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Here it is: You plan my mom's last years | |
| xTerm
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| xTerm
(OP) User ID: 68730242 United States03/30/2017 01:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, you get 10-15 years on one, maximum. She is heavy so she will degrade it faster, but she's not ridiculous heavy or anything. I tried to fix that weight issue for the last several years and she blew me off. Not gonna happen again I suppose, but it is too late now. |
| Blowing in the Wind
User ID: 73648352 United States03/30/2017 01:26 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Blowing in the Wind
User ID: 73648352 United States03/30/2017 01:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, you get 10-15 years on one, maximum. She is heavy so she will degrade it faster, but she's not ridiculous heavy or anything. I tried to fix that weight issue for the last several years and she blew me off. Not gonna happen again I suppose, but it is too late now. What do you mean you tried to "fix" the weight issue? Sounds as though your mom has made some decisions on her own whether you like it or not, whether she intended to or not. It isn't about you, it isn't about me, it isn't about GLP. It is about your mom. Listen to HER! |
| xTerm
(OP) User ID: 68730242 United States03/30/2017 01:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How does you mother want to spend her time? 10 to 15 years is about all the good I have left! It is in my best interest to work as many of them as possible. Nothing like a paycheck! Quoting: Blowing in the Wind Does she have a hobby? Do something related to her hobbies. This is were the complications come in. She is a clinical depressive. That means she is non-functional without her medicine. I didn't believe it until I saw it recently and enough times to know it's not fake. Her brain simply doesn't produce the correct chemicals to keep her level, ever. She is doing her best to keep functional as a human at any given time. She says I am her "anchor". I have a pretty solid understanding of what that means but I don't like the implications of it. At any rate, I'm trying to give her one last vacation where she doesn't have to worry about any physical issues before she goes. Anyone have a destination that doesn't have to involve too much walking -- she won't get in a wheelchair so far? |
| xTerm
(OP) User ID: 68730242 United States03/30/2017 01:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, you get 10-15 years on one, maximum. She is heavy so she will degrade it faster, but she's not ridiculous heavy or anything. I tried to fix that weight issue for the last several years and she blew me off. Not gonna happen again I suppose, but it is too late now. What do you mean you tried to "fix" the weight issue? Sounds as though your mom has made some decisions on her own whether you like it or not, whether she intended to or not. It isn't about you, it isn't about me, it isn't about GLP. It is about your mom. Listen to HER! I tried to get her to lose weight but she wouldn't listen and she kept gaining weight and now her heart valve wore out because it was over-stressed. I tried to fix the weight issue by getting her to lose it, but she simply told me that she got depressed if she didn't eat... and she kept on eating anything she wanted. It's not about me, you are right, but she complained incessantly, and I repeatably aimed her at websites that answered her questions but she would rather have had that food at the time. I suspect now the case will have changed. She has depression and a congential heart defect on top of that... her personal outlook is bleak. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14992014 United States03/30/2017 03:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How does you mother want to spend her time? 10 to 15 years is about all the good I have left! It is in my best interest to work as many of them as possible. Nothing like a paycheck! Quoting: Blowing in the Wind Does she have a hobby? Do something related to her hobbies. This is were the complications come in. She is a clinical depressive. That means she is non-functional without her medicine. I didn't believe it until I saw it recently and enough times to know it's not fake. Her brain simply doesn't produce the correct chemicals to keep her level, ever. She is doing her best to keep functional as a human at any given time. She says I am her "anchor". I have a pretty solid understanding of what that means but I don't like the implications of it. At any rate, I'm trying to give her one last vacation where she doesn't have to worry about any physical issues before she goes. Anyone have a destination that doesn't have to involve too much walking -- she won't get in a wheelchair so far? Where would she like to go? Keep in mind traveling can be expensive and very stressful. There might be places closer to home she would like to see that would be less of a financial and emotional strain. You could make more smaller trips that would be easier on her physically and paychologically. It could be a monthly or yearly thing instead of one big blowout. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 74246783 United States03/30/2017 10:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Galapagos Island. Or somewhere with lots of animals. Slow pace. Not crowded, not "touristy". People with clinical depression become over-whelmed easy and that makes them more depressed. So, a slow rural lifestyle, with "locals", Bingo, books and an over 60's exercise group would be a great idea after the vacation. |
| Nine's
User ID: 73809490 United States03/30/2017 11:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Depending on where and how she lives makes a difference, but if possible, she might enjoy something in her own home more than traveling. A patio with pretty blooming plants, a couple bird feeders, comfortable chairs only a few feet apart, an area for sun and an area for shade, might do her a lot of good. You could use plants for the birds you want to attract. Hummingbirds and finches are particularly cheerful. Many plants attract butterflies. Hummingbirds, finches, butterflies and able to move from chair to chair to lessen her standing/walking time might make it refreshing rather than exhausting. Maybe even a little cooler for bottled water or healthy snacks along with some sunglasses, a couple books or other interests. Good luck to you both. She's fortunate to have you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 74580146 United States03/30/2017 11:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 15 years is a long time, kiddo. Millions of kids don't even get that on this planet. The best thing you could get her is proper CBT treatment for her depression, or she isn't going to enjoy much of her time left. Part of that treatment is daily exercise and cleaning up the diet. Even if she can't walk right now, she can lift light weights in a chair. In fact, there are whole work-out videos for folks to do while sitting down. More fun are water aerobics classes, because it gets her out of the house and interacting with others, which might result in a friendship or two. If you think that one big trip to Asia is going to make her happy for the next 15 years, I think you are going to be terribly disappointed. Take her when she is emotionally recovered, and you will both enjoy it, together. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 74558429 United States03/30/2017 11:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dead serious. She went through a surgery yesterday and made it but they didn't get what they wanted and she now has 10-15 years with a cow heart valve that can't be replaced due to damage done during this second heart surgery. Quoting: xTerm I'm looking for unique things, I've had a pretty extraordinary life and reported that to her, but we are looking at something not related to Europe or Hawaii. She had a congenital heart defect by the way, so she didn't get to do what a normal person might do, but she did work hard and through some dismal issues for her entire life up until now. It's my turn to provide for her something that can make all that feel worthwhile. What have you people got? She has had to work her whole life: How might I help her spend her last years? Keep your bullshit to yourselves, I need something that fits her declining income and doesn't treat her like a bowl of shit. She made almost 100K a year in a state where that is top tier and she had no degree. She did a hell of a lot better than most around here. I spent a great deal of my life abroad and I moved back here a few years ago because I thought she might not survive but she has been given 10-15 years now and I wish to plan it out(she is terrible at that). Let's hear some suggestions (that don't require too much physical fitness). I'm looking for travel and I'm quite capable of makng arrangements if needed. She needs to see some asian stuff, if that helps. Take your mother infatuation to some incest site shit-for-brains. |
| Sunny Daze
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| Whiskey*Tango
User ID: 73098867 United States03/30/2017 04:33 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 74456885 Canada03/30/2017 04:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dead serious. She went through a surgery yesterday and made it but they didn't get what they wanted and she now has 10-15 years with a cow heart valve that can't be replaced due to damage done during this second heart surgery. Quoting: xTerm I'm looking for unique things, I've had a pretty extraordinary life and reported that to her, but we are looking at something not related to Europe or Hawaii. She had a congenital heart defect by the way, so she didn't get to do what a normal person might do, but she did work hard and through some dismal issues for her entire life up until now. It's my turn to provide for her something that can make all that feel worthwhile. What have you people got? She has had to work her whole life: How might I help her spend her last years? Keep your bullshit to yourselves, I need something that fits her declining income and doesn't treat her like a bowl of shit. She made almost 100K a year in a state where that is top tier and she had no degree. She did a hell of a lot better than most around here. I spent a great deal of my life abroad and I moved back here a few years ago because I thought she might not survive but she has been given 10-15 years now and I wish to plan it out(she is terrible at that). Let's hear some suggestions (that don't require too much physical fitness). I'm looking for travel and I'm quite capable of makng arrangements if needed. She needs to see some asian stuff, if that helps. What does she enjoy or find interesting, what would she find "delightful"? This is a start. Does she like history? Does she enjoy food? Why are you thinking Asia ? |
| ruser
User ID: 73660801 United States03/30/2017 04:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
