Remember that one really crappy thing you did.....?

My 2 cents.

Walk up to the person. Make eye contact. Real contact, look at the "person", not the person's body. If that makes sense.

Then just let it flow out.

"Jane Doe, I just wanted to take a minute to let you know how sorry I am for being so inconsiderate. For doing XXXXX many years ago. I hope you will accept my apology and forgive me."

No introduction or any "fluff" needed. Just start straight out with the apology and it will do the rest for you.

In my opinion.

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Deny, deny, deny, then take it to the grave!!! I find life is much easier this way. Your way seems messy and complicated.

I'm sorry for being so Dayum sexy!

Let your light shine! Nothing wrong with that!

You must be a Scorpio.

Pff, I'm always protelating, i have lot work to do in this sense here, this is hard, very hard to me, I need a booze first.
But i guess no matter what , we all still are assholes occasionally, who is not that throw the first rock.

Huh?

Forgiving yourself is the hard one.

Yea, I think that is why it takes so long to apologize sometimes.

A heartfelt apology is hard to give if you havent even forgiven yourself yet.

I said, that i have to ask apologise to many people, but i keep always letting to another day.
Also i have problem with apologise, is hard to me, so I need a booze, because turns more easy this task.
And, no matter what we never stop to commit mistakes whit other people.

Now ok?

Thanks for letting me know, i suppose that people are understanding me,
but clearly, i can understand in english more than i can express myself.

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Pepperidge Farms remembers...

I got it now. Thanks. English is your second language.


As a native english speaker...



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You are creepy.

Weird too. But I am ok with that.



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Unfortunately I have quite a few apologies I am unable to make.

My only avenue is to live my life in a way that would make them proud.

But yeah, life is too short. Gotta live with a smile and kindness.

lets be honest, teenage years are the worst years of your life

I have to add to this. I'm 47 now. But back in 1988-89, I got involved with a woman about 5 years older than me. I got her pregnant, and in true 22 year old form, I freaked out, and did my best "convincing job" and she got an abortion. They were twins. So here I am....25 years later...and not a year goes by that I don't think about what it would be like to have twins in their 20's right now, probably graduating from college and making lives for themselves. I'm married now, and have three great kids. A semi ok wife. LOL....


But about 4 years ago, with the help of Facebook, I was able to get back in contact with my old girlfriend. And I was finally able to sit down with her at lunch--INNOCENTLY--and apologize for my actions back then. For being irresponsible...for being overbearing...for talking her into something that haunted HER all of her life since then... for causing HER complications... and for being young and immature. It was important for both of us that I apologized, and I did it on my own terms, not because I HAD to, but that I wanted to get it to her before I died...or she died.

There are several other things I could apologize for, but for my own personal reasons, I will never apologize. But I will work hard to NOT do what I did before, and to make people proud of me.

Thank you for sharing.

How did she respond to your apology?

Thanks. And a bottle of wine to calm myself down.

Very thoughtful and inspiring.

Good thread OP.

I did that in my steps. Now, if I slip up, I can do it daily.

I can relate to those things you shared. It is, for me anyway, like taking a spiritual enema.

Shalom.

"Honor your mother and father and you shall enjoy long life". Oh, I believe that is from Proverbs, yah?

My mother is old now and on some days she gets very abusive towards me. I am the only one she does this to. It is God's miracle that I can hold my tongue, and if I feel like I cannot, then I just excuse myself and exit. It's very hard, even with God's help.

It doesn't make any sense to just go out and apologize for 'crappy things' you did. People are assholes and the distinct possibility might be they won't accept your apology just to spite you ... Jealousy, vindication, ... Or get mad, emotional for shit they already forgot.

People sometimes can't grasp the fact that their memories of said events have become skewed over time, which goes for the other party too.

Fuck it. If you took her expensive, best family pieces and sold 'em: you're a jerk.

Wow. I sure am glad you are not God.

I guess you haven't really done bad things that would haunt you for a long time. Good for you.

It was just one thing in my life that really bothered me. Sure, I've done plenty of 'crappy things' but nothing to be stressed over.

This one I screwed up was a life change event for me...

real,true FAMILIGIA never turn their back......EVER!!!!

another great way is to look at a photo and say these words:

i'm sorry
please forgive me
thank you
i love you

Nope remind me

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