Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 81975195 United States 07/30/2022 04:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories I’d be interested to hear other peoples horror stories where people have shown their true colors after a loved one passes away. I have 3... Quoting: The Juan Mower My sister in-law unfortunately passed yesterday, and already the crap is flying over money... which I find absolutely unbelievable. These wolves didn’t even give them time to get her body out of the hospital before they started sinking their teeth in. My wife has 7 siblings (6 now) and after her mother passed it completely ripped their family apart, none of them speak to each other now. Odd thing is her mother didn’t have much, so they basically decided to be assholes to each other for life over the most trivial things. My father passed and he didn’t have a will because allegedly he didn’t have the mental capacity to understand it... yet at 73 he was driving around in a bad ass challenger. Once he passed, my wife, their grandchildren and myself became complete outcast for some unknown reason, lovely stepmother kept about 2 million dollars and I inherited zero. Oh well, it builds character I guess. In tax law (wills and trusts), we have a saying- we see the worst of decent people, and divorce lawyers see the most decent side of bad people. Seriously, I had a cousin who hadn’t spoken to her dad in decades, show up the morning after his death, elbow her way into the house, and take a bunch of stuff. She is in her late 40s. He also had a daughter who was just starting college, and he left her everything. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 83457915 United States 07/30/2022 04:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories My grandpa was in the hospital dying of congestive heart failure last year. After learning the prognosis, several family members went to his house to "clean." Yeah, clean it the fuck out. The rage from that event will never leave me. Sister, meth-eater-brother-in-law, cousins wife, and an aunt can all be reincarnated as the vultures they are. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 83057634 United States 07/30/2022 05:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories My grandpa was in the hospital dying of congestive heart failure last year. After learning the prognosis, several family members went to his house to "clean." Yeah, clean it the fuck out. The rage from that event will never leave me. Sister, meth-eater-brother-in-law, cousins wife, and an aunt can all be reincarnated as the vultures they are. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83457915 All to common I’m afraid Just like vultures |
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The Juan Mower
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 55565723 United States 07/30/2022 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories My grandpa was in the hospital dying of congestive heart failure last year. After learning the prognosis, several family members went to his house to "clean." Yeah, clean it the fuck out. The rage from that event will never leave me. Sister, meth-eater-brother-in-law, cousins wife, and an aunt can all be reincarnated as the vultures they are. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83457915 2 years before my grandparents passed, when they were still absolutely fine able to care for themselves, all the sudden everyone starts coming over to "clean." I lived about 10 min away and noticed things were just disappearing. Vermin. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 55565723 United States 07/30/2022 12:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories For some Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83057634 Just like myself A death of a parent will show you who people really are It truly is a grown up moment You really will find out that God was the only one who ever cared at all They will show you LONG before it happens. Never forget, so then you won't be shocked when it happens. |
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User ID: 31765734 United States 07/30/2022 02:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories When my dad killed himself in 2020, I was in anguish, but everyone else was mad at him. He wasn't there anymore to take their anger out on him, so guess who they took it out on? His (unspoken) favorite child (me) and grandchild (my minor daughter). By day 3 - the day after I had finished cleaning up his brain and skull bits that were left behind by the cleaning crew sent by the insurance company - all I wanted was a hug from my mom or surviving sibling (our sister died 2 years before this). Instead, when I was sobbing like a child, "I want my Daddy! I want my Daddy!" My mom told me to be quiet because some irrelevant in-law was on a zoom call for work. When I suggested her call was inappropriate in the middle of a family crisis/tragedy and that I shouldn't have to accommodate that, I got disowned by the entire family, *as did my innocent 11 yo child.* So she and I not only lost my dad/her Papa on Saturday, but, by Wednesday we had both lost the entire rest of that side of our family. Then it got worse. My mom was dragging the corpse of my father - her dutiful husband of 53 years - through the mud as she told awful lies about him, many of which were disproven by the autopsy (eg he was some kind of degenerate drug addict, but he wouldn't even smoke weed, no drugs in system at autopsy). She didn't even want an obituary written for the man who had financed her lifestyle, provided lavishly for their 3 children, and served his country honorably as a Vietnam Vet. I wrote one anyway but left out names and simply put, "Survived by all who loved him," and my mom - who didn't want one to begin with - made it all about her and was mad that it didn't mention, "his wife of 53 years." To this day, my father has never had a funeral of any sort except the one I did with my daughter and husband, no one ever reached out to my child, nephews I helped raise ghosted me, and I never once got that hug or any word of condolences. Those vultures raided all the guns, tools, money, etc, and left behind his VA therapy notebooks, which was all I wanted and took, so I might could figure out why my dad did that. Nobody cared except my daughter, my husband, and me. Ironically, all of this answered my question as to WHY? Because I would've killed myself, too, if I had given and given and given for my family, but all they ever did was take. I saw my mom for the first time in over 2 years recently, and she was dripping in jewels, in a house that looked like it came from a HGTV magazine, and there wasn't a single picture of my deceased sister, deceased father, my daughter, nor me in that house. None of them care, and I hope they enjoy eating their bag of dicks while they burn in the fires of Hell. Awful, selfish, people. There is so much more to this, such as outright lies, throwing people under the bus, betrayal, etc, but I digress. Some extended family members and decades-long friends of the family witnessed all of this and said they wouldn't have believed it had they not seen it themselves. Those people have become my new family, as they supported me through all of this. Be grateful that it wasn't a suicide. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71088931 United States 07/30/2022 02:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories It happens a lot. Mom passed more than 10 years ago, I still don’t talk to the siblings. They stole her blind before she even left the planet, and didn’t help much with helping us take care of her. Painful, but they probably wouldn’t talk to us anyway since they love this world so much. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 81815174 United States 07/30/2022 02:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories My father(from here out referred to simply as sperm donor) remarried my mother's best friend less than a year after mom died. When mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, she and the sperm donor set up a bypass trust for my brother and I of 6 million dollars. The sperm donor married the bitch and 14 years later he died. They spent those years pillaging my mom's trust and when the sd died, he left what he had left to the bitch. Turns out the sd had mom make her trust revocable under certain conditions in the last months as her cancer moved to her brain, making her unwell mentally. Now, we fight the bitch in court for the two of them blatantly not following mom's desires. We'll get something, but this best friend is the most horrible christian I've ever known. My wife's in real estate. Every house that sells due to a deceased family member ends up with drama. Terrible what brother does to sister, mom to kids, etc. It's all different scenarios, but filthy greed is the underlying factor. The good news is my brother and I who never were really good friends are 100% united in going after this low class whore. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 83940056 Finland 07/30/2022 03:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories My 87 year old mother died 3 years ago. Before her body was even cold in the nursing home, my sister (who had taken all the important banking documents) transfereed 20K into her bank account without consulting myself or my oldest sister (who was executor). Then we had drama about the music for the funeral; which tune my mother wanted etc. To cap it all off, after we had mum cremated, my middle sister (the thief) raided mum's flat & helped herself to all the valuables and then took the ashes. Now she won't agree to the spot we want to scatter the ashes so 3 years down the line she still has them at her house & refuses to split them so my other sister & I can get it done. She hasn't spoken to me since the funeral & also cut me off from everyone in her family. Did the same to my other sister..... so just a horrible selfish person. |
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Housedad
GOD User ID: 80330863 United States 07/30/2022 05:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories When My mother passed, it seemed like half the state of Florida wanted to come up and 'help'. My brothers and I knew that they were the most money grubbing assholes ever. Noone had heard from any of them for over 30 years but they were all so 'heartbroken' over her death and wanted to come up and help. Of course, they were requiring room, board and airline tickets. I told them in these words: 'Go fuck yourself and don't call back' Our sister had severe diabetes and dialysis. Her costs were huge. My brothers and I decided to liquidate the entire estate to provide for her. Every penny went to trust for her. She needed it way more than we did. Yeah, every family has the assholes. Last Edited by Housedad on 07/30/2022 06:15 PM There's always an Arquillian Battle Cruiser, or a Corillian Death Ray, or an intergalactic plague that is about to wipe out all life on this miserable little planet, and the only way these people can get on with their happy lives is that they DO NOT KNOW ABOUT IT! -Men in Black |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 83834499 United States 07/30/2022 07:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories Almost told my story. Still too creeped out. What's sad is that after the death of a loved one, the evil that drove them into the grave gets revealed. I don't think death brings the worst out in people; I think it just brings it into the light. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 83013842 United Kingdom 07/30/2022 07:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: Loved ones passing always seems to bring out the worst in people. I can’t be the only one with horror stories For some Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83057634 Just like myself A death of a parent will show you who people really are It truly is a grown up moment You really will find out that God was the only one who ever cared at all They will show you LONG before it happens. Never forget, so then you won't be shocked when it happens. This is definitely true. It's just that we don't want to really get it. So that when relatives die, the shites are just more of the same as they've ever been and we are stupidly surprised. Remember what Maya Angelou said...When people tell you who they are, believe them the first time. |