When You Have A Hard Time Forgiving Someone....

I wanted to talk about this because I know it is one of the most prevalent subjects for our world today. People have had so much abuse and sadness that they feel it is IMPOSSIBLE to forgive those that have abused them.

I am 60 years old now and I had a very sad and disfunctional childhood. I was born with 85% yellow blood because my mother had RH factor and they had to give me a blood transfusion. She was an avid alcoholic since she was 18 and she was 31 when i was born. I was the 3rd of 3 girls and an 'accident' from having too much liquor on New Years Eve. She and my dad divorced when I was 7 and he had been having an affair with some woman down the block. The 23 years they were married they had numerous violent fights and I remember some of them but most of them I blocked from my mind.

My dad remarried a very jealous and vindictive woman with 2 kids. The boy physically assaulted me at the age of 8 and her daughter mocked me and made fun of me at school until I finally had enough and moved in with my aunt at 12. After that I moved from relatives to friends until I finally married at 20 just to get away from everything.

All of that is to say that I carried a lot of bitterness and rejection towards both of my parents. It took until I was 50 years old to understand how to 'forgive' them for what they did to me.

It's a simple remedy but really does work when you use it.

When I was overwhelmed with anger I turned towards God and asked Him to 'show' me each of them from 'His' point of view. Every time I 'saw' a vision of them as a 'child' and what they went through as children. That gave me a whole DIFFERENT perspective and melted my heart.

I learned that ALL of us are simply CHILDREN in these 'grown up' bodies...just trying to understand and keep our heads above water in this crazy and heartless world.

I know it sounds simple but it does WORK! Please don't knock it until you have tried it. It has worked for every single person I've shared it with. It changed their world from that point on.

This world needs LOVE and FORGIVENESS more than anything else. If we simply do these two things, this world will turn around into the world we all dream it to be...

It's equal opportunity

"Equality is total nonsense"

God himself set the natural order. Eve was only created to be a helper to Adam!

God himself set the natural order. Eve was only created to be a helper to Adam!

That's why the murders of women are not prosecuted in some area. No soul, same as killing a dog.

It is.

God himself set the natural order. Eve was only created to be a helper to Adam!

Thus forgiveness is more incumbent on some than on others, meaning it isn't equal opportunity. Why not just get revenge, and either assert boundaries or raise your social status?

The Truth hurts.

Well if you follow the Messiahs command, you forgive even though it ain't easy. That is why there is so much violence and hatred, because people dont.

Yikes.

The poster can't accept the Truth so tries to justify her beliefs for why it is wrong. But the Truth still remains despite her denial.

Indeed as it says in the Lord's prayer.

Mat 6:9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

Mat 6:10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as [it is] in heaven.

Mat 6:11 Give us this day our daily bread.

Mat 6:12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

Mat 6:13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.

Note: Something evil is going on because I have always remembered this as on earth, not in earth. The pope wanted to make this change several months ago and somehow he has managed to do it on the internet. The plain fact is that mankind lives on the earth, devils live in the earth.

I'm not a woman, but...yikes. I would think that laws like that would figure into your notions of individual and cultural inequality. But you're Irish, and I've heard what some of your judges have said in cases like the above. U.P.: up!