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roguetechie81
User ID: 79785318 United States 04/21/2021 12:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. More than a few times... The one that sticks with me was while jet skiing on a lake in my early teens. I saw a ski boat run over the teenage girl water skier they had been pulling. As they cut the throttle the water started going red and people started screaming, I pounded the throttle on my jet ski to get there fast... As I got up close to the boat I was hitting my life jacket buckles and I dive off my jet ski after hitting the kill switch. I popped up in the water right next to her, the lake water tasted slightly of blood, and got an arm around her under her armpits as I barked to the hysterical family members on the boat that I was going to hand her up to them. She was still semi conscious and moaning in pain when I lifted and held her up high enough for two of the men in the boat to pull her up onto the stern deck. (I remember saying I'm sorry quietly over and over as I handed her up because I knew it had to hurt) Scrambling up the swim ladder as they pulled her up and just let her lay on the swim step I could see I wasn't going to get any more help and I couldn't see her pulse in her neck anymore. I moved up next to her and said I'm going to start cpr you need to start moving us towards the marina and ranger station! ... I'll never forget the first two compressions I did on her chest...I pumped once and the people on the boats horrified sounds were distant to me like they were far away but getting louder .... On the second compression I felt something hot and kinda sticky all over my hands and arms (I was locked in, adrenaline fear and everything else giving me tunnel vision etc) I looked down after the second compression and just sort of stopped... Blood was everywhere and there were splash marks from each chest compression... I was so lost and horrified and felt so powerless, I crumpled down sorta kneeling next to her and just held her hand because I could see her eyes still moving but we both knew there wasn't anything I could do. I stayed like that for the entire boat ride back to the marina gently laying a towel over her face as the boat throttled down to come up to the dock... The harbor patrol guys came and started taking statements while an ambulance came for the girl. I waited right there on the dock holding her hand until one of the harbor patrol guys came to get me so the medics could get the body. The harbor patrol guy took me up to his shack let me wash off with the hose and handed 14 year old me a towel, a pen, a statement form and a beer. We just sat there for awhile and then he told me that he heard I had done everything right out there. I broke down and cried and said no I didn't if I did everything right she'd be alive! (It was one of the times I've felt the most broken in my life) He let me cry for awhile and then simply told me that sometimes you can do everything right and it won't fix things because they're too far gone to fix but that doesn't change that you did what you should do. He got me to look at him and he told me I did a good job, that no one else could have done what I did any different or any better and we just sat for awhile. When I had calmed down and drank half of my first beer, he handed me another beer and a sweatshirt and got one of his patrol guys to take me on their boat back to my jet ski which they hooked up to tow back to where my family was camped... The mother of the girl hugged me and the dad shook my hand before we left. That experience left a mark on me. I don't think I fully grasped what the old harbor patrol guy told me in his shack until fairly recently. (I'm almost 40 now) The idea that you can do everything right and it's still not enough to keep someone alive alone is hard enough for someone to understand. But the idea that you can and should hold your head up because you did the right thing after anyway? That's huge! Death is coming for all of us one day. It's not something we can avoid. When I think back on all this now I can be grateful that I was there for that scared and dying teenage girl, that at least she knew someone was right there next to her doing everything they could, and that I could be there for the poor girls family and do the hard things for them. roguetechie |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 79367141 United States 04/21/2021 12:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes I was a hospice nurse for 5 years. A few times, my patients @saw” someone coming to get them. The first man I saw die was an older gentleman, mean spirited, I came in to turn him, he grabbed my arm and said watch out behind you with terror in his eyes, and then he passed I believe it was demons coming to get him. I got chills up and down my body, very surreal Quoting: Carley 80219481 As a hospice nurse you should know that some people get mean in their later years due to dementia and what he thought he saw was part of his dementia. Unless you knew him in his prime years, please dont make judgement |
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User ID: 78450809 United States 04/21/2021 12:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. More than a few times... The one that sticks with me was while jet skiing on a lake in my early teens. I saw a ski boat run over the teenage girl water skier they had been pulling. As they cut the throttle the water started going red and people started screaming, I pounded the throttle on my jet ski to get there fast... As I got up close to the boat I was hitting my life jacket buckles and I dive off my jet ski after hitting the kill switch. I popped up in the water right next to her, the lake water tasted slightly of blood, and got an arm around her under her armpits as I barked to the hysterical family members on the boat that I was going to hand her up to them. She was still semi conscious and moaning in pain when I lifted and held her up high enough for two of the men in the boat to pull her up onto the stern deck. (I remember saying I'm sorry quietly over and over as I handed her up because I knew it had to hurt) Scrambling up the swim ladder as they pulled her up and just let her lay on the swim step I could see I wasn't going to get any more help and I couldn't see her pulse in her neck anymore. I moved up next to her and said I'm going to start cpr you need to start moving us towards the marina and ranger station! ... I'll never forget the first two compressions I did on her chest...I pumped once and the people on the boats horrified sounds were distant to me like they were far away but getting louder .... On the second compression I felt something hot and kinda sticky all over my hands and arms (I was locked in, adrenaline fear and everything else giving me tunnel vision etc) I looked down after the second compression and just sort of stopped... Blood was everywhere and there were splash marks from each chest compression... I was so lost and horrified and felt so powerless, I crumpled down sorta kneeling next to her and just held her hand because I could see her eyes still moving but we both knew there wasn't anything I could do. I stayed like that for the entire boat ride back to the marina gently laying a towel over her face as the boat throttled down to come up to the dock... The harbor patrol guys came and started taking statements while an ambulance came for the girl. I waited right there on the dock holding her hand until one of the harbor patrol guys came to get me so the medics could get the body. The harbor patrol guy took me up to his shack let me wash off with the hose and handed 14 year old me a towel, a pen, a statement form and a beer. We just sat there for awhile and then he told me that he heard I had done everything right out there. I broke down and cried and said no I didn't if I did everything right she'd be alive! (It was one of the times I've felt the most broken in my life) He let me cry for awhile and then simply told me that sometimes you can do everything right and it won't fix things because they're too far gone to fix but that doesn't change that you did what you should do. He got me to look at him and he told me I did a good job, that no one else could have done what I did any different or any better and we just sat for awhile. When I had calmed down and drank half of my first beer, he handed me another beer and a sweatshirt and got one of his patrol guys to take me on their boat back to my jet ski which they hooked up to tow back to where my family was camped... The mother of the girl hugged me and the dad shook my hand before we left. That experience left a mark on me. I don't think I fully grasped what the old harbor patrol guy told me in his shack until fairly recently. (I'm almost 40 now) The idea that you can do everything right and it's still not enough to keep someone alive alone is hard enough for someone to understand. But the idea that you can and should hold your head up because you did the right thing after anyway? That's huge! Death is coming for all of us one day. It's not something we can avoid. When I think back on all this now I can be grateful that I was there for that scared and dying teenage girl, that at least she knew someone was right there next to her doing everything they could, and that I could be there for the poor girls family and do the hard things for them. Thank you for sharing. I can feel your agony. I struggled through that emotion as a new ICU nurse. I used to question what if I would have assessed something different quicker, what if I would have asked for certain orders, what if, what if. I ultimately took peace in knowing that I can only do what I can do, it is in far bigger hands then mine. I believe our story is written when we are born and that means the end is already known. Mortal man can’t change that. Your actions helped those parents. If she wasn’t pulled out and an effort made they would have questioned the rest of their lives why they didn’t help her. I can tell you are a very good soul. |
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User ID: 71860689 United States 04/21/2021 12:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, a couple time. A child hit by a car and a dying AIDs patient homeless on the street. On top of that at least one half dozen people killed in traffic accidents and one elderly family member at home in bed. I have also held dying animals in my arms until they took their last breath. Yes, it is unsettling. Nothing you can do. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 49496742 Canada 04/21/2021 12:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. I have seen them die, and then spoke with them 2 weeks after. Prepare yourselves for the punishment of the grave! Muslims will not have to worry about the punishment of the grave. Anyways, after you die you wake up again. That's how it works. Two angels will come to your grave and command you to stand upright. Then they will ask you your name, religion etc. Islam is the only correct answer. Then if answer correctly you will be taken to meet God, and he will bless you and then you shall be returned to your grave until the day of judgement. Save yourselves from the hellfire and live for all eternity in Paradise!! clearquran.com |
MR.GGG
User ID: 80043039 Canada 04/21/2021 12:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | X-COP. X-PILOT. SURE. LOTSA TIMES. Impersonal, dispassionate when dealing with strangers and the only "thing" I ever saw leave the body after death were from animals. Maybe too much hysteria and confusion (accident scenes etc) when dealing with strangers. Several family members and a completely different feel to those. Never SAW anything leave the body but felt them no longer in their bodies but nearby. I was doing CPR on my wife (massive cerebral aneurysm) when I felt her leave and stand over my left shoulder. A moment later several other ??? souls entered the room and althjough she was still flabbergasted at being dead she turned and left with them. I knew she was gone. EMS got her heart going again and in ICU she was on life support for a day. When they did the apnea test (to see if she could breath on her own) she was gone immediatelly. People didn't understand. They told me she could / might recover and I said "No. She's gone. She left last night." That all happened Christmas Eve & Christmas aft. For several YEARS she dropped in a few times a month to check on me. Nice feeling. I KNOW there is life after ... and all that. No longer a faith thing. Several other family members have visited at different times too. I get a "feeling" and then there's the smell. They all poked my brain by activating a certain smell in my head and it was IN my head. I had a horrible cold once and I felt Sue come close and I said out loud, "I won't be able to smell you. I have a horrible cold and my nose in plugged." and I immediately smelled her ... so ... My one regret (other than her dying on me - she was only 46) was that when she popped out of her body and was watching me from over my left soulder I didn't turn and tell her that I loved her. I KNEW she was right there and because there were other people in the room I didn't do it. Regret not doing that. ANyway, my take on all this is unless you've been a truly evil prik all your life what happens when you die ain't all that bad. Different - yes but you're the same person and IMHO probably hang out for a while and come back and do it all over again. No fear of dying AT ALL. LOTSA times with diseases, injuries etc etc etc death is a welcomed relief and should NOT be rejected and feared like it is by so many. My 2¢ Last Edited by MR.GGG on 04/21/2021 12:49 PM |
Carley User ID: 80219481 United States 04/21/2021 12:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes I was a hospice nurse for 5 years. A few times, my patients @saw” someone coming to get them. The first man I saw die was an older gentleman, mean spirited, I came in to turn him, he grabbed my arm and said watch out behind you with terror in his eyes, and then he passed I believe it was demons coming to get him. I got chills up and down my body, very surreal Quoting: Carley 80219481 As a hospice nurse you should know that some people get mean in their later years due to dementia and what he thought he saw was part of his dementia. Unless you knew him in his prime years, please dont make judgement He didn’t have dementia, was very quick witted. I’m not making judgements pointing out facts. Thank for your input. He was mean, fact. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67904014 United States 04/21/2021 12:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Then i was in Panama, where they claim we didnt kill anyone. Then Gulf war 1. Seen lots. |
Carley User ID: 80219481 United States 04/21/2021 12:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not many Soldiers here it seems. Aside from the service I grew up in DC in open air drug markets people got killed daily. Didnt effect business in the least. everyone just moved about 15 feet from the body and carried on. This was in the late 80s at the height of the crack epidemic. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 67904014 Then i was in Panama, where they claim we didnt kill anyone. Then Gulf war 1. Seen lots. Thank you for your service |
roguetechie81
User ID: 79785318 United States 04/21/2021 12:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. More than a few times... The one that sticks with me was while jet skiing on a lake in my early teens. I saw a ski boat run over the teenage girl water skier they had been pulling. As they cut the throttle the water started going red and people started screaming, I pounded the throttle on my jet ski to get there fast... As I got up close to the boat I was hitting my life jacket buckles and I dive off my jet ski after hitting the kill switch. I popped up in the water right next to her, the lake water tasted slightly of blood, and got an arm around her under her armpits as I barked to the hysterical family members on the boat that I was going to hand her up to them. She was still semi conscious and moaning in pain when I lifted and held her up high enough for two of the men in the boat to pull her up onto the stern deck. (I remember saying I'm sorry quietly over and over as I handed her up because I knew it had to hurt) Scrambling up the swim ladder as they pulled her up and just let her lay on the swim step I could see I wasn't going to get any more help and I couldn't see her pulse in her neck anymore. I moved up next to her and said I'm going to start cpr you need to start moving us towards the marina and ranger station! ... I'll never forget the first two compressions I did on her chest...I pumped once and the people on the boats horrified sounds were distant to me like they were far away but getting louder .... On the second compression I felt something hot and kinda sticky all over my hands and arms (I was locked in, adrenaline fear and everything else giving me tunnel vision etc) I looked down after the second compression and just sort of stopped... Blood was everywhere and there were splash marks from each chest compression... I was so lost and horrified and felt so powerless, I crumpled down sorta kneeling next to her and just held her hand because I could see her eyes still moving but we both knew there wasn't anything I could do. I stayed like that for the entire boat ride back to the marina gently laying a towel over her face as the boat throttled down to come up to the dock... The harbor patrol guys came and started taking statements while an ambulance came for the girl. I waited right there on the dock holding her hand until one of the harbor patrol guys came to get me so the medics could get the body. The harbor patrol guy took me up to his shack let me wash off with the hose and handed 14 year old me a towel, a pen, a statement form and a beer. We just sat there for awhile and then he told me that he heard I had done everything right out there. I broke down and cried and said no I didn't if I did everything right she'd be alive! (It was one of the times I've felt the most broken in my life) He let me cry for awhile and then simply told me that sometimes you can do everything right and it won't fix things because they're too far gone to fix but that doesn't change that you did what you should do. He got me to look at him and he told me I did a good job, that no one else could have done what I did any different or any better and we just sat for awhile. When I had calmed down and drank half of my first beer, he handed me another beer and a sweatshirt and got one of his patrol guys to take me on their boat back to my jet ski which they hooked up to tow back to where my family was camped... The mother of the girl hugged me and the dad shook my hand before we left. That experience left a mark on me. I don't think I fully grasped what the old harbor patrol guy told me in his shack until fairly recently. (I'm almost 40 now) The idea that you can do everything right and it's still not enough to keep someone alive alone is hard enough for someone to understand. But the idea that you can and should hold your head up because you did the right thing after anyway? That's huge! Death is coming for all of us one day. It's not something we can avoid. When I think back on all this now I can be grateful that I was there for that scared and dying teenage girl, that at least she knew someone was right there next to her doing everything they could, and that I could be there for the poor girls family and do the hard things for them. Thank you for sharing. I can feel your agony. I struggled through that emotion as a new ICU nurse. I used to question what if I would have assessed something different quicker, what if I would have asked for certain orders, what if, what if. I ultimately took peace in knowing that I can only do what I can do, it is in far bigger hands then mine. I believe our story is written when we are born and that means the end is already known. Mortal man can’t change that. Your actions helped those parents. If she wasn’t pulled out and an effort made they would have questioned the rest of their lives why they didn’t help her. I can tell you are a very good soul. It took me a long time to feel at peace with that incident. Thank you for your kind words. roguetechie |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69161160 Canada 04/21/2021 12:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My dad died from sepsis caused by untreated diabetes sores on legs. He lived maybe three days after being brought to hospital. I believe he had gas gangrene as the smell from the sores was immense. Surgeon had basically filleted his legs to get rid of infection but it was too little too late. They said amputation was too much. Organs started failing. The last few hours his breathing got bad and then he sat up and looked in the corner like he was talking to someone and said “no”. Then slumped back down. I figure someone in the other side asked him if he wanted to stay on earth. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 75053770 United States 04/21/2021 12:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I held my Dads hand when he died at 80 years old. He was baptized shortly before dying. He handled it like the Marine that he was. About 30 seconds after I thought he was gone....he exhaled a very long breath. His lifeless body soon looked like a collapsed tent. Our bodies are just a home for the soul. 21 gun salute at his funeral. Buried in the National Shrine for veterans near Arvin, Ca "Dutch" |
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User ID: 77416429 United States 04/21/2021 12:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. First time I didn't actually see them die but watch two B-58 Hustlers collide mid air, I was just a kid...found out later it killed 2-3 onboard. Watched a lady burn to death in a car accident...had to hold a cop back as the car was completely engulfed and there was no way to save her. Watched a news guy take photos from the passenger window, he asked me if I wanted to see and I told him HELL NO! No way he could have ever published those so what sick manner of person was he. Watched a murder once...guy was shot in the back. Watched a guy die from a single overturned truck wreck....he looked like a black guy until the paramedics pulled him from the thing...turns out he was white and had suffered traumatic asphyxiation from being hit by something when the vehicle overturned. Paramedic friend told me later there would have been nothing I could have done for him. Those are what come to mind for now.... Ask Alice when she's 10ft tall This is a battle for the future of civilization. If free speech is lost even in America, tyranny is all that lies ahead. Elon Musk |
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User ID: 79640471 United States 04/21/2021 12:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes I was a hospice nurse for 5 years. A few times, my patients @saw” someone coming to get them. The first man I saw die was an older gentleman, mean spirited, I came in to turn him, he grabbed my arm and said watch out behind you with terror in his eyes, and then he passed I believe it was demons coming to get him. I got chills up and down my body, very surreal Quoting: Carley 80219481 I witnessed a similar type death in which the dying woman came up out of a coma -like state shortly before she died, absolutely terrified and tried to get out of the bed . Some kind agent was given to her to put her back under and she died shortly after . It was terrifying to witness and I have been haunted by it ever since . Ethereal |
MR.GGG
User ID: 80043039 Canada 04/21/2021 12:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I've spoken to several WW2 / Korea / 'Nam VETS who were terrified of what would happen to them when they died based on what they did during the war(s). I have no proof - of course - but I do get a very strong impression that what people do during a war is VERY VERY different from what one does on their own. I do not believe that the guy who pulled the bombs-away trigger on the Enola Gay that morning has 90,000 souls to answer to or would be seen as evil like maybe the commandant of Auschwitz. Again NOTHING anybody says, especially based on religious doctrine or teachings by people who claim they "KNOW" is or can be accurate. Until we hit the other side none of us KNOW and I feel sorry for all the religious fanatics who have been taught that killing people will get them a seat beside God. I really don't think that's how it works. But I could be wrong. My2¢ |
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Everything User ID: 80195834 United States 04/21/2021 01:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, from babies to elders, yes, it is not fun, it happens. My husband died in 2018, and he walked away I saw him out of his body looking good really at the time I thought he was just trying to get somewhere, I ran after him, he was gone when he was out of my sight, I ran back to where I left him, he had passed away. He walked away, he looked solid just, I should have known, at the time I wasn't thinking too much, he looked much younger than he was. I didn't see him because I knew he was dead, so I can discount that, it was when he disappeared I ran to where I left him to call someone to help, he had been alive when I went to call someone. I guess the truth is he wasn't exactly dead if he's walking off somewhere. Likewise, I sort of like the Bible and Jesus before he was purified by the Father, and then he could be touched, my husband was not coming back to finish a what God sent Jesus to do. He sure didn't answer me when I hollered at him, he didn't even look my way. He was looking right in front of him, he knew where to go. Sorry I got a headache These are the times that tries men's and women's souls! May we come though it victorious! |
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Furrry Pete
User ID: 80262493 United States 04/21/2021 01:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was sitting at my desk on the 3rd floor in LA when a body went past the window. Lots of suicides off high buildings there. "It's a friendly friendly world" (Andy Kaufman) Calm seas do not a sailor make, Nor easy horses, a horseman. And Jesus was a sailor when he walked upon the water And he spent a long time watching from his lonely wooden tower and when He could be certain only drowning men could see Him- Leonard Cohen |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77159217 United States 04/21/2021 01:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This was awesome. Well done. I have a few times...mostly family members. Some say they can "see" the soul leave the body when the last breath is taken. I will definitely admit there is a definite "presence" when the passing occurs. Very surreal moment, for sure. Quoting: uhhuh Share your experiences. More than a few times... The one that sticks with me was while jet skiing on a lake in my early teens. I saw a ski boat run over the teenage girl water skier they had been pulling. As they cut the throttle the water started going red and people started screaming, I pounded the throttle on my jet ski to get there fast... As I got up close to the boat I was hitting my life jacket buckles and I dive off my jet ski after hitting the kill switch. I popped up in the water right next to her, the lake water tasted slightly of blood, and got an arm around her under her armpits as I barked to the hysterical family members on the boat that I was going to hand her up to them. She was still semi conscious and moaning in pain when I lifted and held her up high enough for two of the men in the boat to pull her up onto the stern deck. (I remember saying I'm sorry quietly over and over as I handed her up because I knew it had to hurt) Scrambling up the swim ladder as they pulled her up and just let her lay on the swim step I could see I wasn't going to get any more help and I couldn't see her pulse in her neck anymore. I moved up next to her and said I'm going to start cpr you need to start moving us towards the marina and ranger station! ... I'll never forget the first two compressions I did on her chest...I pumped once and the people on the boats horrified sounds were distant to me like they were far away but getting louder .... On the second compression I felt something hot and kinda sticky all over my hands and arms (I was locked in, adrenaline fear and everything else giving me tunnel vision etc) I looked down after the second compression and just sort of stopped... Blood was everywhere and there were splash marks from each chest compression... I was so lost and horrified and felt so powerless, I crumpled down sorta kneeling next to her and just held her hand because I could see her eyes still moving but we both knew there wasn't anything I could do. I stayed like that for the entire boat ride back to the marina gently laying a towel over her face as the boat throttled down to come up to the dock... The harbor patrol guys came and started taking statements while an ambulance came for the girl. I waited right there on the dock holding her hand until one of the harbor patrol guys came to get me so the medics could get the body. The harbor patrol guy took me up to his shack let me wash off with the hose and handed 14 year old me a towel, a pen, a statement form and a beer. We just sat there for awhile and then he told me that he heard I had done everything right out there. I broke down and cried and said no I didn't if I did everything right she'd be alive! (It was one of the times I've felt the most broken in my life) He let me cry for awhile and then simply told me that sometimes you can do everything right and it won't fix things because they're too far gone to fix but that doesn't change that you did what you should do. He got me to look at him and he told me I did a good job, that no one else could have done what I did any different or any better and we just sat for awhile. When I had calmed down and drank half of my first beer, he handed me another beer and a sweatshirt and got one of his patrol guys to take me on their boat back to my jet ski which they hooked up to tow back to where my family was camped... The mother of the girl hugged me and the dad shook my hand before we left. That experience left a mark on me. I don't think I fully grasped what the old harbor patrol guy told me in his shack until fairly recently. (I'm almost 40 now) The idea that you can do everything right and it's still not enough to keep someone alive alone is hard enough for someone to understand. But the idea that you can and should hold your head up because you did the right thing after anyway? That's huge! Death is coming for all of us one day. It's not something we can avoid. When I think back on all this now I can be grateful that I was there for that scared and dying teenage girl, that at least she knew someone was right there next to her doing everything they could, and that I could be there for the poor girls family and do the hard things for them. |
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User ID: 32729410 United States 04/21/2021 01:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Fishing off shore at lake lillinonah in CT. I watched some kids jumping off the bridge. One of the kids never surfaced. Two roofs over my head Crichton clan-God.Send.Grace Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth (2 Timothy 2:15) |
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