How do you COPE with the death of a LOVED one?

Grieve…

Cry your guts out until all the tears are gone. If you don’t you will get depressed.

My dad passed 13 years ago and it feels like yesterday. I love him so much!
Like Scrump said I know I wll see him again, and that he is around. But still does not ease the pain.

But times makes you conform to the realization he is no longer around. First year I cried everyday. I don't anymore.

I will pray you find comfort in his memory. And that the Lord is present there with you in these times.

Bury them and move on...

Easy.
Nobody dies, we are eternal. Once you realize this, it doesn't bother you. I learned this after a couple of deaths.
If you are afraid of being alone, then that's your major problem and not too much the idea of somebody dying.

Plus, acceptance to the fact that we all have death guarantee.

We all miss someone's physical body. But you don't need to see them and can keep good memories alive.

You hit the nail on the head there dear Dreaming. It is hard - there is a huge sense of loss, and one alternative is to try and fill that hole. But it is an impossible search, because we are all unique and no-one can be "replaced". The key is to focus on loving rather than being loved. It is right to cherish memories, but if the past dominates the present, we will not be alive to the opportunities and wonderful new experiences which lie in wait for us.

Losing a child may be one of the hardest things one can go through: in such cases it will help to acknowledge that this soul had a specific purpose in life - however long or short that life may be - which includes a learning purpose for others. If we ourselves are convinced that we have a specific and important task in life, then nothing will be able to deter us from that course, which ultimately leads to fulfillment, whether we are on a "lonely path" or not. Much love to all here who have suffered such losses, and wishing you much strength to move forward.

I don't

It's actually quite simple,but not easy.
Death is a fact of life.
EVERYTHING alive will die.
So when you hear people say "if something were to happen to me " well you know they and those around them are the type that are going to suffer the worst when it DOES .
BECAUSE my friends it's not IF it's WHEN .
YOU YOUR CHILDREN YOUR GRANDCHILDREN YOUR PARENTS YOU FRIENDS AND EVERYONE YOU WILL EVER KNOW SEE AND HEAR OF WILL DIE .. FACT.
if you don't live with that then your living in a delusion.
Once you accept what I'm saying,once it becomes real and true the SOME of the sting of death is removed.
It's just enough to make the difference of living with grief bearable.

Be thankful for the time you had with your loved one.
Every single hour and day is a blessing and you need to start to treat them as if that is true BECAUSE IT IS .
Once they are gone they are GONE .
as the Bible states CLEARLY " the dead no nothing at all"
Will we meet them again? Hopefully.
But until then cherish what you have ,morn what you have lost and accept reality it's easy SLIGHTLY easier to deal with death if you do .

With honour by living your own life.

The words of Yeshua Hamashiach,,,I know that I will be with them again!

It took me years to cope with it. 10 maybe from my mom dying and even since then I get weird around death, I just don't like the thought of people missing out on experiences. Sucks man

My Mom dies recently. 4 years back my father. Father was "easier" to cope with because Mom was still alive. Now it feels very bad. I'm just trying to keep busy between crying breakdowns every other day.

While I've lost many relatives and friends I've never lost a parent, a wife, or a child of mine.

My parents will sting when that day finally comes, I mean their my parents.

But the ones that would just absolutely devastate me is my wife and kids.

I hope and pray I go first before them. Not just because if anyone is going fo die in my home, I want it to be me....

But also because I am just not ready to try and cope, deal with, or heal from the loss of my wife or one of my children.

I don't think I could even be consoled. Actually I'm pretty sure I'd take up drinking again if its one of my kids.

If it is my wife, I probably wouldn't come back from that. I would probably just drop dead of a broken heart.

Wow! This thread comes up.. Just yesterday I sent a gift to a childhood friend who Lost his son a year ago. Makes me cry even now thinking about it. He always wanted my High school jersey from 50’years ago when we played football. He played college football for Bear Bryant at Alabama which were Red colored jerseys being our school was also Red and I had his # jersey. I sent that to him with a note telling him I think of him of his loss of his son it’s been now over a year plus now. Such a loss to a dear friend I wanted him to Know even after all the sorrows were given by the hundreds a year or so ago I wanted At least for a day that he and his son haven’t been forgotten.
To me having felt the pains of loved ones lost, after the grieving, nobody makes contact with you again I guess your expected to be good with it all and let it go— they are left with only the things we said a year or years ago. Just a simple note is all that’s needed tell them We care for this person and we in a way help Lift the burden to know they don’t suffer alone and not
Forgotten.

you never truly get over it but, you learn how to deal with the loss better each day. it may take weeks or months to see an improvement but it does eventually come.

try not to spiral into some drug using, alcohol drinking, ssri
pill popping mess. you dont need another hole to climb out of.
feel, remember, talk with people who will listen and counsel you. quality over quantity.

its never easy.. but death is inevitable for us all. its part of this experience.

Grief is very personal and private. You cope the best way you can.

The grief you feel is yours alone to manage.

Peace to you.

You listen to The Blue Hour (album) by Rexxliferaj on repeat. Unless you aren’t into hiphop; in that case, you hold it together and hope yall meet again one day.

If it's someone really really close to you, someone that's been a part of your everyday life, and then suddenly they are gone be prepared that initially you could actually feel physical pain in your chest or heart, it might even cause your blood pressure to spike. If this happens to some extent psychologically your mind responds to this like an involuntary muscle to shield you from it and causes you to go into a kind of shock where you can't feel anything. You might wonder what's wrong with you because you aren't crying and you are ignoring that the fact that they are gone so that you can get things done. This may last a few days or weeks until some time has passed and you've grown used to that person not being there enough that it doesn't cause you physical pain. Once you have over come the shock you will be able to cry and mourn and think about your loved one and all your memories of them.

Never let anyone tell you you've mourned for too long, or to get over it. There is no limit to how long one might mourn, it's different for everyone. The truth is you never get over it, you just learn to live with it. In some cases it's impossible, like if it was your child, and depending how they died, if it was natural causes, or there is a reasonable explanation how they died it's much easier to learn to live with it, but if they died prematurely in a way that was someone or something was at fault and it could have been avoided, then it's much harder to learn to live with it. You will be constantly digressing back to the bargaining stage of grief. As time goes on you do it less and less, if ever.

If you can learn to live with it, then you're much better off, but if something is preventing you from doing it then you may need to find someone you can talk to about it, or perhaps join a grief counseling group.

I lost my Dad in May

What I felt compelled to do, is make a shrine for him. I adorned it with photos, mementos, plants, candles, his remains and a nice mantle piece.

For Me, it helps a lot. I feel I can talk to him through it as it was borne of Love

There's nothing you can do to change what happened, but you can make the circumstances a little better.

Faith for me. It’s hard but I’ve got faith

My dad passed last July, I can't even imagine the loss of my mom right now.

Been since 16' for me. I hear the grief waves will never really stop, but may calm a bit later.

Know the truth....your next....and the universe is too grand for there not to be something else

I'm not affected as much when a human dies. But losing a pet hurts much more. I think this is because I respect animals much more than humans. This is because pets are more loyal and trustworthy. They rarely become a pain in my ass. They are more obedient and well behaving. And they don't make so many demands of me.

Anyhow, when a pet dies, I acquire another. When a human dies, I try to recall all the reasons I'm glad they are out of my life.

Lost many to death. It is never easy.

Go get some pussy, it helps a little.

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I didn't cope
when my family members where murdered
(by the Deep State)

I fell into a void, deepest hell
I died in my spirit...

I was bedridden for 2 years
due to shock / extreme PTSD,
after the Albanian Mafia -
(see the movie TAKEN with Liam Neeson)
They gang raped my sister
after she refused to traffick children
like a Gislaine Maxwell...

and she was found murdered on Christmas Day 2017
as a message to me
for me being a Whistleblower...

she was found murdered
hours after I was on a Patriot radioshow
dropping truther bombs...



I still have C-PTSD
I feel like a living dead, haunted...
Tornmented...
with only glimpses over the surface...

I'm Gangstalked of course, 24/7 monitored
Implanted, yes, I can't run & hide...
(Due to "evil smart dust", none of us can...)


But I try to go on and expose Them...

They're NOT human!!
They're demonized Extraterrestrials...
Earth is under siege...


I go on to help you, my Brothers and Sisters
who are also struggling truthers...


I'm changed forever...

They murdered my parents too
and my unborn child... (MILAB)

I ALMOST WENT INSANE...
Jesus protected and saved me...


Don't take over the pain of those who died
they're free from pain now...

Like Jesus said ~ be sad for the Living...

Keep fighting for the living
and to honour your dead loved ones.




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Last Edited by Amenti on 09/27/2022 07:48 AM

For one thing, get yourself to accept the fact that death is going to be COMMON for the next few years.

I had a family member die this week.

Sudden death... They "don't know the cause"

She died so fast that she was found still in her chair at her computer.


What has been causing "sudden adult death" lately???

Hmmm...


I know at least half a dozen adults that dropped dead this year. Can't say I'm surprised when an outspoken trump hating live dies a week after the bivalent boosters come out.

Nice lady. Too bad.

I was not caught off guard.

I actually mourned many people who are still alive already when I figured out just what we are facing. I know it sounds a tad dark... But hey, here we are.

I spend allot of time trying to excape reality and my thoughts are cartoonish much of the time, it's the filter I intentionally use to put "reality" through and keeps me sane.

Makes me seem stupid and moronic to others but whatever.

But DEATH is the one thing that does not go thru that filter and that's when I get the full brunt effect of reality and crushes my otherwise protected core ten-fold.

For me there is only pure Bereavement I look for NO ways to cope.

Sorry for your loss, my husband passed away in May, I am going to a griefshare program. It has helped a lot, but honestly I think it will be with me for the rest of my life. Just take it moment by moment and go easy on yourself.

You learn to manage the pain of the loss because it never goes away. Sometimes you just have to bury it deep down so it doesn't drive you into complete insanity, other times you can think about the good times when they were here.


It doesn't get better we just learn to manage the pain and not having them around anymore. People say "time heals" are full of shit, time just teaches us how much we don't really know.

My parents were together since age 16 and dad passed when 84. Mom had a rough go of it as they were very close and best friends. After his death she put together a group of single friends.. all who lost their spouse and met with them daily for lunch at the Cheyanne. She also volunteered with another friend to read to the little ones a few times a week at the local school. Then there were church and we held a number of masses for dad which helped ease her heart. She adopted a cat to have someone to talk too while at home. The cat helped provide some in-house companionship. Volunteering to help others is another way to help cope. I think when she took her morning cup of coffee out onto the deck and look out across at the pond is also a time she would just talk to dad. His presence was often around for a time afterwards... then not so much. She passed on 4 years later. That's another story... I didn't do so well with her death. Living 3k miles away and having a little one at home helped. Yet it took years and lots of tears. Now I'm happy for her. I still miss her as we moved back home next door to the ranch. So there are still days when driving past their old driveway when I have sense of loss in my chest remembering when they were there. Sad. And happy to be living next to where they loved it the most.