Wow if true very well put. I hope the best for your family.

It sounds like you described a god 20 years of my life. Advocating was just the beginning it got worse. It became defending the children and finally protecting the children.

Cope? If your situation does not improve coping will turn into how did you all survive. How was you able to save yourself and the kids. And stay alive with sanity intact.

I pray your just venting not every situations the same.

I would suggest counseling if it's that bad. If the other refuses or in some cases goes along but tries to turn therapist against you or get them to chose sides or favor. I suggest you get a very strong separation plan in place.

Document record if you have to any verbal abuse or blow ups that take place. Crappy thing to do I know but wish I had.

If she's anything that I'm hoping is not. You have a very ruff ride ahead.

The kids are of the utmost importance. Yes they need they're Mother but not if they are put beneath her and targets of abuse of any kind. It's hard to do because naturally they love her no matter how they're treated.

But miserable suffering existence in not in any ones best interest Ever.