| Users Online Now: 1,608 (Who's On?) | Visitors Today: 455,703 | |
| Pageviews Today: 695,400 | Threads Today: 259 | Posts Today: 3,491 |
| 07:58 AM | ||
| Users Online Now: 1,608 (Who's On?) | Visitors Today: 455,703 | |
| Pageviews Today: 695,400 | Threads Today: 259 | Posts Today: 3,491 |
| 07:58 AM | ||
anyone know family law? | |
| digitalmonkey
Offer Upgrade  User ID: 63609627  United States09/01/2015 05:40 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70215306 United States09/01/2015 05:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70223305 United States09/01/2015 05:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70223305 United States09/01/2015 05:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Truthserum
User ID: 1691247 United States09/01/2015 05:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My daughter divorced in 2014. At the that time She asked me to be the supervisor for the visitations since their dad hadn't seen the kids for 9 months. Quoting: digitalmonkey The daddy started the visitations in Sept and stopped in December when I couldn't be there for a visit to supervise. I had told them both repeatedly that I would be the supervisor for a few months (Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec) and/or until He could get his license and pass a drug test which was required by the court. This was supposed to be completed Jan 1 2015. As soon as he does these two things they do not need me for supervision and it can go to a standard visitation order. He hasn't seen the kids for 10 months because he was refusing to go and Now he wants to resume seeing the kids and they refuse to find an alternate supervisor and he still has not met his obligation of a drug test and drivers license. I was unaware of these stipulations or i would have never agreed. Last year I discussed this with An attorney and she told me that if I did not supervise the visits I would be in contempt of court. What can I do since they refuse to select an alternate supervisor? I have suggested facilities just for this purpose and they refuse. Round trip time is about 3 hours driving for me not including the time spent with Dad. They are at the 4 hour mark so Doing this on both Saturday and Sunday is an extreme hardship. do I write the court and say I QUIT ? don't be RUDE if u answer please. this is giving me a headache If the court actually appointed you as the supervisor you will need to petition the court to have yourself removed as supervisor. FACTS Don't Give a DAMN about your FEELINGS! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70215306 United States09/01/2015 05:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My daughter divorced in 2014. At the that time She asked me to be the supervisor for the visitations since their dad hadn't seen the kids for 9 months. Quoting: digitalmonkey The daddy started the visitations in Sept and stopped in December when I couldn't be there for a visit to supervise. I had told them both repeatedly that I would be the supervisor for a few months (Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec) and/or until He could get his license and pass a drug test which was required by the court. This was supposed to be completed Jan 1 2015. As soon as he does these two things they do not need me for supervision and it can go to a standard visitation order. He hasn't seen the kids for 10 months because he was refusing to go and Now he wants to resume seeing the kids and they refuse to find an alternate supervisor and he still has not met his obligation of a drug test and drivers license. I was unaware of these stipulations or i would have never agreed. Last year I discussed this with An attorney and she told me that if I did not supervise the visits I would be in contempt of court. What can I do since they refuse to select an alternate supervisor? I have suggested facilities just for this purpose and they refuse. Round trip time is about 3 hours driving for me not including the time spent with Dad. They are at the 4 hour mark so Doing this on both Saturday and Sunday is an extreme hardship. do I write the court and say I QUIT ? don't be RUDE if u answer please. this is giving me a headache If the court actually appointed you as the supervisor you will need to petition the court to have yourself removed as supervisor. which means: Better call Saul |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 05:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it is causing major issues with my spouse. he sees the father as a dead beat so why do I have to waste both sat and sun for someone that doesn't care enough to pass a drug test so he can see his kids. his words to me are " your not doing it" I awoke to hear john 3:16 in a loud voice. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. |
| Spiritmyst
User ID: 70220201 United States09/01/2015 05:48 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It depends on which state you live in. I assume the visitation order is in her divorce case. Generally, the judge in a divorce case only has jurisdiction over the two parties of the divorce, your daughter and son-in-law, and the children. He or she would not have jurisdiction over you. Often people that volunteer to supervise visitation have to stop for various reasons: financial, medical, geographic. If he wants to enforce his visitation rights he can file a motion to enforce them. At that time your daughter would have to respond and she could inform the court that you are no longer available. At that point the court would find someone else, perhaps a facility that does that sort of thing, if no family member were available. Also, his failure to obtain a license and pass a drug test could be construed as contempt of court. In a situation like this it is always best to consult an attorney in your area. Many attorneys will give you a free or low cost consult. Good luck! "Twas brillig, and the slithy toves, did gyre and gimble in the wabe: all mimsey were the borogoves, and the mome raths outgrabe." |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 05:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | they can't agree on ANYONE ELSE but me I awoke to hear john 3:16 in a loud voice. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 05:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 05:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | they take the easy road. I drive an hour. pick up kids. I drive them to the meeting spot 30 min. then wait. I entertain the 5 year old that doesn't listen and acts like a brat. the 2 year old barely talks. I do all the running around being a taxi. I want to make them start meeting me so I am actually just there for the supervising part instead of the 1-1/2 before hand and 1-1/2 after I awoke to hear john 3:16 in a loud voice. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70223305 United States09/01/2015 06:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it is causing major issues with my spouse. he sees the father as a dead beat so why do I have to waste both sat and sun for someone that doesn't care enough to pass a drug test so he can see his kids. Quoting: digitalmonkey his words to me are " your not doing it" But you are talking about your daughter here. Is your spouse the father of your daughter? Then he might not care enough about the issue. The reason I am saying this is that it's possible that your daughter's ex might "clean up" or fake cleaning up and get custody of the child from your daughter. Now I don't know how bad this guy really is, or why he needs to be supervised. Have you considered this? I would not abandon my daughter if I were you. I see the supervision by you as protection on her part. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70223305 United States09/01/2015 06:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | they take the easy road. I drive an hour. pick up kids. I drive them to the meeting spot 30 min. then wait. I entertain the 5 year old that doesn't listen and acts like a brat. the 2 year old barely talks. Quoting: digitalmonkey I do all the running around being a taxi. I want to make them start meeting me so I am actually just there for the supervising part instead of the 1-1/2 before hand and 1-1/2 after Tell this to your lawyer. It sounds like you are feeling worn out. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 68778728 United States09/01/2015 06:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| By Their Fruits User ID: 70103712 United States09/01/2015 06:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What could you possibly do that would be more important than facilitating the love between a parent and child. Despite your opinions and the actions of the "dead beat" in question, don't you owe it to your grandchildren and the world to exert yourself to better all the lives around you. It's easy to love your friends. The tought stuff is to extend yourself to those you don't like. Geez, the way you whine, it's no wonder your kid wound-up with a spouse like him. See? Don't you feel misunderstood and dismissed? Step-up, quit yer whinging and do the right thing. "If someone asks you to walk one mile with them walk with them for two." |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yes I care about my grand kids. I am not asking them to put them in danger by changing the visitation. he smokes weed. he may not keep the best of friends but when the restriction is lifted I can't stop who he's with then either I am begging them to pick someone else to do it. I am asking them to use a facility and i even agreed to pay for it. I don't mind doing it occasionally. but 1st. 3rd. 5th weekends on both days. all day that's too much I awoke to hear john 3:16 in a loud voice. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 45326750 United States09/01/2015 06:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Life Goes On User ID: 70103712 United States09/01/2015 06:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yes I care about my grand kids. I am not asking them to put them in danger by changing the visitation. he smokes weed. he may not keep the best of friends but when the restriction is lifted I can't stop who he's with then either Quoting: digitalmonkey I am begging them to pick someone else to do it. I am asking them to use a facility and i even agreed to pay for it. I don't mind doing it occasionally. but 1st. 3rd. 5th weekends on both days. all day that's too much It seems you awoke to hear John Melloncamp not the John 3 16, sis. "Little ditty 'bout Jack and Diane, poor widdle grams got tired helping the fam....." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 109229 United States09/01/2015 06:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 06:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | this just reminds me of all the 30 something kids still living at home. I see me doing this for the next three years. Christmas. thanksgiving. etc. I missed thanksgiving with my last year doing this. and they wanted Christmas too. if he doesn't have the drive to see his kids.... why should I go above and beyond? he's not motivated. he's doing the minimum to get by she is doing the same. if it was a hardship on them they would make more of an effort. maybe I am not explaining this right. I work 40 hrs. plus have a high maintenance husband. the house chores I have 3 horses and 4 dogs to tend to. their kids are not my kids. I did what I needed to do as a parent. I divorced their dad when she was 4. I know all about giving up weekends and planning when the kids come over. I guess that's what bothers me. I put in the effort and they don't. I awoke to hear john 3:16 in a loud voice. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. |
| digitalmonkey
(OP) User ID: 63609627 United States09/01/2015 06:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
