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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

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Yes I use to let this really tear me up but getting better thanks hf
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I don't.
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what life? chuckle
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I COULD CARELESS WHAT ANYONE THINKS! I don't care what they think of me, nor do I care what they do. LIVE AND LET LIVE. Very few people know me or my heart!
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This is red in my karma

Take that halloween shit off your avatar. Why do you support this pagan holiday? Goofy???? WHY?!?!?!?


So I guess I still listen , but I was bothered by it somewhat already I guess
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It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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Very well said my friend!...:bighugs:
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Thanks OP

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what life? chuckle
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omg - space cadet modding...pin everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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omg - space cadet modding...pin everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I remember you ( Mod) on the board from way back in 2000
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You want 20 threads about Ebola pinned?
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this is good timing, I needed this today, sometimes my dad really gets me down when I see him and he talks down to me on some things I talk about. I try not to let it get to me but can be hard. Why I even tell him I have no idea, but I do...too honest sometimes w/him.....thanks for this. hf
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Always remember, ultimately, to never follow any person's belief. Your relationship with God is between you and God.

If nothing else, remember this: religion = subservience, control and conformity, the same template as EVERY government

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I do want to add when a opinion matters and that is when given in love and by a loved one , today I was called on something and I cried and was upset for a while.
Then it came to me how right they were , GLP does not make me listen in person only read , so I have become a bad listener , not only that but the men in my life never listened so my coping skills to communicate need work hf
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What about medical opinions? Like, if you don't do this , that will happen...
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this is good timing, I needed this today, sometimes my dad really gets me down when I see him and he talks down to me on some things I talk about. I try not to let it get to me but can be hard. Why I even tell him I have no idea, but I do...too honest sometimes w/him.....thanks for this. hf
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If my opinion was thwt this thread be un-pined and you be baned for showing off your IQ 10 brian, am I controlling your life, like the next 5 minutes of it at least?
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This is red in my karma

Take that halloween shit off your avatar. Why do you support this pagan holiday? Goofy???? WHY?!?!?!?


So I guess I still listen , but I was bothered by it somewhat already I guess
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Don't read it, it is not important. People lash out at people for odd things. I have some very unusual red Karma, I just laugh because it is always wrong. I don't give it but I sure receive the red. I only give the good, never the bad. Don't take it to heart it not you it is them.
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Soooo well said!

I finally learned how to just be myself and not give any shits what people think. Some people (sheep) just absolutely hate me for it but the few people who appreciate it make it all worth while.

lol I drive the girls in the office nuts because they're all about following the rules... as soon as I question something or suggest something out of the box they freak out and get upset with me. then my boss has to tell them to stop freaking out.


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this is good timing, I needed this today, sometimes my dad really gets me down when I see him and he talks down to me on some things I talk about. I try not to let it get to me but can be hard. Why I even tell him I have no idea, but I do...too honest sometimes w/him.....thanks for this. hf
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if he means well, forgive him.

if he does not mean well, ignore him.

you are already growing beyond many people.

Good luck to you!!!!! from my heart!


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Wise words. :)
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this is good timing, I needed this today, sometimes my dad really gets me down when I see him and he talks down to me on some things I talk about. I try not to let it get to me but can be hard. Why I even tell him I have no idea, but I do...too honest sometimes w/him.....thanks for this. hf
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if he means well, forgive him.

if he does not mean well, ignore him.

you are already growing beyond many people.

Good luck to you!!!!! from my heart!


hugs
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It's a bit of both I think, he means well but he is negative too, it's why I didn't speak to him for 3 years till last year. Relationship is semi better now but not by a lot.

and do you sense something in me personally beeches with your comment? Just curious.
No one is perfect. A babe before walking will first stumble and fall many times but NEVER gives up until he succeeds.

Always remember, ultimately, to never follow any person's belief. Your relationship with God is between you and God.

If nothing else, remember this: religion = subservience, control and conformity, the same template as EVERY government

"Most believers would kill truth if truth threatened their religion." L. K. Washburn

"This crime called blasphemy was invented by priests for the purpose of defending doctrines not able to take care of themselves." Robert Ingersoll

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Thanks for this OP.

Some people don't understand how others battle this.

Yet some of us who have truly been the victim and punching bag of domineering, judgmental, hate filled people know that its hard to see yourself as anything when all you can hear is the voice of your accuser and enemy.

The hardest thing but best thing for me was to learn to forgive.

I thought I was going to die in the process of it but my God was it worth it.

Still battle daily with feelings of worthlessness, emptiness, and anger towards those who put that in my head but as hard as it is even when I feel like i do a pathetic job at it, i just forgive and i say it a thousand times over until i feel it in my heart.

Then I tell myself i am not what they say i am, i can do what they say i can't.

(sorry, needed to vent a little)

Green Karma for ya and 5 stars :)
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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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The dark side of self-help is that it promoted to led people to being mostly, unable to say to others "help me". It´s great to be independant, it´s dreadful to be absolutely independant, we were not made to be like that, YOU, ME, and the rest, are links of a chain.

If we disconnect from each other with the excuse of being supermens and superwomens, with the aid of mental mantras, self help of any kind, we are missing the point of what it is to be here, there is something we are doing wrong there, because it is the aim of the elite, to divide, and conquer.
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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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I love this.

Thank you.

A million times, thank you.

rose
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I kinda don't want to, but I'm afraid people will be mad at me. Will they be mad at me if I don't? Will you be mad at me if I do? I really need some advice on how to go with this idea.
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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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The dark side of self-help is that it promoted to led people to being mostly, unable to say to others "help me". It´s great to be independant, it´s dreadful to be absolutely independant, we were not made to be like that, YOU, ME, and the rest, are links of a chain.

If we disconnect from each other with the excuse of being supermens and superwomens, with the aid of mental mantras, self help of any kind, we are missing the point of what it is to be here, there is something we are doing wrong there, because it is the aim of the elite, to divide, and conquer.
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I kinda don't want to, but I'm afraid people will be mad at me. Will they be mad at me if I don't? Will you be mad at me if I do? I really need some advice on how to go with this idea.
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This applies more to what you think of yourself, not really how you respond or react to others who criticize you. It would be self-defeating to respond to this type of criticism in a negative way, because then you are allowing them to compromise your values and principles - responding to negativity with more negativity. It is far more important what you feel about yourself within, how you handle criticism in your thoughts and emotions, and not allowing it to overtake your whole image of yourself. Try not to worry so much about what others think of you, because you are then capitulating to their opinion of who you should be rather than who you want to be and are.
"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

Truth needs no validation because it is self-evident and undeniable. Therefore, anything that requires validation to be realized or justified as truth must contain at least some degree of falsehood.

Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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I love this.

Thank you.

A million times, thank you.

rose
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hugs
"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

Truth needs no validation because it is self-evident and undeniable. Therefore, anything that requires validation to be realized or justified as truth must contain at least some degree of falsehood.

Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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The dark side of self-help is that it promoted to led people to being mostly, unable to say to others "help me". It´s great to be independant, it´s dreadful to be absolutely independant, we were not made to be like that, YOU, ME, and the rest, are links of a chain.

If we disconnect from each other with the excuse of being supermens and superwomens, with the aid of mental mantras, self help of any kind, we are missing the point of what it is to be here, there is something we are doing wrong there, because it is the aim of the elite, to divide, and conquer.
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I agree, which is why it is so important for us to surround ourselves with positive people who care about us, not negative people who use us as targets for their projection. Not all criticism is bad, as long as it is constructive and given with love, not disdain.

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"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

Truth needs no validation because it is self-evident and undeniable. Therefore, anything that requires validation to be realized or justified as truth must contain at least some degree of falsehood.

Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

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We all know there are plenty of critics out there, people who sit in judgment of others without any consideration of their own faults or what the object of their criticism has gone through. No one has walked in your exact footsteps, gone through exactly what you have gone through, or experienced the same challenges with the same perception as you. With that in mind, it is not what others think of you that counts, only what you think about yourself. Without showing empathy or at least trying to comprehend the whole story of someone's life, a person who decides to judge is essentially making a misinformed statement about you without any regard to the events that led you to this point or their own misgivings.

We are our own worst critics, and we often take to heart the negative feedback while ignoring the positive. Self-esteem is a very fragile thing, and when all you focus on is the negative, then your self-image and entire perception will follow suit. In a sense, you will become the negative image that you hear, despite the fact that who you really are is someone entirely different. You are allowing others who do not really know you to determine your self-worth and decide who you are. This is why it is so important to take that negativity with a grain of salt, because no one is perfect, and people who decide to criticize others are lashing out at you in order to take the attention off of themselves and their faults. As they say, when you point the finger at someone, three others are pointing right back at you.

It is vitally important to your well-being, your confidence, and your emotional health that you do what is best for you and your life, not what others tell you is best for you. No one knows you better than you do. Take refuge in the fact that you are exactly who you are meant to be, and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. Improve yourself by focusing on your strengths and not dwelling on your weaknesses, choose hope rather than despair :-)

hf
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The dark side of self-help is that it promoted to led people to being mostly, unable to say to others "help me". It´s great to be independant, it´s dreadful to be absolutely independant, we were not made to be like that, YOU, ME, and the rest, are links of a chain.

If we disconnect from each other with the excuse of being supermens and superwomens, with the aid of mental mantras, self help of any kind, we are missing the point of what it is to be here, there is something we are doing wrong there, because it is the aim of the elite, to divide, and conquer.
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I agree, which is why it is so important for us to surround ourselves with positive people who care about us, not negative people who use us as targets for their projection. Not all criticism is bad, as long as it is constructive and given with love, not disdain.
 Quoting: Rising Son


Exactly. We can feed off of each others positivity when we're all in this frame of mind.

But if someone wants to be fiercely independent to the point where they shut everyone else out... let them... it's not going to hurt anyone.
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Re: Do Not Let The Opinion Of Others Control Your Life
Thanks for this OP.

Some people don't understand how others battle this.

Yet some of us who have truly been the victim and punching bag of domineering, judgmental, hate filled people know that its hard to see yourself as anything when all you can hear is the voice of your accuser and enemy.

The hardest thing but best thing for me was to learn to forgive.

I thought I was going to die in the process of it but my God was it worth it.

Still battle daily with feelings of worthlessness, emptiness, and anger towards those who put that in my head but as hard as it is even when I feel like i do a pathetic job at it, i just forgive and i say it a thousand times over until i feel it in my heart.

Then I tell myself i am not what they say i am, i can do what they say i can't.

(sorry, needed to vent a little)

Green Karma for ya and 5 stars :)
 Quoting: -Dead Man Walking-


Thank you, that is so true. If everyone could see with their own eyes what everyone else has gone through and show a little empathy - it wouldn't be so hard to overcome low self-esteem and those feelings of worthlessness. Thank you for your words :-)
"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

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