Domestic Men with Children how do you cope? | |
NowIhavetothinkofaname
User ID: 76035789 Australia 04/07/2021 03:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just say no to it all. Quoting: iSwear no no no no na nah no no no and no dating and marriage these days is like submerging oneself in molten lava for decades on end. one last no better to burn alive with someone than to burn alive alone You seem like you're really desperate to have a relationship. That's a obvious sign you shouldn't be in one. Think about that. NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
Red John
User ID: 42709595 Canada 04/07/2021 03:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just say no to it all. Quoting: iSwear no no no no na nah no no no and no dating and marriage these days is like submerging oneself in molten lava for decades on end. one last no better to burn alive with someone than to burn alive alone You seem like you're really desperate to have a relationship. That's a obvious sign you shouldn't be in one. Think about that. now you're attacking me with assumptions, accusations, judgement, and condemnation oh hai! |
Saint Lance the Odd from BC
User ID: 77547432 Canada 04/07/2021 03:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just say no to it all. Quoting: iSwear no no no no na nah no no no and no dating and marriage these days is like submerging oneself in molten lava for decades on end. one last no better to burn alive with someone than to burn alive alone You seem like you're really desperate to have a relationship. That's a obvious sign you shouldn't be in one. Think about that. now you're attacking me with assumptions, accusations, judgement, and condemnation They are not attacking you, they are confused by your avatar and don't know whether to be repulsed or to whack off. This is GuLP! If you are not busy weaving your own magick, you are trapped in anothers spell. “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” – Marcus Aurelius |
Red John
User ID: 42709595 Canada 04/07/2021 03:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You seem like you're really desperate to have a relationship. That's a obvious sign you shouldn't be in one. Think about that. now you're attacking me with assumptions, accusations, judgement, and condemnation They are not attacking you, they are confused by your avatar and don't know whether to be repulsed or to whack off. This is GuLP! I've been attacked directly by this poster in other threads oh hai! |
Dolan Trumb
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Anonymous Legend
User ID: 80116562 Australia 04/07/2021 03:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ANZUS Treaty 1951 - Aligned forever |
Sal Monella
User ID: 78450007 United States 04/07/2021 03:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Compartmentalize your emotions. You bust ass all day to come home to a house in disorder when all you want is peace. You have to find it somewhere. Give each kid 15 minutes and the wife 30 to calm them all down. Be the family whisperer... If you can't find serenity in your own house that will be the death of you spiritually. You'll dread going home and will try to find solace somewhere else. Expert Generalist With Moral Injury |
MightyDik
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Creme de la Crap
User ID: 80067071 Finland 04/07/2021 04:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It was so better when we were tribes and communities, the kids would run around together, mums and wives would help each other and look after the men as a whole. So much happiness, not the way it is now. Commercialization has almost destroyed our lives. Quit your job and stay at home with the kids and make her work. Cheers. Quoting: Anonymous Legend It's not the commercialization. It's fear. Fear of the other people. Fear of covid. Fear of anything different. It's permeating every strata of society and making us paranoid. Join the Red Team with me! Turd a la Mode by Creme de la Crap Kneel before Satan |
75598709
User ID: 80129766 United States 04/07/2021 05:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They have a support forum here. [link to www.marriagebuilders.com (secure)] Any people anywhere, being inclined and having the power, have the right to rise up, and shake off the existing government, and form a new one that suits them better. This is a most valuable - a most sacred right - a right, which we hope and believe, is to liberate the world. -- Abraham Lincoln The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. -- Albert Camus |
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Saint Lance the Odd from BC
User ID: 77547432 Canada 04/07/2021 05:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | LOl..old me Thread: 2 Chickens on My Lap, 5 Roaming ABout My Porch, Ask Me A Question...Hell it's not Like I'm Goin Anywhere If you are not busy weaving your own magick, you are trapped in anothers spell. “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” – Marcus Aurelius |
Banjom@n
User ID: 22255432 United States 04/07/2021 06:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. Quoting: ~Wisper~ It's called life dude. Deal with it. Not to mention that the guy gets on nearly every thread about faith in Christ and poo-poos the faithful. You get what you deserve, dude. Knowing that I am appointed for the defense of the gospel -Paul the Apostle of Christ |
chasity
User ID: 77360012 United States 04/07/2021 06:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow if true very well put. I hope the best for your family. Quoting: BasiliusValentinus It sounds like you described a god 20 years of my life. Advocating was just the beginning it got worse. It became defending the children and finally protecting the children. Cope? If your situation does not improve coping will turn into how did you all survive. How was you able to save yourself and the kids. And stay alive with sanity intact. I pray your just venting not every situations the same. I would suggest counseling if it's that bad. If the other refuses or in some cases goes along but tries to turn therapist against you or get them to chose sides or favor. I suggest you get a very strong separation plan in place. Document record if you have to any verbal abuse or blow ups that take place. Crappy thing to do I know but wish I had. If she's anything that I'm hoping is not. You have a very ruff ride ahead. The kids are of the utmost importance. Yes they need they're Mother but not if they are put beneath her and targets of abuse of any kind. It's hard to do because naturally they love her no matter how they're treated. But miserable suffering existence in not in any ones best interest Ever. It sounds like she is. Unfortunately OP there is no cure or ever changing her. Coping, your children are not going to be able to cope. If there is a way you can keep them away from her as long as you can like with aunts granny's do that. Try to keep her contact with them minimal. Does she have a favorite out of the 3? grass fed sardines |
anonymous_one
User ID: 78969238 South Africa 04/07/2021 06:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Well, I have no answers for you, and in some ways have similar experiences. My wife is the same, she seems to want to find an issue I think so she can blow out. Personally, as always, I blame social media for many issues. My wife sits all day on her phone (ok she keeps the house, but I mean always has her phone on her and spends hours on FB) watching this youtube crap of families posting their perfect days, its fake and staged and bs, but I think this is the issue (partly). What they actually want to do is post perfect pictures on Instagram etc etc and actually running a family like our mothers did is not part of the plan. Before I was married with children, if asked which is the stronger sex, I would have said without hesitation women, as (according to lore and Hollywood) they always pickup the slack whilst all men do is lie around watching sport and drinking beer all day. But now I am married with children, I have the opposite opinion. Women are emotional and unstable, always everything is too much and they need to take a FB break, or flip out and go off somewhere or hand over tasks to husband. Ok fine. But man still have to work a full time job, do all his normal chores on house/garden/etc, do kids bath etc every night, kids playing all weekend while wife takes a deserved fb break, and then still pickup all the slack during the week from the can't handle it all women. Notice nowhere in there is there any downtime for the man; nor does the opposite apply, we cannot hand over our tasks to them; we cannot flip out or anything as kids need a parent and things need to be kept running, thus in the end men are actually by far the stronger sex. When I watched "The Road" I thought that scene when the mom looses her sh*t and just walks out into the snow was super unrealistic. But now I can totally imagine my wife doing that. In fact I am very concerned now how she will handle the collapse, I hope when internet is down and FB gone she will stabilize, otherwise it will be a tough ride. It was so better when we were tribes and communities, the kids would run around together, mums and wives would help each other and look after the men as a whole. So much happiness, not the way it is now. Commercialization has almost destroyed our lives. Quit your job and stay at home with the kids and make her work. Cheers. Quoting: Anonymous Legend I actually have to come agree with this. Our society has moved away from this for "progress" but honestly I am not really sure that we have won (well I know we have not), as I don't think it has truly resulted in happiness like you said. Not that historical villages didn't have suffering, but just because there was trouble in past does not make our civilization a win. I sometimes feel the issue lies with us men actually, we have somehow not been taught how to be "manly" in the sense of a firm leader of our family, able to "control" our women (which sounds bad, but I mean it in the sense of lead with respect etc, I am not talking about 1950's wife or muslim dominance kind of thing) But again, I think the natural order has been destroyed (deliberately) by our society, and as a result, no one is happy as no-one can find a balance or order. I personally have stated this many times, and will keep saying it, I think the best thing that can happen to humanity is some form of massive catastrophe totally breaking the current social order. As I believe (and history shows) our natural tendency is to live in supportive tribes as you say, when the dust settles we will revert to this state again based on survival instinct, and for a time at any rate, things will be right in the world again. |
HandBanana
User ID: 79977490 United States 04/07/2021 06:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. I can actually relate a lot with this... My 2.5 year old daughter has developed a horrible sleep cycle. It is generally long days as she gets up early and doesn't nap the entire day! Lately, she'll fall out at maybe 10-11PM and then wake back up at 3-4AM --- it's horrible! I feel like I don't get any sleep. I was working a full-time job but there's just too much chaos and at the moment, I don't HAVE to work but I'm on a cash burn and doing side work to keep some income so as not to burn through cash. Regardless, it is very tiresome and the only thing I can say is try to keep breathing, stress causes us to hold our breath, bottle things up and that's never good for chaos. I wish you the best and I wish I had a better answer but I do not... |
SurfacetoAir
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CMcC
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rolltiderv2
User ID: 80208136 United States 04/07/2021 07:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The only way to control a harpy is to make yourself look better, have more money and keep it stashed, and have your own female friends that you could bang if you wanted. She sees you as an unwanted shlub and isn’t attracted to you and probably has no accountability for anything. Typical woman. |
SaveApu
User ID: 79202234 United States 04/07/2021 07:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Your mistake was marrying a psychobitch, then procreating with her. Lay in the bed your made yourself and quit whining like a little pussy. |
Eilonwy
User ID: 80197204 United States 04/07/2021 08:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | raising kids is over before you know it. enjoy every minute, you will miss them with all your heart when it is done you might want to leave a copy of "men are from mars, women are from venus" around. this helped me understand my husband, and even though hubs didn't read it, I think the things I told him about it helped him understand me. you are living the dream, you just don't know it! “A grower of turnips or shaper of clay, a commot Farmer or a king--every man is a hero if he strives more for others than for himself alone.” Lloyd Alexander, The Castle of Llyr |
Grove Street
User ID: 21983498 United States 04/07/2021 08:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tony soprano.?.. i know you loved those ducks...thats when it all startd going south Last Edited by Grove Street on 04/07/2021 08:16 AM Grove And this is why we can't have nice things. |
JustinKGunther
User ID: 50557755 Canada 04/07/2021 08:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. Then you should have kept your pecker in your pants and become a monk. It's called life dude. Deal with it. "My wife is unreasonable and goes out of her way to make me miserable." "It's your fault because you're an idiot for getting married." Because that's precisely what every man in this situation needs to hear, from a woman no less. We get it ladies. You induce misery and we're stupid for putting up with you. The message is loud and clear and well-received. Thanks for being clear about it. Last Edited by JustinKGunther on 04/07/2021 08:23 AM My people- infants are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, your guides mislead you and they have swallowed up the course of your paths. "Because the poor are plundered, because the needy groan, I will now arise," says the Lord |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79696997 United States 04/07/2021 08:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tony soprano.?.. i know you loved those ducks...thats when it all startd going south Didn’t even think about that. “Ducklings” are my offspring. 15 & 12 now and the most consternation happens nowadays when my daughter protests about having to watch Star Trek. And then I catch her getting wrapped up in an episode. Of course there’s no Mother Goose here. Hence the peace. I’m so glad the bitch is gone. - - - - - - |
OldCar
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Eilonwy
User ID: 80197204 United States 04/07/2021 08:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | “A grower of turnips or shaper of clay, a commot Farmer or a king--every man is a hero if he strives more for others than for himself alone.” Lloyd Alexander, The Castle of Llyr |
Big Daddy D
Chaotic Constitutionalist User ID: 79576850 United States 04/07/2021 08:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
RickWilesDerp
User ID: 78931731 United States 04/07/2021 08:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. |
Mohican40k
User ID: 80198649 United States 04/07/2021 08:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife. Quoting: The_Meridian She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me. I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings. How do you cope? I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children. i hear you, i also have dreams of advanced yoga practice, meditation and study of occult philosophy. but my reality is living paycheck to paycheck and draging 5 other people threw choas wife and 4 kids, age 2,4,1,and 12 |
The_Meridian
(OP) Breshears is Off: Ask Me Why User ID: 76838634 United States 04/07/2021 09:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not to mention that the guy gets on nearly every thread about faith in Christ and poo-poos the faithful. Quoting: Banjom@n You get what you deserve, dude. If you're talking about me, I think you have me confused with someone else. I believe in Christ 100%, maybe just not the same way you do. So, that would be YOUR issue, not mine. (B)ullshit™ always needs an amplified bullhorn demanding kneeling subservience - or else.- SyncAsFunk The light within me always draws me back to make the dark decision to leave the false counterfeit light. -New Heart |