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Overcoming the need for being surrounded by people is one of the greatest liberations to be had.

It means when you choose to share your time with someone it’s much more meaningful because it’s not borne from a need not to be alone.
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Goodbye, halcyon days...

 There is a theory which states that if ever anyone discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable.

There is another theory mentioned, which states that this has already happened.
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It is easy to forget as we get into our later years what we were like when we were young and the mistakes, we made along the way driven by hormones, rebellion, ignorance, bad choices and inexperience when given the opportunity.
We worked, learned skills and did as we were told due to a heavy hand, "do your chores, do this and do not do that" etc or get your ass whipped with serious consequences. We cannot take credit for a more disciplinary structured upbring that most of us resented at the time. LOL

Now days that is considered abuse, and the hormonal rampaging unstructured behavior is allowed to go unchecked without the historical family and social authoritarian discipline and restraints.

Young people are controlled by their hormones more powerful than drugs, unaware of it and unable to control themselves, without protective restraints, forced work ethics and disciplinary demands that teach skilled self-discipline.

Left unchecked and to their own impulses' youth can become a disaster on the scale of lord of the flies.
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Good point flower

But even as a young woman I was a bit of a loner, but you are right about the hormones, thank God that's over, lol.
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I am so glad that part of my life is over too. People do not understand how much control hormones have over life, your emotions, thoughts and actions until they subside in your later years for both men and women.

I wished there was cure for that even when I was younger and was aware of my undesirable hormonal disturbances.
We need a pill for that.
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Don't surround yourself with anyone that's not family.

Everyone else is just a stranger.
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Surround yourself with good people… Surround yourself with those who lift you up… Surround yourself with those who have your back…

The kids these days (I’m 56 so those 20+ years younger than me) post these memes all the time as they speak of their struggles and depression. And I can’t help but think how narcissistic these phrases are, and how they push the idea that we can’t be whole unless we are surrounded by people. Never is the idea expressed that they should step out of themselves and help others, it’s always about others doing for them, and it’s being accepted as wise advice and a good idea.

People who can’t spend time alone, those who need to have others around all the time, just never seem to grow up. It’s as though they enter adulthood looking for a parent or a savior, and when these figments of a broken reality don’t do just as they expect, making them feel good about themselves, then they are hurt, angry, and more depressed than ever.

Where have the ideas of figuring out your own strengths and talents gone? No one outside of you is going to give you that, no person knows what your special reason for being here is, so the whole idea of surrounding yourself is just another broad path leading you away from yourself, and the reasons you even exist. Giving others so much power over your emotions, your feelings of worth and belonging, is a short road to failure. Not to mention, putting your weight on others while you feel entitled to have them lift you up is selfish and narcissistic.

I don’t get it. If you can’t be alone, and have to be surrounded by others all the time to feel complete, you’re not gonna make it. You just become a drain on everyone in your sphere. Instead of surrounding yourself, you should be separating yourself and figuring out who you are, and what you could potentially do to help the world, instead of waiting for the world to lift you up.

/end rant
 Quoting: Turtle Flower


Excellent Post!
You are very correct. Yes, surround yourself with good people, but do it to help them and lift their lives.

Thinking this way makes a strong individual, keeps people from relying on "systems" while also providing a ton of self confidence.

Interestingly, this goes directly against the goals of the public education system and overall political goals.
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Surround yourself with good people… Surround yourself with those who lift you up… Surround yourself with those who have your back…

The kids these days (I’m 56 so those 20+ years younger than me) post these memes all the time as they speak of their struggles and depression. And I can’t help but think how narcissistic these phrases are, and how they push the idea that we can’t be whole unless we are surrounded by people. Never is the idea expressed that they should step out of themselves and help others, it’s always about others doing for them, and it’s being accepted as wise advice and a good idea.

People who can’t spend time alone, those who need to have others around all the time, just never seem to grow up. It’s as though they enter adulthood looking for a parent or a savior, and when these figments of a broken reality don’t do just as they expect, making them feel good about themselves, then they are hurt, angry, and more depressed than ever.

Where have the ideas of figuring out your own strengths and talents gone? No one outside of you is going to give you that, no person knows what your special reason for being here is, so the whole idea of surrounding yourself is just another broad path leading you away from yourself, and the reasons you even exist. Giving others so much power over your emotions, your feelings of worth and belonging, is a short road to failure. Not to mention, putting your weight on others while you feel entitled to have them lift you up is selfish and narcissistic.

I don’t get it. If you can’t be alone, and have to be surrounded by others all the time to feel complete, you’re not gonna make it. You just become a drain on everyone in your sphere. Instead of surrounding yourself, you should be separating yourself and figuring out who you are, and what you could potentially do to help the world, instead of waiting for the world to lift you up.

/end rant
 Quoting: Turtle Flower


Dennis Prager's "Happiness Is A Serious Problem" should be mandatory reading in high school, and I recommend it for anyone...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Yes! That book talks about exactly what this discussion is covering. We have so much in terms of technology and the connectedness it brings, yet many young people don't have an authentic relationship with themselves and their innate spiritual godliness. It is said if you don't love yourself you can't love others. We are ultimately here to lift each other up as human beings.....which is not the energy put out at many protests or when we have the simple disagreements with others.

I firmly believe that it all stems with a lack of knowledge of the spiritual side of life. If we collectively had grasp of those concepts, we would be treating each other like the gods in making we are!
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Overcoming the need for being surrounded by people is one of the greatest liberations to be had.

It means when you choose to share your time with someone it’s much more meaningful because it’s not borne from a need not to be alone.
 Quoting: VampPatriot


Well said!

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Don't surround yourself with anyone that's not family.

Everyone else is just a stranger.
 Quoting: Patagonians


That is completely opposite of the consciousness needed for unconditional love of all......that is akin to hearing others say they hate people....like hearing nails on a chalk board to me!
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while you are partly right, the reason that my generation is so depressed is because they take TOO MUCH responsibility. They should be blaming the world more, not less, they should be more courageous in speaking up about their ideals, more aggressive, not less. It is the only way we can usher in a new world that isn't scary, but takes the best of every dualism.

So, instead of taking your frustrations to a forum where other boomers will only reply along the lines of 'oh yea this generation is f*cked, brainwashed retards', be honest about which specific person is triggering you, and talk to them! Real change comes from surrender, not resistance.

We're humans too you know, inside us is exactly the same essence perceiving it all. Not that different at all.
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I am a loner. People who interest me are very creative or highly intelligent so the conversations are informational and about subjects other than self. I am kind though, and because of it...

I seem to attract people who need other people desperately and who have a ton of issues they want to talk about. My neighbor will work two jobs, 70 hour week, and then come straight to my house to talk until she's too exhausted to do anything but fall in bed fully dressed. Poor hygiene, poor diet, zero self-betterment... and I don't know how to help her grow out of that. She's nearly 40!

How can I help these "friends" who show no interest in me or what I'm doing, grow up and get their own lives?

I've tried lots of hugs, "how was your day" conversations, but it never gets past that. They want to stay in that zone where the attention is on them all the time.

I have wondered if it comes from being ignored as a child - but I'm not like that and I basically raised myself. I wondered if it was physical abuse, but I went through hell on that front too, and still prefer to be alone.

If you are that needy person - please tell me - what helps you get out of yourself and interested in life? What inspires you to be productive? What makes you feel confident and want to take care of yourself, eat well, etc?

How can I "wake up" my friends who hang out and talk while I work my butt off feeding them. What will make them "see" others and pitch in to help?
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Surround yourself with good people… Surround yourself with those who lift you up… Surround yourself with those who have your back…

The kids these days (I’m 56 so those 20+ years younger than me) post these memes all the time as they speak of their struggles and depression. And I can’t help but think how narcissistic these phrases are, and how they push the idea that we can’t be whole unless we are surrounded by people. Never is the idea expressed that they should step out of themselves and help others, it’s always about others doing for them, and it’s being accepted as wise advice and a good idea.

People who can’t spend time alone, those who need to have others around all the time, just never seem to grow up. It’s as though they enter adulthood looking for a parent or a savior, and when these figments of a broken reality don’t do just as they expect, making them feel good about themselves, then they are hurt, angry, and more depressed than ever.

Where have the ideas of figuring out your own strengths and talents gone? No one outside of you is going to give you that, no person knows what your special reason for being here is, so the whole idea of surrounding yourself is just another broad path leading you away from yourself, and the reasons you even exist. Giving others so much power over your emotions, your feelings of worth and belonging, is a short road to failure. Not to mention, putting your weight on others while you feel entitled to have them lift you up is selfish and narcissistic.

I don’t get it. If you can’t be alone, and have to be surrounded by others all the time to feel complete, you’re not gonna make it. You just become a drain on everyone in your sphere. Instead of surrounding yourself, you should be separating yourself and figuring out who you are, and what you could potentially do to help the world, instead of waiting for the world to lift you up.

/end rant
 Quoting: Turtle Flower



Where has that idea of doing for oneself gone you ask?

Well government-run schools and social media has eradicated the notion, that’s where!!

AKK conditioning, brainwashing on a mass societal scale.

First step is to put the social media DOWN and stop the memes.

PERIOD.

Notice that doesn’t require abandoning the phones. Make calls, text, research the web, just stay OFF social media.

The schools are a larger uphill battle.

Oh, that and the fact these messed-up “kids” will soon have teenage kids of their own to repeat the cycle of inevitable doom?
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Don't surround yourself with anyone that's not family.

Everyone else is just a stranger.
 Quoting: Patagonians


That is completely opposite of the consciousness needed for unconditional love of all......that is akin to hearing others say they hate people....like hearing nails on a chalk board to me!
 Quoting: a follower of the way


I neither want or need unconditional love of all.

My hippy days are over.

It's my choice.

Some things/people are inherently unlovable.

To each his own.
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And to answer this from my perspective:

My son has a male friend who had a rough childhood that raps about it in his songs. He always asks me what I think of his music.
All of his music is about being a victim, like a lot of the rap out there. Very heart wrenching music.
He is very self-centered and I am afraid a product of his up bringing.
How do you help these kids get out of this funk?
 Quoting: Debbie 83907984


Generally, people who have been through abuse are looking for the correct emotional response to what happened to them. They are looking for it in you. Do you think it was fine, or horrible?

An opinion, stated seriously: "Yeah, your music reveals a lot of injustice and pain. I hate that you went through terrible things and I wish I could have been there to pull you out of it."

Those words actually go into a dictionary of definitions in the brain of the abused person, defining what happened. They need to outweigh all the other responses that person might have heard: "you don't matter, it doesn't matter, so what, big deal..."

Your words can outweigh the lies by coming from someone who has personal value, competence in life, but also by coming with knowledge: "Violence against a child is wrong because they cannot defend themselves. God says it is better to have a heavy stone hung around your neck and be thrown into the sea than to do harm to a child. He's that pissed about child abuse."

Once your position is clear, and the guy is satisfied with your response, introduce the idea of getting past his pain with words that don't imply judgement. Ask every now and then, "So, how are you doing now? Are you in a safe place now? I hope you are in a place where you can heal and grow."

It is important for someone who has been through abuse to learn the difference between "THEN" and "NOW" and to learn how to look at the past without bringing it into the present.

Hope that helps.
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As parents, it's ok to let your child see you down or sad, if it is resolved quickly. Living in a depressed state around your family will cause them stress and unhappiness too...So if you are not happy, fake it around your family if you have to...
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This is very true. It spreads like a disease. Many traits do. Unhealthy eating habits spread. Smoking spreads. Dislike of education spreads. Soon, nothing but misery.
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it's a generation lead and dominated by those with narcissistic personality disorder and such degeneracy is the social ideal of modern times.

they derive their sense of self from other's fawning so that's why they can't stand solitude, where they see themselves for the degenerates they are.
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Surround yourself with good people… Surround yourself with those who lift you up… Surround yourself with those who have your back…

The kids these days (I’m 56 so those 20+ years younger than me) post these memes all the time as they speak of their struggles and depression. And I can’t help but think how narcissistic these phrases are, and how they push the idea that we can’t be whole unless we are surrounded by people. Never is the idea expressed that they should step out of themselves and help others, it’s always about others doing for them, and it’s being accepted as wise advice and a good idea.

People who can’t spend time alone, those who need to have others around all the time, just never seem to grow up. It’s as though they enter adulthood looking for a parent or a savior, and when these figments of a broken reality don’t do just as they expect, making them feel good about themselves, then they are hurt, angry, and more depressed than ever.

Where have the ideas of figuring out your own strengths and talents gone? No one outside of you is going to give you that, no person knows what your special reason for being here is, so the whole idea of surrounding yourself is just another broad path leading you away from yourself, and the reasons you even exist. Giving others so much power over your emotions, your feelings of worth and belonging, is a short road to failure. Not to mention, putting your weight on others while you feel entitled to have them lift you up is selfish and narcissistic.

I don’t get it. If you can’t be alone, and have to be surrounded by others all the time to feel complete, you’re not gonna make it. You just become a drain on everyone in your sphere. Instead of surrounding yourself, you should be separating yourself and figuring out who you are, and what you could potentially do to help the world, instead of waiting for the world to lift you up.

/end rant
 Quoting: Turtle Flower


I agree with this, 100 percent! Good parenting is raising your child to be self sufficient in all areas of life.
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Where are the good people to surround with
Cant find any
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"Violence against a child is wrong because they cannot defend themselves. God says it is better to have a heavy stone hung around your neck and be thrown into the sea than to do harm to a child. He's that pissed about child abuse."
 Quoting: ArchimedesGirl


the reason being, childhood programs the person pretty much for life. some become permanent victims, some become abusers themselves. both ruined children that will ruin society. this is why "god", whatever it really is, is really pissed about it.
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Where are the good people to surround with
Cant find any
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I love loneliness. Actually, I don't need any people around, except my dog.
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I agree 100 percent op.

I lived with my cousin and his high school girlfriend for years. There for a good while it seemed genuine and wholesome, but something eventually changed in them.

They regressed in maturity.

She does all kinds of weird shit and he allows her to do it all without challenge. She runs the show.

She started pushing me away, going to raves, doing drugs, heavily drinking and watching "empowerment" videos and shit.

They've had multiple people stay with them like they are 15 years old when they are actually approaching 30.

Very heavy regression instead of maturing.

Your are exactly correct.

They remind me of teenagers with how they act honestly.

Couldn't take it anymore and got my own place.

I feel liberated. Less anxiety, less stress, more privacy, the ability to nature and grow into a meaningful man... Should've done it a long time ago.

She didn't much like when I told her all the drugs she's doing now to escape reality are going to catch up hard to her in due time.

The music at those festivals is demonic. The people that are all around them aren't really that great of friends. They all went and got matching tattoos and shit... Like what the fuck ever lol

A bunch of adult kids.
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Surround yourself with good people… Surround yourself with those who lift you up… Surround yourself with those who have your back…

The kids these days (I’m 56 so those 20+ years younger than me) post these memes all the time as they speak of their struggles and depression. And I can’t help but think how narcissistic these phrases are, and how they push the idea that we can’t be whole unless we are surrounded by people. Never is the idea expressed that they should step out of themselves and help others, it’s always about others doing for them, and it’s being accepted as wise advice and a good idea.

People who can’t spend time alone, those who need to have others around all the time, just never seem to grow up. It’s as though they enter adulthood looking for a parent or a savior, and when these figments of a broken reality don’t do just as they expect, making them feel good about themselves, then they are hurt, angry, and more depressed than ever.

Where have the ideas of figuring out your own strengths and talents gone? No one outside of you is going to give you that, no person knows what your special reason for being here is, so the whole idea of surrounding yourself is just another broad path leading you away from yourself, and the reasons you even exist. Giving others so much power over your emotions, your feelings of worth and belonging, is a short road to failure. Not to mention, putting your weight on others while you feel entitled to have them lift you up is selfish and narcissistic.

I don’t get it. If you can’t be alone, and have to be surrounded by others all the time to feel complete, you’re not gonna make it. You just become a drain on everyone in your sphere. Instead of surrounding yourself, you should be separating yourself and figuring out who you are, and what you could potentially do to help the world, instead of waiting for the world to lift you up.

/end rant
 Quoting: Turtle Flower


Dennis Prager's "Happiness Is A Serious Problem" should be mandatory reading in high school, and I recommend it for anyone...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Yes! That book talks about exactly what this discussion is covering. We have so much in terms of technology and the connectedness it brings, yet many young people don't have an authentic relationship with themselves and their innate spiritual godliness. It is said if you don't love yourself you can't love others. We are ultimately here to lift each other up as human beings.....which is not the energy put out at many protests or when we have the simple disagreements with others.

I firmly believe that it all stems with a lack of knowledge of the spiritual side of life. If we collectively had grasp of those concepts, we would be treating each other like the gods in making we are!
 Quoting: a follower of the way


If we could only raise the IQ of humans in general, it would open their eyes and they would seek answers, as we have...

hf

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As parents, it's ok to let your child see you down or sad, if it is resolved quickly. Living in a depressed state around your family will cause them stress and unhappiness too...So if you are not happy, fake it around your family if you have to...
 Quoting: BRIEF


This is very true. It spreads like a disease. Many traits do. Unhealthy eating habits spread. Smoking spreads. Dislike of education spreads. Soon, nothing but misery.
 Quoting: Truth Be Known


It's our moral obligation to show them the way to live, simply by observation...So that they too can build and enjoy a happy live...
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Where are the good people to surround with
Cant find any
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I love loneliness. Actually, I don't need any people around, except my kids.
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That's like saying you like to get burned, when you mean that you like the weather to be hot...

Isolation is pleasurable to me as well, but not loneliness...
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solitude is the term i prefer.
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hot shower shampoo whole body fresh clothes glass of milk with strawberry sirup,...
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while you are partly right, the reason that my generation is so depressed is because they take TOO MUCH responsibility. They should be blaming the world more, not less, they should be more courageous in speaking up about their ideals, more aggressive, not less. It is the only way we can usher in a new world that isn't scary, but takes the best of every dualism.

So, instead of taking your frustrations to a forum where other boomers will only reply along the lines of 'oh yea this generation is f*cked, brainwashed retards', be honest about which specific person is triggering you, and talk to them! Real change comes from surrender, not resistance.

We're humans too you know, inside us is exactly the same essence perceiving it all. Not that different at all.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83955920


I am a loner. People who interest me are very creative or highly intelligent so the conversations are informational and about subjects other than self. I am kind though, and because of it...

I seem to attract people who need other people desperately and who have a ton of issues they want to talk about. My neighbor will work two jobs, 70 hour week, and then come straight to my house to talk until she's too exhausted to do anything but fall in bed fully dressed. Poor hygiene, poor diet, zero self-betterment... and I don't know how to help her grow out of that. She's nearly 40!

How can I help these "friends" who show no interest in me or what I'm doing, grow up and get their own lives?

I've tried lots of hugs, "how was your day" conversations, but it never gets past that. They want to stay in that zone where the attention is on them all the time.

I have wondered if it comes from being ignored as a child - but I'm not like that and I basically raised myself. I wondered if it was physical abuse, but I went through hell on that front too, and still prefer to be alone.

If you are that needy person - please tell me - what helps you get out of yourself and interested in life? What inspires you to be productive? What makes you feel confident and want to take care of yourself, eat well, etc?

How can I "wake up" my friends who hang out and talk while I work my butt off feeding them. What will make them "see" others and pitch in to help?
 Quoting: ArchimedesGirl


Haha I recognize a lot of myself in your story; I too am that person that is the one that is there for people and deals with my own shit alone and like it that way. This is why I don't feel offended by the OP or the comments at all. I merely want to offer the idea that young people might not be 'crazy', which is just too easy and unintelligent of an explanation for me.

Regarding your question about how to deal with those people who 'need' you and come to you complaining about stuff but never changing. I'd like to offer the following insight:

Maybe you are invested in an idea of 'kindness' and 'politeness' and see yourself as such, but another way to look at it is that you are ignorant of what they actually need and are wasting their time and your own energy. You are living in a comfortable illusion that another being, another consciousness ultimately just as intricate as yours (despite being less 'intelligent'), 'needs' you. The fact that you are putting double quotes around "friends" tells me that you don't perceive them that way, but are instead keeping them in the illusion that you are, which ultimately, is a comfortable power position, instead of a meaningful and loving bond based on equality.

Because I hear you wanting to take responsibility for this situation and move towards greater love, is my urgent suggestion for you to re-align with your identity of kindness and either don't treat friends as friends and let them go (kindness doesn't equal weakness!), or otherwise take action that DOES change the homeostasis! (weird idea; copy THEIR behavior instead of waiting for them to copy yours. You might be surprised what you find out ;))

Best of luck.
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Re: Surround yourself with... Um, what?
Dennis Prager's "Happiness Is A Serious Problem" should be mandatory reading in high school, and I recommend it for anyone...
 Quoting: BRIEF


As well as Ayn Rand's "The Fountainhead."

I keep a few copies of that around to give away to the younger ones who file through.

Your suggested book seems like similar philosophy and I'll have to take a look a it. If it is, it might be an easier read for them than Rand, lol.

Thanks for that.

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As parents, it's ok to let your child see you down or sad, if it is resolved quickly. Living in a depressed state around your family will cause them stress and unhappiness too...So if you are not happy, fake it around your family if you have to...
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This is very true. It spreads like a disease. Many traits do. Unhealthy eating habits spread. Smoking spreads. Dislike of education spreads. Soon, nothing but misery.
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It's our moral obligation to show them the way to live, simply by observation...So that they too can build and enjoy a happy live...
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I’m trying.
There is no nobility in being superior to your fellow man. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self. ~ Ernest Hemingway
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Don't surround yourself with anyone that's not family.

Everyone else is just a stranger.
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Some don’t have family.
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RIGHT ON, Op!!!!

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