what to do when your whole life falls apart?

When someone is really low, they realize how bady theyneed the help of the TRINITY. The best way tolift your spirits is by singing. Some churches may be alright, but their music program is dated, irrelevant, and weak.

If you are feeling very blue (which is honestly all depression genuinely is as it used tobe called "melancholia"), then singing around people who are beaming with joy and who are passionately in love with Jesus, will then inspire you.

Some believe to the depths of their souls and so their faith is sincere despite any hardship. Try that; you can't go wrong.

It might suck to hear but. Pick yourself up, put one foot in front of the other, and move on.

I have been there. Lost everything. Wife, job, money, home,vehicles, pride.
It sucks, but it happens.

Concentrate on one thing at a time. Shelter, food, an income.
It gets easier over time.
Just keep going.

Things I learned...

Don't rely on anyone else, ever again.

Do not ever trust a woman again. Ever.
Women are vain and are always looking for something better.
She only used you until you fell on hard times. Then she moved on to the next sucker.
Remember. She's not yours, it's just your turn.

Do what feels right for you.

Don't ask anyone else for their opinion. Use your own.

Say what's on your mind, no matter who it offends.
Don't ever water yourself down just to fit in.
If they can't take you at 100%, fuck em!

Learn what it means to be a man.

Men have been brainwashed into thinking they have to be sensitive and have feelings. That's bullshit.
The best men I have ever known are dangerous.
Weak men can never be virtuous or heroic.
Be honorable, first to yourself, then to others.
Speak the truth. Always.

Become what God intended you to be.

i've been praying every morning and evening. and, as mentioned above, it has helped.

i've been playing keyboard and singing as well ;)
always helped me in the past...

Started over 3 times in my life
Marriage at 14 ; 2 children , bad husband , 16 years marriage
I Upset at god for a long time ; I had prayed so hard .
Long time later found out he raped my girl ; his father tried also
Live is hard at times , life is great at times
I hope you pick a good hearted roommate

i hear you and agree. i've been red pilled for a long time. long before i met her. and, i should know better. i didn't rely on her financially at all. emotionally, i was her rock, but still a rock likes to have some moss grow on it. i often speak my mind and go against the grain, even when everything says i should keep my mouth shut.

the only thing that really hurts is the betrayal, on top of the hardship from the economy... and, i knew and called her out on it and got gas lighted, called jealous, crazy, and controlling. still i knew. i guess fiding out i was right was the worst part.

cheers mate

Hang in there. A void is always filled. Enjoy your freedom, restore your energy. Move on and live again.

Rinse and Repeat.

thank you

stay away from drugs. they are never the answer. truly.

Congrats! You're now free, you just don't know it yet.

haven't been near any drugs, aside from coffee and booze. yeah, i know booze isn't good, but it somehow helped a bit. i used it in excess for the first week or so and then said to myself, no jj, this shit ain't the answer. it did seem to help a bit though.

There are a lot of people who are not genuinely Christians and not married to Christian spouses. The Bible has allowances for this situation. You are not prohibited from remarriage if in that situation.

Get your head screwed on straight and get right with the LORD and find a decent Christian man or a sweet Christian wife. Don't be with a heretic. There are many who were totally unsuitable to be Christian spouses. In history, those folks would have been passed over as Christians would not have put up with them.

And any reading who are immature and screwed up, well the TRINITY do not punish us when we sin and ask for forgiveness. We can only live in the here and now. You are not condemned for your errors. Move forward. That is what the Bible says.

Condemnation comes from Lucifer. That nemesis of humanity wants you to feel shame and guilt. Then you feel unworthy and get stuck. Lucfer wants you to be in the depths of depression so he wins. Screw that! Deny Lucifer the pleasure.

Great post and advice

It's really amazing how different life looks when you find gratitude

Feeling content is learned behavior.

Music is the antidote for the poison of depression...especially Christian music.

Dwelling on depression and how you messed your life or how bad events unfolded doesn't solve anything.

Whores, OP..they're all whores!

On a serious note..whenever I'm down, I think about a game of monopoly. You play all night..amass tons of house, property and wealth. But at the end of the night, all of it goes back into the box.

As long as you're healthy, it's really all that matters. You have to ability to get what you lost again..so long as you stay healthy.

At age 18 I underwent a spinal fusion, effectively resetting all of my goals and aspirations. The things I wanted to do were no longer within my grasp. At the prime of my life, I was cut down.

8 years later, I married and had two kids, but it didn't last and I lost everything.

I married again, this time to a single mom with three kids herself, but again the goals I had were not shared by the ones I was with. In fact, my spouse didn't look beyond day to day and wouldn't set goals with me. It too ended in failure.

Now, I am again single, have a steady source of income, co-jointly own land and live with family. Most of the goals I had in life will never be realized now, due to age and health. This is not my ideal, but at least I am now in good company.

I still suffer from my disability. I always will and it will continue to impact my life going forward. So while I still have goals, they are restricted to what I can do with my health as it is, as a result.

The point..... Focus on the things that matter most to you and don't let anyone stand in your way. Don't look at what could have been, look forward to what can be.

ahhh....that's great to hear, OP.

you are not alone...in the last year: my college grad only child moved for a job 5 states away, cracked my rib (I sing for a living) ouch, went to care for a lifelong friend with AML who just passed last week and my mother passed a few months ago and now my dad is critically ill.

and I love the Lord with all my heart.
At the beginning of this beginning 2019 Holy Spirit filled me with the knowing that 'everything that can be shaken will be'

there's nothing I'd rather than to be with my beloved to swim thru these trying times and laugh and pray together...so my heart goes out to you.

it's the worst loss.

but like one ac said, embrace the change, sit with it.
Romans 8:28 says 'ALL things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His PURPOSE'

sit and ask Heavenly Father what's His purpose, His Will for you right now.

I am so touched by what you wrote. And the responses. It's helped my deep river as well.

thank you. great advice

when she comes back remember what you went through and tell her to fuck off.
Stay strong

Long live
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Last Edited by Mr.N0 on 07/10/2020 06:22 PM

thank you so much for the kind words. god bless you

there is no fucking way i will take her back.

in fact, i had a sad, horrible premonition/dream. she came crawling back and i told her no way, and she lost it and was committed to a insane asylum, or what ever you call them these days. i actually felt/feel bad for her. :( i guess i am an idiot

interesting analogy. cheers

i've been playing music and singing in the evenings and looking for work during the days. yes, i agree, thank you. cheers

Here is the musical rendition of Winston's, saying ...
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It will pass ...

(((hugs))) and more (((hugs)))!

It will be okay. You will find your way out of this mess. Life is kind of like treading water, once you learn you don't forget. life is like riding a bike. Once you learn to balance it, you never forget when you get back on.

You can do this. You can balance your life and be open to creative solutions for extra income to pay the bills.

Maybe you can do a Go Fund Me and tell the folks you'll pay them back or something? Or maybe you can play your keyboard for profit? Maybe make an album?

Whenever I have to solve a problem I go to sleep and wake up with an answer. I think we all can do this if we only try. I imagine we all have the answers already to every problem in this world if only we would listen to our inner knowing.

You are loved. You were made in Love and Divine Love sustains you today and tomorrow.You are surrounded in a sea of Divine Love and you can never be without Divine support. You are being supported right now in ways you never see with your mortal eyes. But, right here, and right now you are being supported. You just have to accept that.

(((HUGS))) To you!

thank you. i have already come to the realization that i am better off without her for many reasons. it still stings, especially with all the other shit piled on deep.

Last Edited by Jay3 on 02/06/2021 01:19 PM