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Anonymous Coward User ID: 499151 United States 05/06/2013 08:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I always tell people the truth when they ask a question. Yes, I try to honestly be happy, or at least positive, but if you ask, I'll tell you what's going on. What I don't do is give the whole story. If they ask how I'm doing and I feel cruddy from the flue, fat and unattractive, I'll just say something like "I could be better, how are you doing?" If they want to know more they can ask. Or not. I'm fine with either. :) |
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User ID: 36559246 United States 05/06/2013 08:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? You're right, OP. All the requestor wants to hear you say is, "Fine." We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 39419078 United States 05/06/2013 09:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Contrary to what you think, there are people who when asking that question are sincere. I am a living example. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 39415389 Same here.I never ask unless I have time to respond to the person if they want to talk and I make an effort to hear them out.Sometimes just talking a bit really helps someone. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 37792576 Italy 05/06/2013 09:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? You're right, OP. All the requestor wants to hear you say is, "Fine." |
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User ID: 36559246 United States 05/06/2013 09:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Contrary to what you think, there are people who when asking that question are sincere. I am a living example. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 39415389 Same here.I never ask unless I have time to respond to the person if they want to talk and I make an effort to hear them out.Sometimes just talking a bit really helps someone. Bless you both, for you are rare. We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 38847279 United States 05/06/2013 09:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sara, In Britain, the common greeting is "How do you do." Notice that there's no question mark. The correct response is: "How do you do." Think of "How are you." as "hi", and respond with a greeting, rather than an answer. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 39419078 United States 05/06/2013 09:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Contrary to what you think, there are people who when asking that question are sincere. I am a living example. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 39415389 Same here.I never ask unless I have time to respond to the person if they want to talk and I make an effort to hear them out.Sometimes just talking a bit really helps someone. Bless you both, for you are rare. Well it has made me feel better a few times when someone took time to talk to me.Some of the elderly especially are lonely and love to chat a few minutes.There will be time when nothing else is still standing and it never hurt anyone to take a few minutes of their time to be nice to another person. Sometimes you can just look at a person and tell they are lonely.Cashiers I tend to notice often if they seem stressed and I always try to make them feel a little better by asking them about their day.Has it been a busy work day etc.We never really know what a person is silently going through and a little kindness goes a long way. |
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User ID: 36559246 United States 05/06/2013 09:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Contrary to what you think, there are people who when asking that question are sincere. I am a living example. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 39415389 Same here.I never ask unless I have time to respond to the person if they want to talk and I make an effort to hear them out.Sometimes just talking a bit really helps someone. Bless you both, for you are rare. Well it has made me feel better a few times when someone took time to talk to me.Some of the elderly especially are lonely and love to chat a few minutes.There will be time when nothing else is still standing and it never hurt anyone to take a few minutes of their time to be nice to another person. Sometimes you can just look at a person and tell they are lonely.Cashiers I tend to notice often if they seem stressed and I always try to make them feel a little better by asking them about their day.Has it been a busy work day etc.We never really know what a person is silently going through and a little kindness goes a long way. For me it's servers at semi-fast food restaurants. They all too often become part of the scenery, and I try to find ways to tell them, "You matter to me." We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4769854 United States 05/06/2013 09:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? Hi was somehow repalced by "How are you". I hate it too and always reply with "hi". |
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in rainbows User ID: 2530194 United States 05/06/2013 09:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes! I went to checkout at the grocery store Sunday and the girl said how are you but didn't even look at me. Just makes me sick. I looked at her and didn't say anything back. Just annoying Pray for Us Sinners Now and at the Hour of our Death |
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in rainbows User ID: 2530194 United States 05/06/2013 09:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? Hi was somehow repalced by "How are you". I hate it too and always reply with "hi". So do I! Pray for Us Sinners Now and at the Hour of our Death |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4769854 United States 05/06/2013 09:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? Hi was somehow repalced by "How are you". I hate it too and always reply with "hi". So do I! Funny thing is not many people notice I didn't answer their question. |
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User ID: 36559246 United States 05/06/2013 09:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? Hi was somehow repalced by "How are you". I hate it too and always reply with "hi". So do I! Funny thing is not many people notice I didn't answer their question. Because they probably didn't notice they asked it in the first place! We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26300532 United States 05/06/2013 09:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | and Monday's are the worse, every Monday the same people ask how was your weekend, like its so exciting, and like they give a shit, and really its just a prelude for them to ramble about there weekend (which they think is soo interesting), i even had the same person ask me twice how my weekend was, iyiyiyi; and the Holiday's are even worse |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 47378445 United States 09/25/2013 02:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Contrary to what you think, there are people who when asking that question are sincere. I am a living example. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 39415389 Nonsense. You can't possibly invest in the general well-being of everyone you encounter. It's not emotionally possible. If 10 people in a row actually spilled their guts to you you would just stop asking. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 47378445 United States 09/25/2013 02:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sara, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 38847279 In Britain, the common greeting is "How do you do." Notice that there's no question mark. The correct response is: "How do you do." Think of "How are you." as "hi", and respond with a greeting, rather than an answer. Except that there are people who will simply keep repeating the question, AS a question, if you just say "hi". Been there. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 41083943 United States 09/25/2013 02:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? That's why I never ask anyone how they are doing. I don't really care. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 11054084 United States 09/25/2013 02:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I hate when people ask how you are and they expect you to say something positive Quoting: Saratonin Even when your not doing well. What are you suppose to say "Hey I had the worst fucking day of my life yesterday?" Would they care? Probably not What the fuck is the point in saying that? Seriously! If you are not going to tell your true feelings? Stop being a fucking coward and tell people how you feel. Then don't feel bad about it. You'll probably start to feel better! |