Compulsive Masturbation: The Secret Sexual Disorder

Recently, both male and female compulsive masturbators have been adversely affected by the tech-connect boom and the seemingly endless array of sexual and romantic stimulation it provides. As online accessibility, affordability and anonymity have increased, so too has the number of individuals compulsively masturbating to online material.

Men are usually turned on by objectified imagery—nude photos, streaming video, hardcore anime, etc. Women tend to be more aroused by romance—or at least the potential for romance—as found on social media and dating sites, in chat rooms, and in erotic novels such as the “50 Shades” trilogy, which scores of women are downloading to e-readers.

For compulsive masturbators, the computers, laptops, e-readers, smart-phones and all of the other Internet accessible devices we can’t seem to live without provide a safe and easy route to intensely stimulating sexual and romantic fantasies, exacerbating the preexisting issue.

Lots of Sex, No Partners

Michael, a 28-year-old single man who works 9 to 5 as an insurance claims adjustor, wakes up early every morning to masturbate—a practice he started in his early teens. Most mornings he “jerks off” to fantasies, but sometimes he grabs his smart phone, opens up a porn site, and masturbates to streaming videos of naked women defiling or abusing themselves in some way.

He feels badly about being turned on by stuff that seems degrading to women, but some days he just can’t help himself. Once Michael has “jump-started his day,” he gets out of bed, shaves, and hops in the shower. If he’s just had a fantasy or seen a video that really turned him on, he’ll masturbate again while he’s in the shower, or while he’s in the car on his way to work.

He likes masturbating in the car more than anywhere else because it’s exciting and it takes his mind off of traffic and everything else that bothers him about his life. As part of his job he’s on the road a lot—so he masturbates in the car a lot. He’s gotten tickets for driving erratically because of this, but he’s always managed to “zip up” before a police officer or anyone else could catch him in the act.

In the evenings he treats himself to “dinner and a show,” which means pizza or takeout Chinese food and several hours of porn beamed wirelessly from his laptop computer to the 50-inch flat-screen television in his living room. On an average day, Michael has four or five orgasms. Also on an average day—apart from interactions related to his work and purchasing food or gasoline—Michael does not converse with a single human being.

Compulsive Medication?

Compulsive masturbators, both men and women, utilize sexual self-stimulation as a means of self-soothing and avoiding uncomfortable feelings. Most of these individuals struggle with underlying emotional or psychological issues such as early-life or profound adult emotional trauma, anxiety, low self-esteem, poor social skills and depression.

Sadly, compulsive masturbators are often reluctant to seek help because they don’t view their solo sexual behaviors as an underlying source of their unhappiness. And when they do seek assistance, they often seek help with their compulsion’s related symptoms—depression, loneliness, and social isolation—rather than the masturbation problem itself.

[link to blogs.psychcentral.com]