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Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?

 
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Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
Does your wife stay at home with the children?
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One child, pretty much an angel.


The wife and I argue sometimes, but she is no mental case.

And I, admittedly, have a temper.


But I just have to watch my mouth...not my fists.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
if life is a war... who chooses which battles you fight???

her... Or You?

You choose. Help the kids choose as well.
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if life is a war... who chooses which battles you fight???

her... Or You?

You choose. Help the kids choose as well.
 Quoting: kiqs


tho...

i'm no domestic
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All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk.

It's called life dude. Deal with it.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Does she spend a lot of time on Facebook? It's a serious question. I've seen this with friends.
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Divorce 1dunno1 sounds like you married a defective human
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
Wow if true very well put. I hope the best for your family.

It sounds like you described a god 20 years of my life. Advocating was just the beginning it got worse. It became defending the children and finally protecting the children.

Cope? If your situation does not improve coping will turn into how did you all survive. How was you able to save yourself and the kids. And stay alive with sanity intact.

I pray your just venting not every situations the same.

I would suggest counseling if it's that bad. If the other refuses or in some cases goes along but tries to turn therapist against you or get them to chose sides or favor. I suggest you get a very strong separation plan in place.

Document record if you have to any verbal abuse or blow ups that take place. Crappy thing to do I know but wish I had.

If she's anything that I'm hoping is not. You have a very ruff ride ahead.

The kids are of the utmost importance. Yes they need they're Mother but not if they are put beneath her and targets of abuse of any kind. It's hard to do because naturally they love her no matter how they're treated.

But miserable suffering existence in not in any ones best interest Ever.
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Lost me at wife. That is not compatible with tyranny communism.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
Why did you give her the power to do this to you?

If your smart, you’ll reign her in and get her housebroken. Get the kids involved too, it’s thier family too...peace needs to be achieved.

If she’s completely feral, you need to quickly move assets where she cant get them, and give an ultimatum, and see what she does.

This cycle is how women give men heart attacks at 50, and then lie to themselves thinking they were always the “good wife”.

Fuck that shit.
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You sound like my brother in law
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Damn bro, that's a rough situation you have there. I don't know anything about that life but good luck.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Get her to go on a higher dose of the pill. It’s a hormone problem. BTW if you think her emotions are on hair trigger now, you haven’t seen anything, just wait for the menapause... HRT hormone replacement therapy is needed.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Balance it out with your foot.
Put it down where it really is.
Listen to her but also call her out politely on the BS especially when it’s out of hand and let her know it’s driving you away.
Remind her how hard you work not to expect that shit (in better words).
Ask her (when she’s calmer) what the hell is on her mind to make her so emotional as you perceive it (in better words).
Talk it out a litttle with her.
If she’s relatively normal she’ll feel a little better before becoming emotional again, buying you time to have your peace before being reminded what you married in to.
And have a beer.
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Praying for you man. You can get through this. Your best bet is legal counsel and recording if you can (look into one-party recording laws) so you can defend yourself in court if need be.
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Shouldn't have put your dick in crazy, maybe?
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my wife smokes weed now she is much nicer.
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my wife smokes weed now she is much nicer.
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Shit - that is about the most positive thing I read on GLP today and I don't even smoke weed. Congrats dude!
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
if you cant convince her to do that. you could sit her down with a glass of wine and set her straight. but yeah get on page with the kids. start gathering up the kids and taking them to the park. get a sixer and a mug to pour the beers into. give her space as much as you possibly can and maybe she will see the error of her ways.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


OP, watch this:
[link to www.youtube.com (secure)]

Then have your wife watch this:
[link to www.youtube.com (secure)]
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Shouldn't have put your dick in crazy, maybe?
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well if i had a dollar for every time ive heard that...

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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


OP, watch this:
[link to www.youtube.com (secure)]

Then have your wife watch this:
[link to www.youtube.com (secure)]
 Quoting: NoFriendOfTheWorld


You won't find sanity any other way.
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Move on. Not all people are superstars. Take what you get and trash the rest. Her junk belongs to her. Don’t apologize for being a dude as the kids need a dad. Remind her of that fact.
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go get a gallon of milk and never go back home
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
Your kids are still too young and the statics are against them and you if you divorce her now. Sounds like you married badly. She may have had a traumatic childhood and thus has developed borderline personality disorder or she is the histrionic type. First.. you can't fix her. All you can do is set up boundaries. You could try and rent another smaller household to set up and be apart form her time to time. Like a one bedroom with pool for the kids if you ever need to bug out. I doubt you can afford it though. So seriously...

First, you need to see a psychiatrist that you trust and you think your wife may trust. Tell them your observations. He may mention meds for your wife or for you.. (Ha-ha). They may recommend you to a psychologist or social worker for family/ marriage counseling.

Then you need to have a talk with your wife. You need to be blunt with her. Tell her your other friends are not having the same issue. It is not normal and she is a unique and special person you are concerned about too. Then you need to book and appointment for the both of you to set up with a better plan of how to do things in your household. It is going to take work. But, so she can calm down and be angary at someone else you need a referee.

After that you need to talk to a good divorce lawyer and try to figure out over the long haul how to get out of dodge with this marriage. You are married to someone that will never be happy. So you either have to accept that fact and live with it or move on. The sad part is your kids are being traumatized and may pick up these same behaviors.

So when she goes all emotional on you, teased the kids behind her back by copying her behavior. The kids will get the picture that it is her with the problem not them. Make them laugh about it. Laughter is the best cure for anything.

Anyways, good luck.
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Re: Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk.

It's called life dude. Deal with it.
 Quoting: ~Wisper~


I was thinking that those 3 things do not mix well with marriage,

A big family with an unstable wife is everything but those 3 things.
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All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.

She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.

I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.

How do you cope?

I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
 Quoting: The_Meridian


Get her to go on a higher dose of the pill. It’s a hormone problem. BTW if you think her emotions are on hair trigger now, you haven’t seen anything, just wait for the menapause... HRT hormone replacement therapy is needed.
 Quoting: Zebster


True, but hormones' therapy can back fire too. Too much estrogen or Testosterone can make her more depressed, aggressive, and angary.

Have you tried a lot of more affection and hugs lately? She maybe feeling frightened and depressed with what she hears on the news all day. She does not know what to do. She may need to feel more secure like a little girl again in daddies arms. Perhaps reassurance that she is good and every thing is going to be OK. So , the next time you look at your wife having a tantrum, treat her like the four year old she is acting like. She might even enjoy a little spanking too. Do it playfully though. It will help her get out of herself.





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