Bondage

I just wanted to ad a few things before I shut up and leave you to your research.

I'm sure you are aware of this, judging by what you have already stated about safety, but it helps to be reminded sometimes- communication is key in all forms of BDSM.

I don't just mean having a few brief conversations with your partner and rushing into full body restriction either.

This sort of interaction requires patience and alertness to the feelings and mental status of your partner. Being able to read each others body language is super important when engaging in this sort of thing.

Safe words don't always work as planned. Oft times, even the simplest of acts, such as a non-restrictive bond for decoration only, can evoke deep hidden emotional or physical response. Even talking about this sort of thing can trigger some people, as you have seen on this thread.

If you have not done so, I also suggest that before you move into actual bondage, that you familiarize yourself with not only the act you wish to undertake, but the rope or material for bonds itself. Do this WITH your partner.

For example, take a somewhat short piece of the rope you would like to use and play with it together without making any knots. I don't know how bawdy I can be on GLP, so I'll leave it up to your adult imagination as to what I mean.

Also, if you do decide to engage in any restriction, make sure your partner knows what you are planning ahead of time. The best way to do this is to have her pick out what she wants to do from a few different options. Always keep in mind that your partner may decide they DON'T want to do any of it at all- and that they understand that's okay.

Communication is key.

thank you for your input. like i said before, she wants to try it more than i do. but she has opened me up to the idea. i usually am more feminine in my approach to everything. and im a mommas boy.

im very good at feeling emotion. i will know if something goes wrong and i am very calm under pressure. i do want to make sure i am completely safe about this so i will take your advice.

ive been trying out different things on myself actually. i had a comfortable rope that i could use. i can do a few different knots on myself now and leave plenty of room so there is no circulation loss. i wont let myself get away but this is actually really fun.

we still need to be together to talk more about it. like i said it will be a few months before i see her.

but again, thank you.

The bowline and the half-hitch are good beginner knots. The slip knot for pro stuff ONLY. Build a simple stockade, a sock in the mouth is nice as long as its accompanied by anal sex.... Enjoy!

what is all the hype with anal. we have tried it twice and its just not what i expected. its not the worst but we both just havent gotten to like it a whole lot. anything im doing wrong?

Uh no...not if you are claustrophobic.

My fiance is into BDSM-it was very intimidating when he first told me about it. He actually asked me if I was "kinky", and when I said no, he didn't press matters, which impressed me. He loves me anyway, and he has been introducing things to me slowly and with consideration. I was nervous and afraid at first, but now I know to trust him, and we are having fun and making our relationship stronger.

OP, you do sound like an emotionally sensitive person (as is my fiance), and yes, communication is key. And don't worry about the naysayers-if you and your girlfriend are in agreement on things, then it's no one else's business what you do in private.

Here is a book I found on Amazon, maybe this will be helpful.

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