My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? | |
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GonadTheBallbarian
User ID: 54659331 United States 10/19/2015 08:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? My two middle school aged daughters are both in their schools advanced/gifted programs. It keeps them separated from the the thugs and idiots (always a huge plus), but I have to talk with them EVERYDAY about some dumb shit their teachers say. For example... Last week my sixth grader comes to me while I'm helping put dinner on the plates and says "Did you know that teachers in Texas accused a Muslim kid of having a bomb in school when all he had was a clock?" Needless to say, I was rather concerned (furious) and told her the real story and we all had a hearty laugh about it over dinner. My when my eighth grader was in seventh grade, her critical thinking class pretty much read books all year and then discussed them. I asked her one day about the books they were reading and she told me the first one was about a racist doctor who didn't want to treat a black kid, and the second one was about a racist white guy and a few Mexicans in a life raft lost at sea. I was also pretty upset with that and had to have a serious discussion about white guilt and why it's for suckers lol. However... They both have an INCREDIBLE civics teacher who inspires them daily. They honestly have a better understanding of our constitution, rights, and freedoms than most adults I know, so we get to have a lot of meaningful discussions that we may not have been able to have yet. They also have awesome science and math teachers. I have been dealing with it for three years now and I still mixed feelings about it lol I'd rather be real and rejected than fake and accepted. Individualism is the logical conclusion of rational political/social opinions. Leftism is the absence of any. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 70514921 United States 10/19/2015 08:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? The "gifted program" is the level that used to be the standard learning curve twenty years ago. I've volunteered in both of my kids' classrooms over the years, and I can tell you that the standards have been lowered to teach to the increasing number of ESL and special-ed students in the classroom. For a few years, our district had separate classrooms where kids who were behind could receive more intense one-on-one instruction, but parents complained that they did not want their kids removed from the regular classroom for these services. So, what you have today is the homeroom teacher managing different tiers of learning ability in one classroom whereby the majority of students fall into the lower tier. There are many reasons for this. I've already mentioned two above, but there are a myriad of behavioral problems and learning disabilities that make up a large percentage of the classroom today. Those students who are of normal development and who have the English language basics down are therefore deemed "gifted." |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69650655 United States 10/19/2015 08:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? I have two in the program, both boys. The upside is they learn so much more and have more opportunities. The down side I've found is that if my kids don't score as well as others on tests and projects, they constantly compare themselves to the other kids in class and worry they are not smart enough. So it can hurt their confidence because they are constantly around high performers. This is what I don't like about the program. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 70395662 United States 10/19/2015 09:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? Best wishes OP. She will be fine. If it turns out not to be for her that is fine also. Just stay in tune with what's going on - and public, private, or homeschool - in all situations the balance and effort parents put in does make a difference. I try and incorporate a lot of natural history lessons and science into our leisure activities and have since my son was very small - the results have paid off and teachers comment to me about what he knows just from our family "field trips" - Also a really big HUGE HUGE HUGE help - was I hired a tutor once a week - not because he was behind but to have extra reinforcement and security in his subjects - so if one week it was math they did math - next week maybe reading or writing - I did this so he could have an on target tutor familiar with the way they teach now (which is not how I learned so many years ago) and two, so he never had a time of loss of confidence and so that he and I - DID NOT ENGAGE IN POWER STRUGGLES over his work. I think its also helpful this is a different person than me. He gets enough direction from me about life stuff - and he listens his tutors more about school then he would do for me. Look online OP, there are articles about how helpful tutors can be so that anxiety never happens - once that anxiety cycle starts up it can be a hurdle for kids. So instead of yelling or frustration and tears about homework I had a tutor that keep all those struggles at bay. The result is my son is super confident now, in all advanced classes - while some of his friends are slipping behind and FIGHTING LIKE CATS AND DOGS with their parents. |
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Narcissistic
(OP) User ID: 66822930 United States 10/19/2015 09:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? Every kid is different. If you feel she would like to be more challenged and is currently bored with her schoolwork, and the teachers are better, then I would go for it. But if there's a chance she will lose confidence and get stressed out then no. You want her to feel happy. And she's only six! Quoting: Sloane So many people say you should be homeschooling - but it's not realistic or possible for many people - i.e. have to go to work. And some public schools are really good. Good luck to your little angel. :happygirl: |
Narcissistic
(OP) User ID: 66822930 United States 10/19/2015 09:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? My two middle school aged daughters are both in their schools advanced/gifted programs. It keeps them separated from the the thugs and idiots (always a huge plus), but I have to talk with them EVERYDAY about some dumb shit their teachers say. Quoting: GonadTheBallbarian For example... Last week my sixth grader comes to me while I'm helping put dinner on the plates and says "Did you know that teachers in Texas accused a Muslim kid of having a bomb in school when all he had was a clock?" Needless to say, I was rather concerned (furious) and told her the real story and we all had a hearty laugh about it over dinner. My when my eighth grader was in seventh grade, her critical thinking class pretty much read books all year and then discussed them. I asked her one day about the books they were reading and she told me the first one was about a racist doctor who didn't want to treat a black kid, and the second one was about a racist white guy and a few Mexicans in a life raft lost at sea. I was also pretty upset with that and had to have a serious discussion about white guilt and why it's for suckers lol. However... They both have an INCREDIBLE civics teacher who inspires them daily. They honestly have a better understanding of our constitution, rights, and freedoms than most adults I know, so we get to have a lot of meaningful discussions that we may not have been able to have yet. They also have awesome science and math teachers. I have been dealing with it for three years now and I still mixed feelings about it lol Thanks for the real advice! |
GonadTheBallbarian
User ID: 54659331 United States 10/19/2015 09:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? My two middle school aged daughters are both in their schools advanced/gifted programs. It keeps them separated from the the thugs and idiots (always a huge plus), but I have to talk with them EVERYDAY about some dumb shit their teachers say. Quoting: GonadTheBallbarian For example... Last week my sixth grader comes to me while I'm helping put dinner on the plates and says "Did you know that teachers in Texas accused a Muslim kid of having a bomb in school when all he had was a clock?" Needless to say, I was rather concerned (furious) and told her the real story and we all had a hearty laugh about it over dinner. My when my eighth grader was in seventh grade, her critical thinking class pretty much read books all year and then discussed them. I asked her one day about the books they were reading and she told me the first one was about a racist doctor who didn't want to treat a black kid, and the second one was about a racist white guy and a few Mexicans in a life raft lost at sea. I was also pretty upset with that and had to have a serious discussion about white guilt and why it's for suckers lol. However... They both have an INCREDIBLE civics teacher who inspires them daily. They honestly have a better understanding of our constitution, rights, and freedoms than most adults I know, so we get to have a lot of meaningful discussions that we may not have been able to have yet. They also have awesome science and math teachers. I have been dealing with it for three years now and I still mixed feelings about it lol Thanks for the real advice! No problem at all. And congrats to your daughter for being smart as hell!!! I'd rather be real and rejected than fake and accepted. Individualism is the logical conclusion of rational political/social opinions. Leftism is the absence of any. |
tiger1
User ID: 68665462 United States 10/19/2015 09:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? So my baby June, in 1st Grade - her teacher at the last PTO (We call them that in this State) - they are teaching her 3rd Grade English and Math since she "naturally" is able to pick up on the 1st/2nd grade material. Quoting: Narcissistic Now - I've read other threads... about gifted children being "targeted" - Hell, I just read something about during the Cold War they really pushed the "gifted program" for students and "morphed" them... So I'm super excited - yet also worried. I'm not a mother, I'm a Dad - so there's a slight disconnect, (Boys love Mom, Girls Love Dad) - yet Dad's don't have that magic intuition that Mothers do. Since it's a Public School, should I be worried? My youngest was in the gifted program, and also skipped a grade. If your daughter is very advanced, you might want to consider bumping her up a grade, if the school district allows this. The maturity level of a gifted child is generally years ahead of her classmates. A year makes a very big difference.The social aspects of school were not affected by my daughter skipping a grade. When my daughter was in 3rd grade, I was told there was nothing left to teach her at the grade school level. The Teachers were supplying her with books and materials at the 8th grade level.I was supplying her with high school and college books. She finished up 5th grade at her elementary school, started 6th grade at the middle school, and then skipped to 8th grade. She is now in her last year of college. Whatever advanced classes they offer your daughter, encourage her to take them. Don't push her though. She has to want to do this. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 70603780 United States 10/19/2015 10:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? Be proud of her of course! Be proud of her accomplishments! You may also allow h3r to decide if ßhe would like to try the program and she càn stop going if she doesn't like it. I have three who did the gifted now...they received full scholarships to college and they all went. I'm not afraid of the public school system because as their parent I keep them informed of important issues age appropriate of course so they are aware of the other side of the so called truths we all have to muddle our way through... |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 70553666 United States 10/30/2015 02:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: My six year old daughter just accepted into GIFTED PROGRAM! Public school - be worried or proud? My son spent grade-school in the gifted program. I think it's a good thing, partly because it groups your child with other smart kids. If your kid is in public school, these are the kids you'll WANT your child associating with. That alone, IMO, makes it a good idea. |