I will say this in the nicest way possible.
She was not feeding on anything- she was resenting you, and her blank stares were her rethinking her life choices. Men should not have to depend on a woman. She had to live in a tent- you guys can call it an adventure, but she was also felling insecurity, in other words a "Trauma" and perhaps still feels that insecurity today, so her verbalizing to you her needs, you now feel is "narcissistic." I don't know your situation but if she does not feel stable and secure, there is an issue.

Instead to taking stock of your situation, you instead choose to believe she is possibly demonic and incapable of love, with any criticism towards you, labeled as "emotional abuse." Love and respect needs to be earned continuously and emotional connections need to be nourished.

Once a woman begins to question her security, she looses some respect and loss of love is always what follows. You can not expect a woman to follow you off a cliff.

The good news is that we all are damaged goods, or were at some-pint in our lives and all learned we had to fix ourselves first (or as best we can), before we could let someone else into our life. Nobody is perfect, but we have to keep trying to perfect ourselves first, before we can even begin to perfect a relationship.

Sorry, I felt compelled to write this and from one Aspie to another, you need to work twice as hard to show positive emotions and compassion and understanding. Stop worrying about her validating you, begin to be a giver and not a taker.

God Bless.