GLP AFTER DARK ~~Discussion ~~ Are You A Cheater?

Come on guys. Who hasn't f'k their best friend's wife every once in a while?

Ha, I kept that hair style until I was 35. My daughter was happy when I decided to grow it out.

a glp'er a month or so ago hadda thread - u take ur vows seriouslY??

this tv show cheaters shoulda answered that thread

I live in a Navy town and some of the stories are crazy. Some of these women have screwed everybody in town while their husband was at sea. I have been in my the middle before, too. I just said I'm staying out and never said a word.

This was years ago, but I don't imagine it's much better now.

grew mine out
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Gorgeous!

Mine is pretty close to all one length now to my butt. This is me about 15 years ago.

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The question that I have is whether Men or women are more likely to Cheat? It is certainly easier for women to cheat since it is just easier to get a man to fuck her..unless she is incredibly ugly or fat. men have to work harder to get women to have sex...unless I suppose he's a Chad.

By all rights, my ex might have cheated on me because she would have complaints that I would just ignore. Now I regret that and wish I hadn't. I don't know if she did or not but I never caught her. Today, women seem to use inattention as an excuse to cheat.

cheaters are lowlifes.
just have an open relationship and it wont be cheating and you wont be disrespecting the one person you supposedly care about
its pretty simple.
it involves self respect too tho. and many seem to not have much of that.

And if youre one of those who doesnt like their relationship, just end it. dont be a dick. how hard can it be smdh

Best way I can put it, cheating is the ultimate form of narcissism. The amount of pain that it produces isn't rivaled by much. Except in extremely rare circumstances, think flying pigs, it is unforgivable.

I think it's easy for a woman who is married to a good provider to use the excuse that's she's not getting enough attention. I've seen a few of those.

I think they just wants to hang on to his money and lifestyle and have sex with other men, too.

ahahahahahah thats how i had my fkn hair!!!!!

Oops, think I meant to quote you instead. The husband is busy working hard to provide and the wife uses to that as an excuse to cheat.
It's fucked up!

We were talking about it on an 80s thread I think. All the cans and cans of aqua net I used.

Only a cheater would start a thread like this to make it seem ok in their own fucked up head.

we used "stiff stuff" that shit gave us the punk spikey hair

lol, even a lot of the guys used it. There was also some foam crap that was popular. You could spray it in your hand and run it through your hair and comb it while wet, then, let the stuff firm up and then you comb it just a bit more so it relaxed just a bit but still held it's form, but still had some give.

Lol, back when I cared about hair..... Now, I just cut it as short as I can. heh.

I used gel, LA Looks maybe? whatever was cheap!

Then there was the crimper phase. I'm surprised my hair didn't fall out!

I'm out. Have a great night!

Divorces come out of nowhere for a guy. I think we just had a thread where 70% of all divorces were filed by women and up to 90% of divorces of college educated women were filed by women.

Men seem to be just goofing along, not suspecting nothing, thinking everything is ok, and Boom. I want a divorce, Herbert!.

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Some affairs last for months, even for years, and the cheater just lies to their partner's face. Gaslights them. Tells them they're being childish to suspect anything is wrong just because they came home at 3am.

The internet made it more ugly and easy to cheat. Chatrooms, secret forums. Digital cheating. Gaming like the Simms. Yes the dating apps they have just for cheaters. It's all debauchery at it's finest and accepted as normal.

People actually argue that petting isn't cheating.
Talking to another privately in a chatroom isn't cheating.

That's narcisssm. And these people should be taken to the cleaners in divorce court.

If it's a BF/GF relationship, I'd test the courts with breach of contract.

Yes, that's true. My husband has been writing to this woman I guess for years now, sending her gifts and things. Very tender, romantic messages. I never got those. He used to be with her years ago, as I say. His parents broke things up somehow because they wouldn't accept her. They wouldn't accept me either but I said fuck them and didn't give a shit. That was way before I found out though. I've been with him for over 20 years and he's not the kind of guy you'd expect to do this. I was so shocked when I found out.

As I said before, I also caught him on a dating site. I forgave him and then I found out he still does this. I don't know why. Maybe he does it to feel sexy. He tells me he loves me so I don't know why he does these things but you can't control someone else. As I say, I have not been able to do anything about this, at least not until I get my money. I do believe he loves me but....I don't understand what it is with this woman. I've had exes of course, and once we were through, I never went after them again. It really just never occurred to me as I always move forward.

You also made the other comment about how men get blindsided by thinking everything is okay and the cheating and divorce come out of the blue. I think that is true, it does seem to happen more with men. I think men are much easier to please than women in general. Women are more secretive and play the "read my mind" game. I hate that bullshit myself. In fact, I don't much like other women at all, especially when I find they've abused their husbands. I've seen that a number of times. My husband is secretive like a woman and I hate that. Maybe we're just not really suited to each other but just kind of fell in together and settled.

At this point, I mainly try to give my husband his privacy and I don't deliberately look for anything. I don't want to know more. I wish things had turned out differently and I feel like I've wasted all these years, but that's life. Hopefully I can turn things around in the future.....before WW3 hits, LOL.

The thing that I mind the most is the sense of wasted time, especially now that I am older. If I'd found out 15 years or more ago, I could be with someone else now, things might have been very different and better. Nobody ever thinks this is gonna happen to them.

thats emotional cheating tho. you deserve better hun

You're a bigger person than me. If my person did that, they'd be doing that shit from the sidewalk.

Absolutely. Do most women and men go out with their co workers to a bar to drink? If you're single, no problem, but I don't think it's a good idea for married women or men to do that.
Call me a controlling asshole, but my ex wanted to start going to the bar with her co-workers and I said no. She felt like I kept her from advancing in management by my refusing to let her drink after work. I felt like it would have sooner or later led to our divorce. Of course, she could have done it anyway, but we probably would have divorced at that point.
I said that I don't think she cheated, but she did throw up one red flag. Before we got married she brought up having an open relationship. She might have already been having an open relationship, I don't know, but I refused any part of it. I
still wonder today if she had a person in mind that she was doing or wanted to do.

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Thank you, Phen. I guess I thought I'd got beyond that point but now that I'm writing it out, I feel very sad about this. I'm kind of surprised that this has made me cry as I thought I was over that. I do deserve more. Well, maybe we just were never right for each other, I just wish I'd known earlier. I'm in my 60s now and it's hard to start over but maybe there will be someone out there who will make me feel special. I do actually think he loves me in his way, but, I dunno, he just doesn't make me feel like that and when I've found these things out (he relies on me to fix his electronics when he can't as I'm very techy so I find these things - it's not like he hides it well), it just makes me feel like I've really failed at something essential in life. Or maybe he's just an asshole, lol. That's the most likely explanation.

I'm really looking forward to having some resources to maybe live a different life in the next year. If Biden doesn't wreck the economy even more!

Well....I have had serious health issues and have not been able to work and I have no family so....I've been kind of stuck. It wasn't like that when I first found out, and I forgave him. I was so angry and I know I scared the shit out of him as I have an awful temper - I gave him a rough few weeks but I guess I loved him then, and I forgave him. But after finding this again, and more.....well, he has many good points, but I don't think relationships are one of them. I could turn nasty or vengeful, but I've never found that really works and I don't want to be an asshole myself. I just think the best revenge is to live a good life and that's what I hope to do. I'm not necessarily against revenge, LOL, but I just don't like elaborate plans - I tend to blow up and things and then forget about them. I've probably been too forgiving of a lot of things.

Anyway, based on my experience I would say....when you first find this shit out....get out then. I don't think it gets any better for most people. Someone who does shit like this has psychological problems you can't cure or handle. It's just part of their fucked up make-up. All you can do is escape. So RUNNNNNNNN!!!!!! Get out as fast as you can if this is happening to any of you! Don't bother trying to change it or make it better, I don't think that generally works.

bottom line - the consensus is theres no justifying cheating.

if thats the relationship u want u gotta say so n afford the other involved party to opt out.

yanno back in i think it was 83 before i moved to virginia we were on furlough at the irs, so i took a bookkeeping job at this place in hauppauge. this dude bobby asked me out.

he was the mgr for the mfr line 2nd shift. everybody KNEW n nobody said a word.

went for a drink around the corner where everybody went.
2nd date same.
3rd date went for a drive and parked up at bald hill in farmingville, 6 pack thing.
4th date he took me back to his house. lights were off in the bdroom. i didnt see a thing.

went to the bathroom and left light on....right fucking there on his nightstand was a picture of HIS FUCKING WIFE n him!

i was mortified. i was ashamed. i was pissed. said i had to leave.

the next day i made several xerox copies
BOBBY CHEATS ON HIS WIFE , posted them everywhere in the plant
fukker comes in 4pm i leave 430pm
i also taped one to the passenger side of his car too

i quit the job.

Some guys that did got a bullet through their heads.

I hate to say this but I think when someone brings up the open relationship idea....they are already cheating or have someone in mind. At the very least, they are saying YOU are not enough for them. I'd take them at the word and flee. Open relationships never work out, it's just a patchwork on a dead or dying marriage.

I don't personally believe that married women should go to bars and hang out with their girlfriends or certainly other men. Or go on girls weekends and stuff like that. Too many of these turn bawdy and become cheating fests. Also so many women have disrespect for their men that I don't think it's too hard for a lot of them to cheat. I was always a conservative person and never sought to run around. Maybe I should have!