Question for post-menopausal women

Uh how many kids have you already had and how many baby daddies?

waiting with bated breath for agent 99 and the red headed raven for their replies...

I wanted around 12 children. I ended up having 3 precious ones.

I'm not the same person since having a hysterectomy and going into menopause mid 40s. The ability to bring forth life is a sacred thing. When it's gone you feel an intense loss. It's a grieving process for what you used to be. You can no longer create life.

Not post, but I got my tubes tied.

No to both questions.

Wow get a job and a purpose in life besides reproduction.

Some of you GLPers are as dumb as rocks

There is always a period of grieving going past the time of fertility

For most - that coincided with the coming of grandchildren

AVERAGE AGE of menopause is 51

I didn’t get it until 56

General health applies here too - biological age versus chronology

Early forties - most women THINK they can still have kids

Fertility is CUT IN HALF at age 37 !

Babies in the forties - rare - and subject to more defects - MEN over 40 have more Down’s children no matter the age of the woman

I was really bummed when I was told not to have more children - age 36 - for my own safety

There is ALWAYS the “What of “ questions in life

Kids - careers- mates - locations

What if I had moved to California in my 20’s ?
Same thing

No kids ? That’s different

Can’t relate to people with families your own age


ADOPT A FAMILY and help with the kids - if no children - nieces - nephews- or neighbors

They need the help

The kids love the attention of another adult

It’s such a sacred thing!! I will grieve like crazy.

I’m glad you had some precious babies.

My ex had a hysterectomy when she was around 30-ish and went totally off the planet. I never understood the reasoning, but your post clicked for me as she wanted more children. Oh well, we been divorced for 25 years and I guess it's all history now, but maybe I understand more what changed in her. As a male, the older I get the more I wish that I had fathered more children.

Last Edited by Garman906 on 05/18/2022 07:54 AM

Once you have raised a few kids through the teenage years, that urge to have any more passes quickly.

Once you have raised a few kids through the teenage years, that urge to have any more passes quickly.

I have 4 kids with the same man. The Duggar’s have 21 kids so 4 doesn’t seem like a lot.

Hahaha! Good to know.

moral of the story, dont be playing god with your body?
very sad to read this...

start making more then!!

what made you quit after 4 to begin with?

Red headed raven?

So I should have more as soon as possible since my husband turns 40 this year.
The what-if questions are what make life miserable!!

I am 50 and going through the change now.

I am ready to be done. I have 2 kids, one almost 18 and one almost 7. My last one was born when I was 44. So I'll still be child rearing for a few more years.

Bring on the stretch pants and granny panties. I am glad to be about done with the monthly mess.

No regrets, it's the cycle of life. Enjoy the ride, sisters.

Lol. My oldest is 5 years old. I need a little break.

Wow 44 .
That’s a healthy attitude, accept it and enjoy the next chapter.

I have 2 grown children now. I had to have a hysterectomy at 29 as I had cancer. Was immediately thrown into menopause. I didn’t deal with it well. I did become a workaholic. I still don’t know if it was the medical situation that depressed me or the not having more children bc I do think I was done. I think more about what if, now. I don’t dwell on it though

I know people who were born with a mom in her 40's. Screw the selfish women who do this. Not only did the kids have health problems but she was too tired to raise them.

God blessed my spouse with a successful career so that I was able to stay at home raising them and homeschooling.

5 years is not a break?!?!?!?!

the longer you wait the more annoying it gets when you have kids who can take care of them self and a new baby.
or wait a little longer so your older kids can take care of the coming babies.

PLEASE NAME Your next child Tommy
plus its 2022 so you can assign it a gender, so please make it a man.

Right, because getting a job is a purpose in life.

having children/family is literally the only actual purpose in life.

Wife breezed through it. Late 50s. Great attitude. Positive affirmations about her body and being grateful.

No caffeine, sodas, very little alcohol, very clean Leto like diet.

When she’d get a hot flash she imagined being on a tropical beach. Only lasted a few moments and they stopped within a few months. Added ground flaxseeds. Also adds nutritional yeast to her morning eggs.

Attitude, reevaluating diet is key.

My first wife ( Divorced now 28 years ) never had children. We have never talked after the Divorce but I was told by a 3rd party one reason she ended our Marriage was that I would not agree to children.

I remember she wanted kids more than anything but I was not ready at 25 and a in a new marriage but I now have a large wonderful family with my 2nd wife and truly Blessed.

My high school first love of 8 years also never had children...

I have often wondered what those two now think about it all...
I love all my children beyond words but as I guy I think I could have had a 100% fulfilled life without any children or more children but I'm a guy.

Now that the kids are older the wife and I are just now talking about things she and I could do with just us...

We are now talking about a cross country motorcycle trip and Im shopping for a big new Harley, Can't do that with more Children. As much of a Blessing as Children are Life is full of Blessings after Kids but I am a guy...

That is total B.S. !!! I was 41 when I had my youngest. I had a rough pregnancy, but she was perfect ! She was ranked 1st in her class through all her school years, got a full ride to college, graduated with distinction from college with multiple honors, and today is an Accountant/Financial Analyst for a Fortune 500 company.

I wish I had more kids than the 3 I have. Being a Mom is absolutely GREAT ! As for menopause, the night sweats were the worst part. Everything else was no problem.

Last Edited by tiger1 on 05/18/2022 08:54 AM

Never a question for me. Have 2 beautiful girls and 2 beautiful grandkids. But I do wonder this going through Menopause right now though, how much is any kind of medicine and the such is needed?

I plan on taking nothing, but grew up hearing all of the nightmare stories about "growing a mustache" and a need for some kind of medicine. Fuck Big Pharma. They've already murdered my mother with Cancer from the innoculations she got when she immigrated here in the 50's from S.Africa and they've already given me AND my youngest daughter MS from our childhood "vaccinations".

Not trying to derail your thread OP, don't mean to at ALL, but wasn't sure who to ask. My own mother is already gone, so I can't just ask HER and have no one else that I could ask.

I chose to not have kids. I have two brothers. The world sucks. Glad I don't have kids. Didn't have a stable family. Dysfunctional. Narcissist parents. Nothing to pass on.