All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.
She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.
I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.
How do you cope?
I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
Quoting: The_Meridian Well, I have no answers for you, and in some ways have similar experiences.
My wife is the same, she seems to want to find an issue I think so she can blow out.
Personally, as always, I blame social media for many issues. My wife sits all day on her phone (ok she keeps the house, but I mean always has her phone on her and spends hours on FB) watching this youtube crap of families posting their perfect days, its fake and staged and bs, but I think this is the issue (partly).
What they actually want to do is post perfect pictures on Instagram etc etc and actually running a family like our mothers did is not part of the plan.
Before I was married with children, if asked which is the stronger sex, I would have said without hesitation women, as (according to lore and Hollywood) they always pickup the slack whilst all men do is lie around watching sport and drinking beer all day.
But now I am married with children, I have the opposite opinion.
Women are emotional and unstable, always everything is too much and they need to take a FB break, or flip out and go off somewhere or hand over tasks to husband.
Ok fine.
But man still have to work a full time job, do all his normal chores on house/garden/etc, do kids bath etc every night, kids playing all weekend while wife takes a deserved fb break, and then still pickup all the slack during the week from the can't handle it all women.
Notice nowhere in there is there any downtime for the man; nor does the opposite apply, we cannot hand over our tasks to them; we cannot flip out or anything as kids need a parent and things need to be kept running, thus in the end men are actually by far the stronger sex.
When I watched "The Road" I thought that scene when the mom looses her sh*t and just walks out into the snow was super unrealistic.
But now I can totally imagine my wife doing that. In fact I am very concerned now how she will handle the collapse, I hope when internet is down and FB gone she will stabilize, otherwise it will be a tough ride.
It was so better when we were tribes and communities, the kids would run around together, mums and wives would help each other and look after the men as a whole. So much happiness, not the way it is now. Commercialization has almost destroyed our lives. Quit your job and stay at home with the kids and make her work. Cheers.
Quoting: Anonymous Legend I actually have to come agree with this. Our society has moved away from this for "progress" but honestly I am not really sure that we have won (well I know we have not), as I don't think it has truly resulted in happiness like you said.
Not that historical villages didn't have suffering, but just because there was trouble in past does not make our civilization a win.
I sometimes feel the issue lies with us men actually, we have somehow not been taught how to be "manly" in the sense of a firm leader of our family, able to "control" our women (which sounds bad, but I mean it in the sense of lead with respect etc, I am not talking about 1950's wife or muslim dominance kind of thing)
But again, I think the natural order has been destroyed (deliberately) by our society, and as a result, no one is happy as no-one can find a balance or order.
I personally have stated this many times, and will keep saying it, I think the best thing that can happen to humanity is some form of massive catastrophe totally breaking the current social order.
As I believe (and history shows) our natural tendency is to live in supportive tribes as you say, when the dust settles we will revert to this state again based on survival instinct, and for a time at any rate, things will be right in the world again.
