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Anonymous Coward User ID: 12092415 United States 03/18/2016 09:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am sorry this is happening for you, you always seem really sweet and your posts are always nice. I agree with the above, get a mediator and if at all possible be amicable about the kids and let them know that it is not their fault, and that you both still love them. I was not a child of divorce but i watched a few friends go through it, it can do a lot of damage if the parents use them as leverage. Good luck. You are very pretty and you seem sweet, I am sure there is a happy life out there for you. Praying for you. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 35200367 Australia 03/18/2016 09:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriage brings two people together to become one. What did you think you were getting yourself into? Living in a fantasy world it seems! You gone and done fucked up because you were always after comfort over something real... Makes me cringe that the idea of divorce is an acceptable thing. You were never in love. Two egos in a relationship at best and now you are running away from each other and your mistakes. You have made a mockery out of love. You are one with your husband just as your husband is one with you. You wanted this Now fix yourself instead of getting a divorce. Stop waiting for your husband to show love and light the spark yourself! I hope you can prove me wrong with everything I've said. |
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User ID: 71687719 United States 03/18/2016 09:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! While you are still on his insurance, get a complete physical and any needed dental work done. Start taking a good multivitamin from a health food store (not the drug store) Rent a storage locker and put things you do not want to lose in there. Sell what you can. Yard sale, Craigs list, resale consignment shops. You must have your own bank account if you do not already. Stash some cash somewhere. Bury it if you have to. Have serious talks with your lawyer; most of them need to be urged into a more active mode. I know they are busy but they still often need to be jump started into giving you info you need to know. That's what they are there for. "Do Not Go Gentle into that Good Night.....Rage, rage against the dying of the light"-----Dylan Thomas HIS NAME IS SETH RICH [link to biblicalselfdefense.com] [link to forum.1111ers.blog] Always remember that "for the greater good" will not include YOU. "Who decides?" ---Robert A. Heinlein -'Whoever would overthrow the liberty of a nation must begin by subduing the freeness of speech.'—Benjamin Franklin [link to www.westcoasttruth.com] The only thing worth paying full retail for is pantyhose. You cannot do all of the good the world needs, but the world needs all of the good you can do. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71675730 United States 03/18/2016 10:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Evaluate your heart. If divorce is your focus, there will be no room for love. You will of course go with the focus you decide to cultivate. You have chosen to grow evil in your heart instead of nourishing love. Love is a choice which you have made a conscious decision to deny. So sad. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 31797214 United States 03/18/2016 10:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Evaluate your heart. Quoting: Osmium76 If divorce is your focus, there will be no room for love. You will of course go with the focus you decide to cultivate. You have chosen to grow evil in your heart instead of nourishing love. Love is a choice which you have made a conscious decision to deny. So sad. Sometimes "love" is following up on tough realizations that, although they hurt to realize, are better for all parties involved. And have nothing to do with the expectations of judgy, outside observers. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71022567 United States 03/18/2016 10:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriage brings two people together to become one. What did you think you were getting yourself into? Living in a fantasy world it seems! You gone and done fucked up because you were always after comfort over something real... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 35200367 Makes me cringe that the idea of divorce is an acceptable thing. You were never in love. Two egos in a relationship at best and now you are running away from each other and your mistakes. You have made a mockery out of love. You are one with your husband just as your husband is one with you. You wanted this Now fix yourself instead of getting a divorce. Stop waiting for your husband to show love and light the spark yourself! I hope you can prove me wrong with everything I've said. So true..... STOP! Wake up! This is your given life to make right. Make it right. Be the one who heals in love. If necessary, die trying. Never accept defeat of Love. You have power and agency to send evil away. |
NowIhavetothinkofaname
User ID: 25480668 United Kingdom 03/18/2016 11:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree! If you're going to drink like an Alki it should be 12 year old scotch... Whoops! But seriously see a lawyer and draw up a shared custody agreement. Then work on the division of assets using the shared custody agreement as a stick to get some money to rent a place big enough for the kids. Then pack! Kids Assets Move In that order. You need lawyers for legally binding agreements, but the less you pay them the more assets left after the divorce for the kids! So avoiding the lawyers works best in the long term. An amicable separation is better for the kids psychologically, but you have to make your husband realize if he wants a fight you'll have to give him one and the lawyers will get his house! Good luck! NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
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User ID: 25480668 United Kingdom 03/18/2016 11:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why are YOU moving and not him? He wants the divorce so bad he needs to leave. You MUST talk to your lawyer. Please stand your ground. Quoting: CrimsonBleu .. and do not use the same lawyer. You need someone who will represent you and the kids. Do not move out. Find a good divorce lawyer in your area, and talk to them before you do anything. Actually; lawyers tend to know each other. Whether from Law School, or constant court cases or mediation! More often than not lawyers will agitate for screwing your spouse out of everything for the purpose of stealing your house. It's odd for an lawyer to represent both sides of the case, but if you're hell bent on being amicable it works out to be cheaper! Fighting to the bitter end only makes the lawyers rich! The more money to fight over the longer and more costly your divorce. Oddly enough that leads me to offer the best advice of the thread.... Tell your lawyers you're both poor and ask for the pensioner rate! Actively downplay any wealth you have; drive a beater to their office, tell them you rent! Say you have great stuff when describing your 5 year old computer you bought secondhand from the local pawnbroker! If your lawyers don't see dollar signs when they see you; your divorce will be quick and relatively painless! NowIhavetothinkofanameohnoithurts It's all bull! Nevertheless, the ruler is not truly wise who cannot discern evils before they develop themselves, and this is a faculty given to few. Niccolo Machiavelli Karma is funny, people who kick dogs usually get bitten. If someone doesn't add value to your life, then that someone shouldn't be a part of it. You can always trust people to do whatever is in their own interests. It is certain wastelands will be brought under cultivation. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 8555618 United States 03/18/2016 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Don't shelter the kids from the realities of life, things like these happen. Be grown up about it, try to work out what you want with your soon to be ex and get on with life. If it doesn't work out let the lawyers hash it out, it's what their taking your hard earned money for. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71675730 United States 03/18/2016 12:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Evaluate your heart. Quoting: Osmium76 If divorce is your focus, there will be no room for love. You will of course go with the focus you decide to cultivate. You have chosen to grow evil in your heart instead of nourishing love. Love is a choice which you have made a conscious decision to deny. So sad. Sometimes "love" is following up on tough realizations that, although they hurt to realize, are better for all parties involved. And have nothing to do with the expectations of judgy, outside observers. The premise of marriage is that two people commit to being bound to one another by taking a vow to stick with it for better or worse and such a vow does NOT come from those outside. It is intrinsic to the marriage creed of those individuals making that pact. It is a contract to love and work through difficulties regardless of what they are. So what you claim to be outside, truly is NOT. The marriage creed gives no justification or reason for someone to break that contract short of fornication. Have you ever heard anyone take a vow when getting married to to the other individual that says I will stick with you until things get bad? NO. YOU HAVE NOT. Marrying someone is just like giving birth to a child. The person you marry is bound to you in the exact same manner with the exact same joy, hopes, disappointments etc, but unlike a child, you and that individual make a pact to live your lives for and unto one another, whereas a child is free to find a mate of their own and leave even though they will always be your child. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 31797214 United States 03/18/2016 12:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Evaluate your heart. Quoting: Osmium76 If divorce is your focus, there will be no room for love. You will of course go with the focus you decide to cultivate. You have chosen to grow evil in your heart instead of nourishing love. Love is a choice which you have made a conscious decision to deny. So sad. Sometimes "love" is following up on tough realizations that, although they hurt to realize, are better for all parties involved. And have nothing to do with the expectations of judgy, outside observers. The premise of marriage is that two people commit to being bound to one another by taking a vow to stick with it for better or worse and such a vow does NOT come from those outside. It is intrinsic to the marriage creed of those individuals making that pact. It is a contract to love and work through difficulties regardless of what they are. So what you claim to be outside, truly is NOT. The marriage creed gives no justification or reason for someone to break that contract short of fornication. Have you ever heard anyone take a vow when getting married to to the other individual that says I will stick with you until things get bad? NO. YOU HAVE NOT. Of course not. But saying that divorce is a loveless option has all the potential of being a emotional trap for the person that you're telling it to. I'm all for having ideals and all and of course I'd rather see couples succeed at relationships rather than fail at them. But failure does happen. People grow apart and there are consequences when such things happen that sometimes cannot be remedied. Have you ever been in such a position to realize that letting someone go, despite your own wants and desires about the situation, is what would make that other person HAPPIER in life? |
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(OP) User ID: 63454444 United States 03/18/2016 12:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Coming to stay with my mom was a mutual decision reached between me and my husband and supported by both our mothers. We all thought a low-stress environment would be best for not only me, but also for the kids, in the long as I start the beginnings of recovery. As I've been here, our relationship has deteriorated further, he has no interest in going to an AA meeting to observe or AlAnon to aide my recovery. I find this disheartening and telling about his commitment to the hard work I'm doing to stay sober. It's just an hour out of one day. Then we reevaluated our relationship and though we both DO believe marriage is forever, sometimes things just don't go the way you planned and he wants a separation. I think all of this is just too much for him. I told him it made me sad because he won't get to see the "sane-sober" version of me. He was unmoved. My kids are safe, well taken care of and I have to find solace in that right now. If I don't fix myself, I'll never be the mom they deserve. Does it rip my heart out and make me want to vomit that I can't hug, kiss, hold, read to them, cook them dinner and be with them each day? HELL YES. But it makes me sicker to think of relapsing and letting them down. So it is what it is, temporarily. I do not want the house because I cannot afford it. He'll either have to buy me out (most likely) or sell it and split the profit (highly unlikely). He will not accuse me of abandonment, we may not get along, and there are wrongs on both sides, but in the end he's a stand-up guy and will not screw me. I'm sending him a list of smallish items (couch - we have two sets, etc.) that I want and we've made this list before - we were temporarily separated last year. So this is not really new to us. Thanks to the supporters in this thread, I appreciate it! Formerly faint |
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User ID: 611290 United States 03/18/2016 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm now facing a separation/divorce. Not happy about it, but life will go on. Quoting: faint I'm thinking logistics. I have so much stuff in that house, it will take forever to pack up. Obviously I don't want my kids to see this, so I assume we'd send them to a grandma's house for the weekend. If you got divorced, how difficult was it to pack up and move out? Thinking about it makes me want to hurl. This is the house we built together, and even though we've grown apart to this point, I cannot fathom leaving. I'll take friends with me. Was your ex there, watching everything? How does this work? Sorry if this seems like a stupid question, but I'm sort of numb and in shock and I don't know how to make heads or tails of it. Thanks. Dang it all, your post makes me very sad, you seem so lost. There is no magic formula as to how to do things, just do the best you can in the moment. If you need help, please do not hesitate to reach out to your family here. FACTS Don't Give a DAMN about your FEELINGS! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71686963 United States 03/18/2016 01:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry you're going through this. I am too and it sucks, but hopefully this kind of stuff can only make us stronger than ever! Quoting: Quetzal785 Why do you need to become stronger, are you planning another divorce in the future? OMG BRIEF thanks for the levity! I truly appreciate everyone's advice. Here's a rundown: Neither of us cheated We just cannot get along We really haven't gotten along for 7+ years I'm closer to the kids by a wide margin I do not want the house because it's too expensive The downfall of the relationship started when he opened his own business and started funneling money without my knowledge and was never at home to boot - and still cannot tell me if the business has made any money (since Nov '14) because he "hasn't had time to do the books" (WTF?) This lead to me drinking and eventual rehab I had to get away from him when I got out because he was being beyond controlling and I could see a relapse coming The kids are in school, so I could not take them with right now :-( I plan to move back as soon as I find employment I wasn't the best wife in the world, and my addiction caused many fights, but I preferred to drink alone and (surprise) read GLP after the kids were in bed. He could not tolerate it. I'm talking to the kids more now, so that's good and I've lawyered up. So there it is, for better or worse (and richer or poorer*) *totally this Wow typical shit head woman right here folks |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71675730 United States 03/18/2016 01:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Evaluate your heart. Quoting: Osmium76 If divorce is your focus, there will be no room for love. You will of course go with the focus you decide to cultivate. You have chosen to grow evil in your heart instead of nourishing love. Love is a choice which you have made a conscious decision to deny. So sad. Sometimes "love" is following up on tough realizations that, although they hurt to realize, are better for all parties involved. And have nothing to do with the expectations of judgy, outside observers. The premise of marriage is that two people commit to being bound to one another by taking a vow to stick with it for better or worse and such a vow does NOT come from those outside. It is intrinsic to the marriage creed of those individuals making that pact. It is a contract to love and work through difficulties regardless of what they are. So what you claim to be outside, truly is NOT. The marriage creed gives no justification or reason for someone to break that contract short of fornication. Have you ever heard anyone take a vow when getting married to to the other individual that says I will stick with you until things get bad? NO. YOU HAVE NOT. Of course not. But saying that divorce is a loveless option has all the potential of being a emotional trap for the person that you're telling it to. I'm all for having ideals and all and of course I'd rather see couples succeed at relationships rather than fail at them. But failure does happen. People grow apart and there are consequences when such things happen that sometimes cannot be remedied. Have you ever been in such a position to realize that letting someone go, despite your own wants and desires about the situation, is what would make that other person HAPPIER in life? I am married to a woman right now. We do not live with one another. She is doing what she wants, even though it is not what is right for us. I won't divorce her, because I made a commitment to her. I can't prevent her from divorcing me, but I will stick to loving her and hope that she will come to see her selfishness. A separation is the only course of action open to me at this time, but this does not mean that I am free to be with another in any capacity, despite if this is what I elect to do. I cannot divorce her and then remarry, because then I would be committing adultery. If she divorces me, only then am I free to remarry. She on the other hand is not, according to biblical principle. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71686963 United States 03/18/2016 01:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: apprentice Sometimes "love" is following up on tough realizations that, although they hurt to realize, are better for all parties involved. And have nothing to do with the expectations of judgy, outside observers. The premise of marriage is that two people commit to being bound to one another by taking a vow to stick with it for better or worse and such a vow does NOT come from those outside. It is intrinsic to the marriage creed of those individuals making that pact. It is a contract to love and work through difficulties regardless of what they are. So what you claim to be outside, truly is NOT. The marriage creed gives no justification or reason for someone to break that contract short of fornication. Have you ever heard anyone take a vow when getting married to to the other individual that says I will stick with you until things get bad? NO. YOU HAVE NOT. Of course not. But saying that divorce is a loveless option has all the potential of being a emotional trap for the person that you're telling it to. I'm all for having ideals and all and of course I'd rather see couples succeed at relationships rather than fail at them. But failure does happen. People grow apart and there are consequences when such things happen that sometimes cannot be remedied. Have you ever been in such a position to realize that letting someone go, despite your own wants and desires about the situation, is what would make that other person HAPPIER in life? I am married to a woman right now. We do not live with one another. She is doing what she wants, even though it is not what is right for us. I won't divorce her, because I made a commitment to her. I can't prevent her from divorcing me, but I will stick to loving her and hope that she will come to see her selfishness. A separation is the only course of action open to me at this time, but this does not mean that I am free to be with another in any capacity, despite if this is what I elect to do. If she divorces me, only then am I free to remarry. She on the other hand is not, according to biblical principle. Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 70581597 United States 03/18/2016 01:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm now facing a separation/divorce. Not happy about it, but life will go on. Quoting: faint I'm thinking logistics. I have so much stuff in that house, it will take forever to pack up. Obviously I don't want my kids to see this, so I assume we'd send them to a grandma's house for the weekend. If you got divorced, how difficult was it to pack up and move out? Thinking about it makes me want to hurl. This is the house we built together, and even though we've grown apart to this point, I cannot fathom leaving. I'll take friends with me. Was your ex there, watching everything? How does this work? Sorry if this seems like a stupid question, but I'm sort of numb and in shock and I don't know how to make heads or tails of it. Thanks. If that's really you, you're way too pretty to be married. Enjoy life. Your youth will be gone before you know it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71675730 United States 03/18/2016 01:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Osmium76 The premise of marriage is that two people commit to being bound to one another by taking a vow to stick with it for better or worse and such a vow does NOT come from those outside. It is intrinsic to the marriage creed of those individuals making that pact. It is a contract to love and work through difficulties regardless of what they are. So what you claim to be outside, truly is NOT. The marriage creed gives no justification or reason for someone to break that contract short of fornication. Have you ever heard anyone take a vow when getting married to to the other individual that says I will stick with you until things get bad? NO. YOU HAVE NOT. Of course not. But saying that divorce is a loveless option has all the potential of being a emotional trap for the person that you're telling it to. I'm all for having ideals and all and of course I'd rather see couples succeed at relationships rather than fail at them. But failure does happen. People grow apart and there are consequences when such things happen that sometimes cannot be remedied. Have you ever been in such a position to realize that letting someone go, despite your own wants and desires about the situation, is what would make that other person HAPPIER in life? I am married to a woman right now. We do not live with one another. She is doing what she wants, even though it is not what is right for us. I won't divorce her, because I made a commitment to her. I can't prevent her from divorcing me, but I will stick to loving her and hope that she will come to see her selfishness. A separation is the only course of action open to me at this time, but this does not mean that I am free to be with another in any capacity, despite if this is what I elect to do. If she divorces me, only then am I free to remarry. She on the other hand is not, according to biblical principle. Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no biblical basis to divorce her. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71686963 United States 03/18/2016 01:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: apprentice Of course not. But saying that divorce is a loveless option has all the potential of being a emotional trap for the person that you're telling it to. I'm all for having ideals and all and of course I'd rather see couples succeed at relationships rather than fail at them. But failure does happen. People grow apart and there are consequences when such things happen that sometimes cannot be remedied. Have you ever been in such a position to realize that letting someone go, despite your own wants and desires about the situation, is what would make that other person HAPPIER in life? I am married to a woman right now. We do not live with one another. She is doing what she wants, even though it is not what is right for us. I won't divorce her, because I made a commitment to her. I can't prevent her from divorcing me, but I will stick to loving her and hope that she will come to see her selfishness. A separation is the only course of action open to me at this time, but this does not mean that I am free to be with another in any capacity, despite if this is what I elect to do. If she divorces me, only then am I free to remarry. She on the other hand is not, according to biblical principle. Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no basis to divorce her. Hahaha values, she left you!! That's what we call a clue. But hey, if you wanna let her go bang dudes while you foot the bill with your "values" I'm sure she won't mind. Harden the fuck up |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71675730 United States 03/18/2016 01:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Osmium76 I am married to a woman right now. We do not live with one another. She is doing what she wants, even though it is not what is right for us. I won't divorce her, because I made a commitment to her. I can't prevent her from divorcing me, but I will stick to loving her and hope that she will come to see her selfishness. A separation is the only course of action open to me at this time, but this does not mean that I am free to be with another in any capacity, despite if this is what I elect to do. If she divorces me, only then am I free to remarry. She on the other hand is not, according to biblical principle. Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no basis to divorce her. Hahaha values, she left you!! That's what we call a clue. But hey, if you wanna let her go bang dudes while you foot the bill with your "values" I'm sure she won't mind. Harden the fuck up like I said, I have no proof of such. Even if she is doing as you say, without proof, I am obligated to stay the course and remain a man of integrity. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 31797214 United States 03/18/2016 01:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71686963 Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no basis to divorce her. Hahaha values, she left you!! That's what we call a clue. But hey, if you wanna let her go bang dudes while you foot the bill with your "values" I'm sure she won't mind. Harden the fuck up like I said, I have no proof of such. Even if she is doing as you say, without proof, I am obligated to stay the course and remain a man of integrity. You have ONE shot at this life. ONE. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71406544 United States 03/18/2016 01:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71686963 Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no basis to divorce her. Hahaha values, she left you!! That's what we call a clue. But hey, if you wanna let her go bang dudes while you foot the bill with your "values" I'm sure she won't mind. Harden the fuck up like I said, I have no proof of such. Even if she is doing as you say, without proof, I am obligated to stay the course and remain a man of integrity. I am another man in the same boots. I will die doing the right thing for my family, and not let my wife's immaturity be the end of our family. Integrity is the kind of thing that's highly devalued today. Best wishes for you. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71686963 United States 03/18/2016 01:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71686963 Here let me sum that up for you. " hi I'm a huge raging vagina" dude dump that bitch and move on....trust me she has. And btw OP is hot as F Some of us have values, unless I can prove she is committing fornication, I have no basis to divorce her. Hahaha values, she left you!! That's what we call a clue. But hey, if you wanna let her go bang dudes while you foot the bill with your "values" I'm sure she won't mind. Harden the fuck up like I said, I have no proof of such. Even if she is doing as you say, without proof, I am obligated to stay the course and remain a man of integrity. Well shit, I will compliment you on standing firm man. But dude if she leaves that is grounds for a divorce. Just want my fellow bros to be happy. You happy with our current setup? Life is short homie |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69246355 United States 03/18/2016 01:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry you're going through this. I am too and it sucks, but hopefully this kind of stuff can only make us stronger than ever! Quoting: Quetzal785 Why do you need to become stronger, are you planning another divorce in the future? OMG BRIEF thanks for the levity! I truly appreciate everyone's advice. Here's a rundown: Neither of us cheated We just cannot get along We really haven't gotten along for 7+ years I'm closer to the kids by a wide margin I do not want the house because it's too expensive The downfall of the relationship started when he opened his own business and started funneling money without my knowledge and was never at home to boot - and still cannot tell me if the business has made any money (since Nov '14) because he "hasn't had time to do the books" (WTF?) This lead to me drinking and eventual rehab I had to get away from him when I got out because he was being beyond controlling and I could see a relapse coming The kids are in school, so I could not take them with right now :-( I plan to move back as soon as I find employment I wasn't the best wife in the world, and my addiction caused many fights, but I preferred to drink alone and (surprise) read GLP after the kids were in bed. He could not tolerate it. I'm talking to the kids more now, so that's good and I've lawyered up. So there it is, for better or worse (and richer or poorer*) *totally this Wow typical shit head woman right here folks What a b-tch. You can tell she is the problem. I pray for your husband OP, |