish
Turtle Hermit User ID: 78227579 United States 04/06/2021 10:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why did you give her the power to do this to you? If your smart, you’ll reign her in and get her housebroken. Get the kids involved too, it’s thier family too...peace needs to be achieved. If she’s completely feral, you need to quickly move assets where she cant get them, and give an ultimatum, and see what she does. This cycle is how women give men heart attacks at 50, and then lie to themselves thinking they were always the “good wife”. Fuck that shit. Always remember these words: Work hard, study well, and eat and sleep plenty! That is the Turtle Hermit way! We must master the art of peace in addition to the art of war! |
Bloody Peasant!
User ID: 75284939 United States 04/06/2021 10:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You sound like my brother in law This business will get out of control. It will get out of control and we'll be lucky to live through it. -Admiral Josh Painter The past was alterable. The past never had been altered. Oceania was at war with Eastasia. Oceania had always been at war with Eastasia. -Orwell Bloody Peasant |
the deplorable ar-15 nut
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Micdub
User ID: 15128405 United States 04/06/2021 10:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Damn bro, that's a rough situation you have there. I don't know anything about that life but good luck. |
Zebster
User ID: 79772691 Australia 04/06/2021 10:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Get her to go on a higher dose of the pill. It’s a hormone problem. BTW if you think her emotions are on hair trigger now, you haven’t seen anything, just wait for the menapause... HRT hormone replacement therapy is needed. Zebra |
Fun Skeptic
User ID: 80192759 United States 04/06/2021 10:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Balance it out with your foot. Put it down where it really is. Listen to her but also call her out politely on the BS especially when it’s out of hand and let her know it’s driving you away. Remind her how hard you work not to expect that shit (in better words). Ask her (when she’s calmer) what the hell is on her mind to make her so emotional as you perceive it (in better words). Talk it out a litttle with her. If she’s relatively normal she’ll feel a little better before becoming emotional again, buying you time to have your peace before being reminded what you married in to. And have a beer. “Oh, What a feeling! “ -Toyota |
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Woke Pundit
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OldCar
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CherryPoodoo
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OldCar
User ID: 78810024 04/06/2021 11:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if you cant convince her to do that. you could sit her down with a glass of wine and set her straight. but yeah get on page with the kids. start gathering up the kids and taking them to the park. get a sixer and a mug to pour the beers into. give her space as much as you possibly can and maybe she will see the error of her ways. |
NoFriendOfTheWorld
User ID: 76558269 United States 04/06/2021 11:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. OP, watch this: [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] Then have your wife watch this: [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] |
OldCar
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NoFriendOfTheWorld
User ID: 76558269 United States 04/06/2021 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. OP, watch this: [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] Then have your wife watch this: [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] You won't find sanity any other way. |
EyeVommit
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Seething
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My Fear
User ID: 78974975 United States 04/06/2021 11:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your kids are still too young and the statics are against them and you if you divorce her now. Sounds like you married badly. She may have had a traumatic childhood and thus has developed borderline personality disorder or she is the histrionic type. First.. you can't fix her. All you can do is set up boundaries. You could try and rent another smaller household to set up and be apart form her time to time. Like a one bedroom with pool for the kids if you ever need to bug out. I doubt you can afford it though. So seriously... First, you need to see a psychiatrist that you trust and you think your wife may trust. Tell them your observations. He may mention meds for your wife or for you.. (Ha-ha). They may recommend you to a psychologist or social worker for family/ marriage counseling. Then you need to have a talk with your wife. You need to be blunt with her. Tell her your other friends are not having the same issue. It is not normal and she is a unique and special person you are concerned about too. Then you need to book and appointment for the both of you to set up with a better plan of how to do things in your household. It is going to take work. But, so she can calm down and be angary at someone else you need a referee. After that you need to talk to a good divorce lawyer and try to figure out over the long haul how to get out of dodge with this marriage. You are married to someone that will never be happy. So you either have to accept that fact and live with it or move on. The sad part is your kids are being traumatized and may pick up these same behaviors. So when she goes all emotional on you, teased the kids behind her back by copying her behavior. The kids will get the picture that it is her with the problem not them. Make them laugh about it. Laughter is the best cure for anything. Anyways, good luck. |
Patagonians
User ID: 80221167 Argentina 04/06/2021 11:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. I was thinking that those 3 things do not mix well with marriage, A big family with an unstable wife is everything but those 3 things. And when he gets to Heaven, to Saint Peter he will tell: "Just another soldier reporting, Sir. Ive served my time in Hell" |
My Fear
User ID: 78974975 United States 04/06/2021 11:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Get her to go on a higher dose of the pill. It’s a hormone problem. BTW if you think her emotions are on hair trigger now, you haven’t seen anything, just wait for the menapause... HRT hormone replacement therapy is needed. True, but hormones' therapy can back fire too. Too much estrogen or Testosterone can make her more depressed, aggressive, and angary. Have you tried a lot of more affection and hugs lately? She maybe feeling frightened and depressed with what she hears on the news all day. She does not know what to do. She may need to feel more secure like a little girl again in daddies arms. Perhaps reassurance that she is good and every thing is going to be OK. So , the next time you look at your wife having a tantrum, treat her like the four year old she is acting like. She might even enjoy a little spanking too. Do it playfully though. It will help her get out of herself. |