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Dervish
User ID: 56952143 United States 12/20/2014 11:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op,my deepest sympathies. Just know that death is not the end. Honor her,and honor all of our departed by living a good life.because they do see. Make them proud. To everyone, live as if your loved ones could die tomorrow. Tell them you love them. And love them. God bless I know enough to know that I know nothing |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 58061741 United States 12/20/2014 11:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Very sorry for your loss, OP. My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. I've lost both parents at a relatively young age (was 37 when mom passed, and, at 43, my dad passed this year. The pain of losing parents in your early middle years is painful enough, I cannot imagine what you're are enduring, I just can't and won't let my mind go there. I truly hope you can go forward and enjoy the things that brought you happiness before, and you can find meaning in the rest of your life here. Awesome to see the goodwill among the members and anonymous folks. Just when I'm ready to get annoyed with all the doom posts, a thread comes along and renews my hope in humanity. God Bless, and Good luck, going forward, OP. |
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Crazed Baron Haha
User ID: 66073590 United States 12/21/2014 12:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So very sorry, OP. I've lost a number of people dear to me and my experience is that you never truly heal from such losses...and you shouldn't. Someone who was a part of your life is gone. But with the passing of time, the bitterness of the pain will fade. The part of your heart where that person lived will ache, but it's a type of heartache you can endure and even draw strength from. That's the best way I can describe it. Be comforted, and know that others here are lifting you and your family up in prayer tonight. The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity. --William Butler Yeats, "The Second Coming" ...WELCOME TO THE SHOW. |
Milo824
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The Dr.
User ID: 66035509 United States 12/21/2014 01:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She was only 28. I have never experienced death before. I had imagined one of my parents not my child. Quoting: Eleven-15 I thought I was strong but I am not. No parent is ever ready to lose a child or strong enough for that. I have lived through that. You will get through it, but it will never be quite the same. Just take it day by day. “An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” ~ Benjamin Franklin |
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Mr.Evil
User ID: 57674397 United States 12/21/2014 01:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She was only 28. I have never experienced death before. I had imagined one of my parents not my child. Quoting: Eleven-15 I thought I was strong but I am not. I am sorry for your loss. I lost my son last year, 3 weeks before turning 20 years old and on the day of my middle son's 18th bday. I haven't slept in a bed since that day. I sleep on the couch now in the living room. I hope you find peace sooner than later. 28 is far too young. What was she like? Was she also awake as you are? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 42372344 United States 12/21/2014 01:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As someone who has lost a child I can tell you all what it feels like. Because people want to know, and people want to understand what its like to be in that situation. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54760631 When you lose a child, you lose of piece of yourself. It is the absolute worst feeling in the world. There is absolutely nothing that can be said or done to make it okay. Because in the mind of the parent, it is never okay. Its never acceptable. The brain cannot twist and turn to make it okay, no matter what you try. She was only 28. I have never experienced death before. I had imagined one of my parents not my child. Quoting: Eleven-15 I thought I was strong but I am not. Speaking as someone who was in your shoes, I know there is nothing I can say to make it better, and I know thats not what you want either. I can only provide you with advice I wish someone had given me when I was where you are now. Dont go down the dark path of severe sorrow. Its okay to be extremely sad. Its okay to cry as hard as you can. Its okay to hate the world. Just dont let her death destroy you. Dont suppress how you feel, if you have to let it out, let it out. Dont bottle it up. Just dont take it out on others. And dont take it out on yourself either. There was nothing you could do, so dont look for clues as to how you could have stopped it or prevented it. That will just drive you mad and it will lead to nowhere. Dont beat yourself up for it. Dont expect to be over it. People say "it gets better". Well it doesnt. You simply learn how to move forward while having those feelings with you always. Even if its decades from now, it will feel the same. You dont have to accept her death. It will never be okay for you. And thats okay. No one should ever lose a child. Thats how all of us were meant to feel. Just make sure you life your life, enjoy your life, do your best, and make sure you are there for your other loved ones. Because thats what your daughter would have wanted whether she is here or not. Thank you with all my heart. Your words are a balm to my soul though my son has been gone for 3 years. Bless you for your love and wisdom. May they warm the hearts of all who have felt the heartbreak of loss - So much love and gratitude. |
WishinForTheMission
User ID: 65300202 United States 12/21/2014 01:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sweet friend. I am so sorry for your devastating loss. My heart hurts for you. Prayers for you and your family in this most difficult time. To be absent from the body is to be present with God. (It is so wonderful "over there", that there aren't adequate words to even describe the beauty and bliss) Much love and strength to you. ~~Much Peace, Love, and Light~~Always Concerning life and death: I embrace both equally! |
grumpier
User ID: 1189758 China 12/21/2014 01:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Please accept my condolences. Such a loss must be devastating for you and your family, and her friends. I hope that your family, neighbours and friends can give you the support that you so need now. If you think a thread is important enough for others to read, go to page one and click on the green pin!!! |
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Doometropolis
User ID: 2483248 United States 12/21/2014 02:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This all takes place AFTER Christs return. We will all be in spiritual bodies which are inside our flesh now. Eze 44:23 And they shall teach my people the difference between the holy and profane, and cause them to discern between the unclean and the clean. Eze 44:24 And in controversy they shall stand in judgment; and they shall judge it according to my judgments: and they shall keep my laws and my statutes in all mine assemblies; and they shall hallow my sabbaths. Eze 44:25 And they shall come at no dead person to defile themselves: but for father, or for mother, or for son, or for daughter, for brother, or for sister that hath had no husband, they may defile themselves. She is alive and with Father. Ecc 12:6 Or ever the silver cord be loosed, or the golden bowl be broken, or the pitcher be broken at the fountain, or the wheel broken at the cistern. Ecc 12:7 Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it. I believe that with all my heart. And wanted to share it with Ewe. |
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ChiaPet
User ID: 65783841 United States 12/21/2014 03:35 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Eleven-15, Praying for Peace to surround you and carry you through the coming days. Know even here at GLP there are people who will support you and honor you in remembering your daughter. Quoting: I'mpossible Big prayers sent your way. ~ Matthew 7:16. Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns or figs of thistles? ~ Don't worry, be Hopi. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 66071104 New Zealand 12/21/2014 03:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Very sorry for your loss, OP. My sincere condolences go out to you and your family. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 58061741 I've lost both parents at a relatively young age (was 37 when mom passed, and, at 43, my dad passed this year. The pain of losing parents in your early middle years is painful enough, I cannot imagine what you're are enduring, I just can't and won't let my mind go there. I truly hope you can go forward and enjoy the things that brought you happiness before, and you can find meaning in the rest of your life here. Awesome to see the goodwill among the members and anonymous folks. Just when I'm ready to get annoyed with all the doom posts, a thread comes along and renews my hope in humanity. God Bless, and Good luck, going forward, OP. i was trying to think of something to say ,you said it all.people on this thread give me hope ,thank you all, |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 66165738 United States 12/21/2014 04:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have just seen this thread. I too lost the only daughter that I will ever have in this world a long time ago in 1984, she was only about a year and a half old, just learning how to talk and being active. She was a heart disease patient, very serious condition. When she passed, due to surgery that she never returned from, I was devastated. I thought my whole world and every purpose I ever had was now gone. I said to myself, I am her father, I let her down. I slipped into a vast depression. I saw no purpose in going to work because it was a "serve the people" job. How could I do that? I could not solve my own pain. I was in a complete fog for over 18 months. I intended to do things, but I could not remember. Simple things like shaving or forgetting equipment for work that was necessary. Fortunately I had understanding people at work, who let me have time to get back into shape. I tell you now, this is the turning point for you. Your pain will never leave you but you do have a chance. Use this event to come closer to God, to your remaining loved ones, and be of one word "Be..Kind". Become that person who has a sword through their heart, and sees the pain that others don't notice in people, and treat them with kindness. Soon, you will be able to cope with life again, it will take time and the memories will flood back every now and then and you will get down, but you will have a gift that others can't understand. You will know the pain and suffering of the human race, because you suddenly realize what is really important. Those who you deal with on that one to one basis will see the care that is in you and will know you are for real. Ask God to help you to understand. He revealed this path to me. Love is what is lacking in this world most of all. You now know it to be true, because when it is taken away, a void is all that seems to be left. Brother, Sister, who ever you are, I love and pray for you at this moment. God bless you! |