Someone please tell me that I am not the only one with hardships aplenty.

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calloused, callous

Life goes up and down...just like a boat I might puke on. Wait for the up - it is coming.

Don’t feel a victim. It’s a stupid saying but , what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Do the things that you enjoy. Fill your life with things you enjoy. Everyday make a small step to finding joy. You eat and elephant one bite at a time.

Sounds similar to my difficulties, fended a little earlier. Positive attitude is important.

Thanks for sharing.

It's not just you !

My mother has always been abusive.

I was bullied in school and didn't do very well.

Severe depression for almost 20 years.

I'm married to an alcoholic and I always had hopes he would stop drinking but he continues to drink even though he was diagnosed with cirrhosis. He just spent a month in the hospital and two weeks in a nursing home. I'm pretty sure he is already drinking again.

With him being sick he isn't able to work so we had to move in with my parents and so my mother's abuse continues.

Things are looking better for me though. I am moving up at my job. I'm not as depressed. I went to therapy and that helped some. Finding a good friend is important. My sister is my rock.

I wish you well OP.

trauma - the devil works on using that to get you to focus on the down. It kills the spirit.

Long ago people were taught to live within their means and put some away for a rainy day.

these things still hold try today.

see i want to op. but you'll revert very soon and then i have to deal with that face. i generally avoid your rollercoaster now. i've learned from it.

Great struggles. It is a constant choice to BE here in this world, at this time, & in a countless amount of ways.


I invite you to go easy on yourself. Discover the wonders of kindness. Not always to others, however also to the self. This world can be hell, in all senses, yet i tell you that peace requires nothing, other than its own acknowledgement.


I see you.


This world provides everything and every experience that can possibly conceived. Be good to yourself. No amount of effort is ever wasted.


You are seen, dear. Believe in yourself, do not give up.

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... oh dear one!!! ... few there are who are not affected by life trauma! ... it comes in many variations! ... my mom would always say "remember there is ALWAYS someone who has it better than you and worse than you" ...
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... I grieve that down through the centuries the power for believers has been slowly lost ... that we don't live in victory ...
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take note.

I hope this isn't a gaye bait thread.
But two marriages, dang. I can't even get one, much less a girlfriend. But that leaves more loot in my bank account, so it's not that serious.

I've thought about it. Some women are born blond and pretty in Los Angeles and get a great ride through life as a soccer mom, while others are born black, female with AIDS in Africa. Why do some people have it so good, and others so hard? Does God grade on a curve? Some people just naturally have no desire to do certain things, and others can think of nothing else. Is it luck of the draw, or is it something that we've agreed to before incarnation?
Making money and having money has totally passed me by, but I'm not freaked out about it (I'm not comparing my problems to yours). If I have money, I'll spend it. My ex is , and has been, worried her whole life about having enough. My lackadaisical attitude toward money is why i was invited to leave. I'm not sure if I just trust God to supply, or if I'm just stupid. I will add that the biggest disappointment in my life has been not finding a true love. I guess that sounds like nothing compared to being abused, but it is a constant failure that has haunted me.
I'm glad that you've found safe harbor. Now, don't stress over the past because you'll really never know until you cross to the other side. In the meantime, just enjoy what you have and that isn't necessarily physical goods.
What is your location, Hopefull?

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Congrat's on getting back on your feet OP! Many would have stopped trying.

Give yourself some credit for that! Some times you have to pat yourself on the back because nobody else is gonna do it.

And nope...you're not the only one...not by a long shot!

Life is just a short journey towards DOOM.

You get born...

Live a bit...

Then you DIE.

If you had a good time or a bad time..

Does not matter.

You STILL EMBRACE THE DOOM.

The doom is there for ALL.

Waiting.

Patiently.

And there is NO WAY to avoid the DOOM.

So stop ya complaining about your miserable life.

For it will be over soon.

Instead be GLAD you didnt have a WONDERFUL life.

For then you would have far more to lose.

Are you a Christian? As in born again, not just a believer?

I ask because the suffering can be different for Christians.

Just know that many people have an intense, lifelong struggle.

Many you would never guess.

The wise won't take up drugs and other vices to escape.

They know to beat hardships you must live sober and vigilant.

It sounds like you are strong.

Thank God He allows us peace if we stack a pile of good decisions and not set the pile on fire with a bad one..

Sometimes it just takes a lot of stacking, with a lot of struggle, and a lot of tears (of course)... but the payoff can be priceless.. and the changed person you become along the way (being persistent) is a great blessing in itself.

Your sweet mom lied to you .
You went forward based on lies .
Find jesse lee peterson on yt and listen to him .
All will be revealed to you .
Good luck .

A lot of people have sad stories. Some of the most damaged people have the kindest hearts. I don’t like to talk about mine. Led to a lot of pot and alcohol abuse and possibly some psychosis. Having a hard time separating conspiracies fiction from reality. Sounds like a lot of people here. Maybe we are all cracked out. On some honey pot watch list.

Revelation 2:10

Do not fear what you are about to suffer. Behold, the devil is about to cast some of you into prison, so that you will be tested, and you will have tribulation for ten days. Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.

thank god life is short

I know a woman who has struggled with addiction, got clean, husband abandoned her. Then she rolled her truck and nearly died but lost one arm at the shoulder and one of her legs below the knee.

True story. Problems, everybody got em.

No, you aren't the only one facing such hardship.

Like you, my marriage dissolved after 20 years. My spouse took all our money, our house, kidnapped our children and literally left me on the streets. I lost EVERYTHING I ever owned since I lived on my own.

I crossed the country in search of my children literally living in my vehicle.

I came from an abusive family so I didn't have any help, support or guidance. I was totally alone. It took me about 18 months to find an apartment where they would accept me without proof of income. A friend helped to pay my rent until I could get back on my feet.

I know it's hard. It hurts. Some of us get more than our "fair share" of turmoil. I don't have any magic answers for you. I wish I did. I would take away your pain and mine.

All we can do is try our best. Tomorrow is not promised so make the most of today.

I wish you well. I wish you peace.

No, we all have been in the shit here or we would be on instagram.

Thanks for the many beautiful answers. I’m very touched by the kindness and wisdom here.

Y’all can be so amazingly compassionate. Thank you for that.

I do have good friends (in real life) so I should focus on that. But sometimes I feel very alone in my struggles. I’ve had my share of lonely holidays when I eat my holiday meals alone.

I’m in Florida right now visiting a friend in a wealthy retirement community and everyone here is incredibly rich and happily married. Or so it seems.

Today someone told me that I must have a lot of bad karma from my former life because that’s the only way to explain a hard life. It felt a lot like victim blaming.

Thanks for listening. And thank you for being supportive.

We all get bucked off a horse

Never give up

More emotional manipulation.

My dad supported a family of 7 during the great depression WHEN HE WAS 12-a real man!

Yeah. After all he said so himself. Not as much a man as the men who *caused* the Great Depression, though.