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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78810024 05/19/2022 07:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you ever try to talk your way out of a relationship with a female that wants to still be in it. real hard sell there babe. yall be crazy. if you feel you are not thank wimens as a whole for earning you that ghosting. beyond ghosting the only other way out is to get caught fucking around and that could be a powder keg too. if your lucky she just fucks some of your friends and you can then both call it off. |
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User ID: 80274554 United States 05/19/2022 07:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, it's definitely not. Control and power drives them. They come back to see how much of both they still have with you, to feed and stroke their egos, to play out the fantasies and world of pretend (only one foot in objective reality) and, often, to carry out acts of revenge obsession because you refused to submit, comply or feed their pathology. God help you if you've let them know you see their illness and BS. Then you become target for destruction, but, regardless, you will always be target of blame for, well, everything. Their brains are wired differently, which will never change. To the poster talking about "healthy adults" just living life and moving on: no, friend, that's not how mature, healthy, well adjusted, non-disordered adults behave. "Healthy" adults attempt to have meaningful, productive discourse about whatever conflict or undesireable situation may be present, which is approached with an intent to understand and find mutual resolution - even if it's agreeing to disagree - before "ghosting" someone. It's called conflict resolution, which is the rub. Disordered people, people emotionally stuck in toddler (BPD/NPD), people who were not taught in childhood to resolve issues through meaningful discourse, people who have little or no self reflection and are unable to face truth about themselves or the world around them, who are the totalitarians needing to control everyone and everything, people with little to no personal accountability, and the great number of people who are traited Cluster B, many of whom simply do not have the brain wiring to connect with others (give a shit about anyone but themselves) do not understand the concept, do not see the need or have the character to approach interactions with others in this way. So, OP, there are a great number of people who, for whatever reason inclusive of a shit load with untreated but functional mental illness (structural and neurochemical brain disorders), who simply think differently. A reductionist view of a complex system: there are people who approach life from a position of conflict resolution, collaboration, respect of others and those who do not. The latter of which you will probably find who blame everyone but themselves for all around them and, as part of this 'coping with world' approach also actively lie to themselves along with everyone else. At minimum, they are only focused on self. One of your responsibilities in life is to ensure that's not you. Learn the lesson taught by the "ghoster"; do some self eval; be grateful s/he is no longer around because that approach to others and to life is not in alignment with yours and move on. And, yes, humans suck. Cheers! Well, being the common scapegoat of a narc family (male...genetic) and also being victimized by many who have crossed my path, I respectfully disagree. Quoting: TXP They teach a great deal. All abuse trauma does. If one does not dig deep into self evaluation, the risk of wearing and displaying that victim card is great when the energy should be spent on your self evaluation as to what about you, your behaviors and approach to life allowed the pwNPD (or BPD or other) to continue using and abusing you. A failure to self evaluate also sets one up for repeated patterns. Just a few areas... Do you need to learn to set and/or strengthen boundaries? What in your control did you not practice that allowed a person to use, abuse or otherwise disrespect you? What exactly is acceptable and not on your path and in your life? How vulnerable do you make yourself when interacting with others and walking through life? Are you a fixer? A people pleaser? Why were you so easy to fool? Are you agreeable to a fault? What attracted you to what they presented as their false self? This frequently exposes your specific areas of weakness that could be improved and fortified. Do you need to learn to better protect yourself in life, i.e. execute legal agreements rather than verbal agreements on trust? What indoctrination and influence in your life needs to be examined and potentially corrected, i.e. "there's good in everyone", "everyone deserves a second chance"? Are you now in a trauma-based mode that needs treatment to heal? How emotional (and unreasonable) are you? What level of control do you have over your emotions, which displaces rational, critical thought and evaluation? Yes, encounters with abuse and trauma caused by others always have lessons that lead to growth and betterment if one takes the opportunity. But, no, their behavior and their (brain) disorder(s) belong to them not you. You didn't cause it, and you can't ever fix it. This applies to all who are Cluster B traited. ("You" being the collective "you".) . “Mental slavery is the worst form of slavery. It gives you the illusion of freedom, makes you trust, love, and defend your oppressor, while making an enemy of those who are trying to free you or open your eyes.” -Fiyah “None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “You have been programmed to resist the very person that is here to set you free, from the prison of your Mind... You are not free... everything you are has been manufactured by Minds that have not your best interest. You are imprisoned by beliefs and not reality. Religions are mental programs to imprison your Mind.” -SOL |
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User ID: 80383054 United States 05/19/2022 07:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you ever try to talk your way out of a relationship with a female that wants to still be in it. real hard sell there babe. yall be crazy. if you feel you are not thank wimens as a whole for earning you that ghosting. beyond ghosting the only other way out is to get caught fucking around and that could be a powder keg too. if your lucky she just fucks some of your friends and you can then both call it off. Borderlines hang on for life. It's part of their pathology (abandonment fear often switched to rumination and revenge obsession). They (the untreated) are the harassers and the stalkers. When you are painted black, watch out. Revenge obsession kicks in, and due to a structure in the brain that's "disrupted", their fantasy need for you to be destroyed at their hands can last for the remainder of their lives. They cannot internally resolve the "injury", often imagined, they perceived. This applies to both male and female with BPD, and it's f-in dangerous. . . "Stop the lockdown. Stop the masks. Stick your vaccine up your ass." - Tess....AMEN! "What does CENSORSHIP reveal? It reveals FEAR." - Julian Assange . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 80302044 United States 05/19/2022 11:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you ever try to talk your way out of a relationship with a female that wants to still be in it. real hard sell there babe. yall be crazy. if you feel you are not thank wimens as a whole for earning you that ghosting. beyond ghosting the only other way out is to get caught fucking around and that could be a powder keg too. if your lucky she just fucks some of your friends and you can then both call it off. Borderlines hang on for life. It's part of their pathology (abandonment fear often switched to rumination and revenge obsession). They (the untreated) are the harassers and the stalkers. When you are painted black, watch out. Revenge obsession kicks in, and due to a structure in the brain that's "disrupted", their fantasy need for you to be destroyed at their hands can last for the remainder of their lives. They cannot internally resolve the "injury", often imagined, they perceived. This applies to both male and female with BPD, and it's f-in dangerous. . You saying OP is borderline? |
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User ID: 42093241 United States 05/19/2022 11:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hell yeah. Two of my closest buddies just got girlfriends. I've been married for years waiting for them to catch up so we can do group dates and grow our families and shit. Fucking ghosted. And one of my friends doesn't even like his girlfriend, he's just trapped fuck them both |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 59303878 United States 05/19/2022 11:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well said, but becoming a victim of a narc isn't the fault of the non-disordered one, they were targeted by a sick individual and no amount of self evaluation can change or prevent that. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 80013357 The ghoster is not teaching lessons, they have nothing of value to teach. The only thing you can do is raise your awareness of classic NPD patterns but even then the warning signs are hard to identify because the narc presents a false self in the early stages. Well, being the common scapegoat of a narc family (male...genetic) and also being victimized by many who have crossed my path, I respectfully disagree. They teach a great deal. All abuse trauma does. If one does not dig deep into self evaluation, the risk of wearing and displaying that victim card is great when the energy should be spent on your self evaluation as to what about you, your behaviors and approach to life allowed the pwNPD (or BPD or other) to continue using and abusing you. A failure to self evaluate also sets one up for repeated patterns. Just a few areas... Do you need to learn to set and/or strengthen boundaries? What in your control did you not practice that allowed a person to use, abuse or otherwise disrespect you? What exactly is acceptable and not on your path and in your life? How vulnerable do you make yourself when interacting with others and walking through life? Are you a fixer? A people pleaser? Why were you so easy to fool? Are you agreeable to a fault? What attracted you to what they presented as their false self? This frequently exposes your specific areas of weakness that could be improved and fortified. Do you need to learn to better protect yourself in life, i.e. execute legal agreements rather than verbal agreements on trust? What indoctrination and influence in your life needs to be examined and potentially corrected, i.e. "there's good in everyone", "everyone deserves a second chance"? Are you now in a trauma-based mode that needs treatment to heal? How emotional (and unreasonable) are you? What level of control do you have over your emotions, which displaces rational, critical thought and evaluation? Yes, encounters with abuse and trauma caused by others always have lessons that lead to growth and betterment if one takes the opportunity. But, no, their behavior and their (brain) disorder(s) belong to them not you. You didn't cause it, and you can't ever fix it. This applies to all who are Cluster B traited. ("You" being the collective "you".) . |
TXP
User ID: 80383054 United States 05/19/2022 12:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ha! Nope. Not enough info to make that evaluation. Just making general statements about BPD in response to the 'hanging on' and 'y'all are crazy' comments made by the AC. Last Edited by TXP on 05/19/2022 12:26 PM . "Stop the lockdown. Stop the masks. Stick your vaccine up your ass." - Tess....AMEN! "What does CENSORSHIP reveal? It reveals FEAR." - Julian Assange . |
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User ID: 80383054 United States 05/20/2022 01:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Biden would never ghost a single person ever because he is the Greatest President in history!!! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 82955866 Do you get paid per post? . . "Stop the lockdown. Stop the masks. Stick your vaccine up your ass." - Tess....AMEN! "What does CENSORSHIP reveal? It reveals FEAR." - Julian Assange . |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 83174272 Finland 05/20/2022 01:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes. Interviewed once somebody for a job, several times even, both sides were very interested, we offered her more than she asked for, including a nice relocation-package, she thanked for the offer and asked for a few days to think about it. That was the last I ever heard from her. I did check her social media as I was worried that something serious had happened - but no, she was living her life happily ever after. Just textbook ghosted. Weird. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 83335670 United States 06/05/2022 02:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77996452 Unless they don't bow to you in harder times. Obviously you accepted and keep accepting the full mind wipe. You keep on projecting you son of a retard bitch You want to know what gov agency is responsible for my mind? Mind wipe? Keep it up mutherfucker You wont ever meet me but you might get company BACK OFF FROM ME There's no projection and nothing you can do in this life to him. You're here to learn from him not the other way around. Now why would God allow him control over you? Because his heart is that good, that's what you've always been jealous of. Yea you sound psychotic. Like a female I am not jealous of anyone I mean look at me? God blessed me inside and out.i would never want to be anyone but myself. It is not my fault that anyone should fake they care just to get info I am shiny Lit up And always willl be I dont use people that way The difference between him and i Is that i am the good guy You can take that to the fucking bank. Hitler thought he was a good guy too! Mommy why did you join this site? Your husband on it? |