How much effort did you put into locating a spouse?

This thread is inspired by the number of female professional soccer players that are married to their teammates. Everyone is going around social media applauding the all female couples for being brave and what not.

Of course. No question. As a civil right of course I support their decision to marry whoever they want to marry.

As a practical, non-judgmental matter, how hard did they look for a spouse before deciding to marry a teammate?

The same can be said for Britney Spears and Ariana Grande getting involved with dancers from their show.

Maybe it's a symptom of being on the road. That the only people you spend time with are the people on the road with you. I guess that's tough.

However, I think you, each and every one of you, if not already married should put effort into locating your spouse. You can't just marry one of your two dozen coworkers. That's lazy. Plus, dating a coworker can go wrong in many ways.

To answer the question myself, I took finding my wife very seriously. It was my first priority goal for about 15 years.

My wife and I have been happily married for a long time and plan to continue to be happily married for a long time. It took effort though. None of my randomly associated schoolmates or coworkers would've have been a good match for me. Sometimes you have to work for it.

Actually, just side note, I work for everything. Marriage, children, home, finances, success; so far nothing has come easily. I'm not complaining. I'm just saying, yes, it takes work. You have to do the work to get the results.

Last Edited by Jupiter_ on 07/13/2015 10:10 PM