Do Not Let The Opinion Of Others Control Your Life

Wise words. :)

What about medical opinions? Like, if you don't do this , that will happen...

Yes I use to let this really tear me up but getting better thanks

I don't.

Very well said my friend!...

This applies more to what you think of yourself, not really how you respond or react to others who criticize you. It would be self-defeating to respond to this type of criticism in a negative way, because then you are allowing them to compromise your values and principles - responding to negativity with more negativity. It is far more important what you feel about yourself within, how you handle criticism in your thoughts and emotions, and not allowing it to overtake your whole image of yourself. Try not to worry so much about what others think of you, because you are then capitulating to their opinion of who you should be rather than who you want to be and are.

We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

This is red in my karma

Take that halloween shit off your avatar. Why do you support this pagan holiday? Goofy???? WHY?!?!?!?


So I guess I still listen , but I was bothered by it somewhat already I guess

Well done :-)

Nobody can control you after you have done this. Nobody.

Only two opinions matter to me in order of importance:

The opinion of Abba,

The opinions of my dogs.

The better I do following the first, The closer I'll get to being The person the second thinks I am.

He sets the standard, My dogs cheer me on.

What a team!

that was well funny! lol!
but
-like are you insinuating something? : )

I used to be so good at this - not caring what others' opinions are of me. The only thing that I have been struggling with lately is that of certain family members.

I know what to do and I must move on it. Not sure if I'm really in the right category of what bothers me or not. Specifically, it's the criticism of little stuff that I do or don't do. I guess that fits into your thread title...

For example, if I travel miles to go take care of a family member's several children for 5 days, then as soon as I walk back in my door (home), I get a call complaining that my little dog peed on the floor (not carpet and I cleaned it up of course, but some little someone must have tattled - lol).

I could stay resentful that someone is not grateful that I traveled to do this favor for free and is nitpicking, or I can write or call and tell them in a loving manner that they were out of order, which I did. Had I discussed that matter when I was called, no telling what I might have said. Heh.

I guess you could say that IS concern about what or how someone thinks of me (or my dog - lol), but for days it really bothered me and hurt my feelings.

I think the world is just changing right along with how the Bible tells us it will. And you know the part about the me, me, me stuff - that, too. Also, that we are to press on and not give up so we can reach the finish line. All of that, of course, is paraphrased, but I got it.

It's hard in these last days in this world has we have known it - no doubt about it. But in general, no I do not care about the opinion of others, only God's. It would be nice in a perfect world for all to feel wonderful about each other.

In general, this is how it has worked with me - 'ya either really like me, if I allow one to get close to me, or 'ya really, really don't because I am honest and straightforward but not as tough as I may sound sometimes.

Thanks for the thread and for allowing me to share on it.

The headline of this thread is probably the MOST important thing to understand about life on Earth, as a man.


The other top things to understand are:

*Study Permaculture.
*All governments are all bad, all of the time.
*Religion is a crutch for the mentally handicapped and spiritually crippled.
*Embrace death and escape your fear of it.
*Buy land and build a house with your own hands before you do anything ales.

Nobody can control you after you have done this. Nobody.

five stars!

Thank you OP

I agree, which is why it is so important for us to surround ourselves with positive people who care about us, not negative people who use us as targets for their projection. Not all criticism is bad, as long as it is constructive and given with love, not disdain.