How do you muster up courage, and get over shyness and the past? Is there herbal medicine to help? Prayer? What?

After 03/11 is used this a lot because of all the shaking!

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Ah, i forgot: Yes, i guess it was working very well!

thank you...my anxiety is over the roof at times. I just can't seem to break chains with the past. It's disabling.

I used to be A LOT but i grew out of it im still shy at times but.. i started smoking weed some and idk it made me not care about stuff that makes me shy o_O

Practice in a mirror, or a camera, learn yourself.

Google "doctor yourself Niasin" by Andrew Saul.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being shy and quiet. The world says otherwise, but don't listen to them! You were made that way for a reason, and having a gentle demeanor is prized in other worlds

Now, the anxiety Is another thing. God didn't create you with anxiety. Fear is the root cause, but also it could be a physiological reason coupled with psychological and perhaps diet. I suggest some medicinal therapy, if u can get it, Indica strain, and beta blockers as a last resort when you can't use the mt. Also, let go of "self" and focusing on yourself. You're probably a people pleaser too, so do some work on not worrying about what other people think of u.

For the finale, this problem most likely stems from your upbringing, things you inherently learned from your parent(s), and one way to release that and find healing is to, first, recognize and hone in on what it was that created that in yu, and then forgive whoever taught you that (most likely unknowingly and something they picked up from their own childhood). Realization, and then Forgive, forgive, forgive! If u can put yourself in the other person's shoes and forgive unconditionally, you will begin to find healing in these areas. God bless.

ok here what you do

Find a redneck biker bar and when there are like 30 bikes all lined up domino down walk into the bar start wailing on the biggest ugliest biker there.

Guarantee you won't be shy no more.

Many options OP, have to find what will work for you...

EMDR is great for past trauma

Valerian root is good for anxiety

Kava kava is good but it's recommended not to be on long term

Confidence....working on loving yourself, self acceptance, is the most important!

Shyness is part of you, it doesn't make you. It's ok to be shy :)

Trust in yourself and trust you will become all you desire.

1. Decide
2. Be curious
3. Don't judge yourself harshly

A Magnesium deficiency can cause anxiety. And about 85 to 90 percent of people are low in Magnesium do to our modern diets. Take a look!

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Then you could be toxic. Meaning you have heavy metals or other junk causing you to become toxic. Things like lead, arsnic, bromide etc. So researching methods of detoxing the colon, liver etc might be in order.

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Then getting off of sugar and artificial sweeteners along with caffeine may prove helpful as well.

Hope this helps,

I think he meant Niacin!

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If you're talking about overcoming anxiety or emotional trauma from the past, prayer worked for me. I actually suffered from depression/anxiety problems for about 10 years and after giving it to God in prayer at the beginning of this year; I was healed within a few months. It doesn't change who I am, I'm still a shy/introverted person by nature, but I embrace that and try to focus on my strengths. If you're trying to become an outgoing extroverted person, you're just fighting against what comes naturally to you.

This may sound strange but try getting a clear quartz crystal. They actually put out positive energies and they get our systems to work at optimal range.

Look into healing with crystals.

It's not demonic or new age, it's been around for tens of thousands of years.

I've heard about this magnesium deficiency before. Need to check more into that!

Everybody had to get over it. Some at 5, some at 25 some at 65. Eventually you will just do whatever the fuck you want because its what you want to do, and fuck everybody else's opinion. Wanna say hi and be funny? Do it. Just fucking do it. And yeah, sometimes it's gonna be less than satisfying. Then again, sometimes unimaginably cool shit will happen. And then it'll be tomorrow and you can do it a fucking gain. Roll the dice.

I do take magnesium pills, along with iron, multi, iodine, vitamin d, vitamin b12. I don't drink artificial sweeteners.

I will go the route of detoxing. Thank you for the links.

I worry too much. I am a people pleaser, and I care too much about what others think. I don't know why...I wish I could outgrow that. I was bullied a lot, so I think the roots come from that.

Love your attitude...I am almost there, but not quite. God bless you for it.

First of all I take Iodine too...well plus all of the other nutrients and more that you mentioned.

But did you know that Iodine forces Bromide out of the body and Bromide is NASTY!!!! You want it out but you have to be smart about it. Pulse dosing, Iodine, taking salt pushes and of course all of the companion nutrients needed when taking Iodine.

Exp: As mentioned I've been taking Iodine for 3 years now. I've done a lot of research and I know what to expect. Then my husband started taking it and would begin being angry, agitated, depressed have anxiety ... And it would remind me to stay off of Iodine for a could of days and to salt push. The bromide attaches itself to the chloride in salt and takes it out to the kidneys. So you could be experiencing bromide detox to some extent.

Wow lots of typos there.

From experience, you have to go to places full of people you don't know and are never going to know and don't worry about it. Who gives a shit, you're never going to see them again anyway. Talk with them. if you say something stupid or they don't like you, who gives a fuck. As I said you're never going to see them again.

You just have to pick random people you don't know and have conversations with them. Walk up to somebody and ask them if they know where the nearest bus stop is. Say you're glad the weather is nice cause you're car is broke down and you're walking. Maybe they'll ask what's wrong with your car. In for brakes. Keep walking. You interact with people for no reason any time you can and you'll get over it.

You'd never believe I was like you if you met me today. It works.

I was shy until I read that shy people are the biggest egomaniacs because they always give into thier fears.
So I started to be friendly but that didnt go over well either.
Then I talked to my Dad for the first time in 40 years and he said he was just waiting to die cause everything hurt and it sucked being old.
Then it hit me how short life was and that we should just live it to the fullest while we still can.
so "JUST DO IT"

Nah bunga bunga works

Ok
#1 get over what people think about you.
the older you get the easier it will be.
if they can't accept you for who you are than who fucking cares... if they are meant to have a poignant role in your life, they will. period.
#2 find a nice hoppy beer. hops help to calm your nerves and alcohol calms them a little more. i recommend an ipa that is 6 to 7% abv. You may only need one, but it will make you feel better.

i do not recommend smoking weed if you are an introvert. i love marijuana, but it can make some very sensitive, paranoid and unsettled... 1 beer will not.
start there
good luck

poignant was not necessarily the word i was going for. let's see... meaningful, consequential, significant...

Stop fapping. check out the site "your brain on porn". Try a 90 day reboot. Also, there are some excellent suggestions on this thread...follow through with them. All the best!

Learn to become an expert at something - Choose a field you love so you will have passion about it.

Workout at a level that will improve your overall body image of yourself. Cross training is the best. Don't over do it or you could injure yourself and that could set you back father than if you only took walks. Swimming is an excellent low impact exercise that will help you to tone up and increase your endurance more than any other exercise. To get the most benefit out of it though, you would have to be doing it 3 X or more a week but if you include it in your cross-training, you could do it as little as once a week.

If you have lbs. you need to shed, immediately stop drinking pop! Within 1 -3 months you will see a marked improvement in the weight you've lost. In one year without drinking pop you will have to buy new clothes because nothing you currently wear will no longer fit you. Anyone who calls B.S. on this either doesn't have a weight problem or they are addicted to their soda and don't want to give up the addition. My wife lost 20 lbs. in one year and she's lookin' great! She walks 2 hours a day, 3 - 5 X's a week. That's it! She has neck issues so walking is all she can do. Work with what you got.

Change your diet if you’re eating a lot of fast food junk or a lot of red meat. Learn to fast for at lest 4 days a month. Your body needs to expel toxins and a juice fast is an excellent way to accomplish that. I've fasted for as much as 10 days at a time. The first day is the hardest... your body is screaming at you to feed it or you'll die. I promise you, you will not! In fact, you could easy go 30 days on a juice diet without any ill effects whatsoever. The more days you go without eating, the easier it gets and the clearer your thoughts become. A good long fast is a spiritual experience that everyone should try at least once in their life time.

Some people aren't meant to live in highly populated areas like cities. The noise and the fast pace life overwhelms their senses on a daily bases but they become use to it so they never quite figure out why they're always stressed out. I lived in the city for almost 40 years before I finally realized what was going on with me. We moved to a small northern community and my stress level dropped by %50 Best move I ever made! Moving to a small town is hard because people all know each other and takes years before they see you as "one of there's", some will never accept you. Big deal, let em deal with it... it's their problem not mine. I now have a lake that is 4 minutes from my home where I can go fishing/boating/swimming or just hike around the lake all day. People are scarce and the ones I do run into are usually friendly or at least civil. Half an hour drive north and I'm out in "God's country" and can hike/fish/boat all day and often never see another living soul. Sometimes I feel like I've gone back a 1000 years in time and those are the moments I cherish the most.

I still deal with shyness and stress but it's at a manageable stage and I realize that a lot of it steams from my own selfishness of resisting to allow myself to be who I am. It's a long road for me but I'm learning (slowly) to deal with it all one day at a time. It's a life long process but there is hope and there are good people in this world if you are willing to be open to finding them.

Through it all, being a Christian has been my greatest strength and help. People have told me that I use my Christian faith as a “crutch”. I tell them: “are you kidding me? It’s my life support!” I doubt I would still be here without it.

I used to be shy..now less so.
Comes to a point you grow up and not care what others opinions of you are.
remember op you can NEVEr please everyone..even if you were the nicest person on earth someone would always find faults in you
So just be yourself..NEVER EVER wear a mask..because if it falls off..and they usually do ..then the person might not like the real you

Be yourself..be kind..be love..be happy

Oh and adopt a carefree attitude..learn to laugh at yourself op

so so important..dont take yourself too seriously

and smile :)