YOU EVER BEEN GHOSTED?

Im still laughing that my dream came tru

And i turned him down


Ahahahahahahaha


Ratt-Nobody Rides For Free

Pointbreak

Get some


And while you are at it?

Rub that thing out more often you crotchety old fuck


Ghost THIS

half truth = 1 side of the story

Sounds like you get ghosted a lot.

Why are you deleting posts?

Like the nobody jesui ts

as i said you will only get one side of the story from your perspective..people cant see both sides of the story. they dont want too. furthermore, theses sides of the stories are only simple explanations for more complex motivations under the surface which will never come to light

Uhm,no


nice psychological theory ya got there,but truth is,there are no,complex motivations under the surface.
there IS NO SURFACE


There is nothing


i got ghosted and it pissed me off and hurt my feelings

so i said something about it
thats all


dont try to read between lines
dont try to improvise nor guess nor project

that would be you

not me


get it?


its over its done

i had to say how i felt is all


dont keep at it

when i am not.





nobody knows why some people do the things they do

to each their own



i can say i am proud that certain behavior from others,is not how i would operate.

i am proud to be who i am


and if anyone wants to ghost me then that is their loss



they walk away knowing they lied just to get info and never wanted me as a friend

i walk away knowing i told the truth,which takes bravery and integrity.




im still working on the f part.

Your reaction to someone ignoring you is off the wall batshit crazy.

Haha it didn't take long before it pivoted to a hot karl.

Day? You def sound like you have some issues that may transcend midnight.

That's what you said last time.
Are you ever going to mature?

WILL THE GHOST GIVE ME TP FOR MY BUNGHOLE?

Nope, I'm the one that ghosts.

If I get a hint of psychopath and/or drama = GHOST

If they don't give good head = GHOST

If they suck in bed = GHOST

If they fail at humor = GHOST

If they are a needy bitch = GHOST

I have no qualms about ghosting women in the dating world. Dating is so shitty for men in 2022 I feel absolutely no remorse whatsoever for doing all kinds of things that seem fucked up, which would include ghosting, pumping and dumping, lying about shit, and straight up just offering money for sex to women I swipe and match with. Being in the dating game is like prison, it’s changed me and hardened me for good lol

Honestly you are probably most disappointed with yourself for falling for the Narcissistic snake.

Narcissists use people up and throw them away like trash, there is nothing special about you. There was nothing special about me.

You were just supply to him, as was I. They "idealize, devalue and discard". In idealize mode they will "love bomb" you so strongly at first so you fall for them. They hone in on your vulnerabilities to manipulate you into feeling safe and secure with them.

Then the narc cycles into devalue and diacard. They will repeat this 3-step cycle and do it over and over until you walk away for good.

They will do it to multiple people at the same time, you are not the first and won't be the last. They discard you because they are already on to idealizing another source of supply. They need many, many sources of supply.

Narcs never change. It is equivalent to borderline personality disorder. Totally incurable. Once you know someone is a narc, your only recourse is to walk away for good.

It's all very textbook. I have dealt with a narc before, this is narc behavior and you are a narc victim.

Ghosting is done by a narcissist who has discarded you. Healthy, normal people don't ghost people. Don't fall for it when they try to come back in idealize mode. Be glad you invested so little into the relationship. Truly.

sorry

And take it from someone who knows, he said horrible things about you behind your back, same as he said about me and has said about all his other "supply".

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice...

Don't be a fool.

LOL, anyone that ghosted you crazy bitches is not going to come back to you. Go get more cats.

Well good, it's not always that easy to get rid of a narc.

Moar winning GLP social accomplishments.

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You need to change your perspective.

You're ranting about your day and showing everyone why they shouldn't care about your day through your emotional instability.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.

Ask yourself whether you want to drive a wedge between yourself and your man by being emotionally charged, thus in their mind justifying their bouncing on you.

Personally I'd bounce on you too! You're too unstable and dramatic for most men to bother with. You should focus on mindfulness to better control your negative attributes.

No, it's definitely not. Control and power drives them. They come back to see how much of both they still have with you, to feed and stroke their egos, to play out the fantasies and world of pretend (only one foot in objective reality) and, often, to carry out acts of revenge obsession because you refused to submit, comply or feed their pathology.

God help you if you've let them know you see their illness and BS. Then you become target for destruction, but, regardless, you will always be target of blame for, well, everything.

Their brains are wired differently, which will never change.

To the poster talking about "healthy adults" just living life and moving on: no, friend, that's not how mature, healthy, well adjusted, non-disordered adults behave.

"Healthy" adults attempt to have meaningful, productive discourse about whatever conflict or undesireable situation may be present, which is approached with an intent to understand and find mutual resolution - even if it's agreeing to disagree - before "ghosting" someone. It's called conflict resolution, which is the rub.

Disordered people, people emotionally stuck in toddler (BPD/NPD), people who were not taught in childhood to resolve issues through meaningful discourse, people who have little or no self reflection and are unable to face truth about themselves or the world around them, who are the totalitarians needing to control everyone and everything, people with little to no personal accountability, and the great number of people who are traited Cluster B, many of whom simply do not have the brain wiring to connect with others (give a shit about anyone but themselves) do not understand the concept, do not see the need or have the character to approach interactions with others in this way.

So, OP, there are a great number of people who, for whatever reason inclusive of a shit load with untreated but functional mental illness (structural and neurochemical brain disorders), who simply think differently.

A reductionist view of a complex system: there are people who approach life from a position of conflict resolution, collaboration, respect of others and those who do not. The latter of which you will probably find who blame everyone but themselves for all around them and, as part of this 'coping with world' approach also actively lie to themselves along with everyone else. At minimum, they are only focused on self.

One of your responsibilities in life is to ensure that's not you.

Learn the lesson taught by the "ghoster"; do some self eval; be grateful s/he is no longer around because that approach to others and to life is not in alignment with yours and move on.

And, yes, humans suck.

Cheers!

Last Edited by TXP on 05/19/2022 06:19 AM

Well said, but becoming a victim of a narc isn't the fault of the non-disordered one, they were targeted by a sick individual and no amount of self evaluation can change or prevent that.

The ghoster is not teaching lessons, they have nothing of value to teach.

The only thing you can do is raise your awareness of classic NPD patterns but even then the warning signs are hard to identify because the narc presents a false self in the early stages.

I am the one who ghosts. For this reason.

Most people don't really want me around and I am immediately suspect of those who do.

Well, being the common scapegoat of a narc family (male...genetic) and also being victimized by many who have crossed my path, I respectfully disagree.

They teach a great deal. All abuse trauma does. If one does not dig deep into self evaluation, the risk of wearing and displaying that victim card is great when the energy should be spent on your self evaluation as to what about you, your behaviors and approach to life allowed the pwNPD (or BPD or other) to continue using and abusing you. A failure to self evaluate also sets one up for repeated patterns.

Just a few areas...

Do you need to learn to set and/or strengthen boundaries? What in your control did you not practice that allowed a person to use, abuse or otherwise disrespect you?

What exactly is acceptable and not on your path and in your life?

How vulnerable do you make yourself when interacting with others and walking through life? Are you a fixer? A people pleaser? Why were you so easy to fool? Are you agreeable to a fault?

What attracted you to what they presented as their false self? This frequently exposes your specific areas of weakness that could be improved and fortified.

Do you need to learn to better protect yourself in life, i.e. execute legal agreements rather than verbal agreements on trust?

What indoctrination and influence in your life needs to be examined and potentially corrected, i.e. "there's good in everyone", "everyone deserves a second chance"?

Are you now in a trauma-based mode that needs treatment to heal?

How emotional (and unreasonable) are you? What level of control do you have over your emotions, which displaces rational, critical thought and evaluation?

Yes, encounters with abuse and trauma caused by others always have lessons that lead to growth and betterment if one takes the opportunity.

But, no, their behavior and their (brain) disorder(s) belong to them not you. You didn't cause it, and you can't ever fix it. This applies to all who are Cluster B traited.

("You" being the collective "you".)
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Last Edited by TXP on 05/19/2022 07:35 AM