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Message Subject In Love with 2 People?
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How you doing, Indigo? Did you find the answer you were looking for? Seriously, I'm not being an ass. It sucks to be in your situation, been there myself.
 Quoting: LaniJane



Hey there :). Oh, I didn't think you were being an ass, lol. I'm looking for absolute honesty, no matter what. I'm not sure, really. Right now, he is back to wanting her and not wanting to speak to me at all. It goes back and forth for him every few days.
 Quoting: IndigoSerenity76


My 2 cents....could be way off but here it is

I'm guessing he likes or loves certain qualities in you, and then some in the other person. Depending on what mood or season he's in, he goes back and forth...this isn't really love, its an insecure codependency.

As soon as things become difficult with whoever he's with at the time he'll no doubt want to reconcile with the other and things will be ok for some time.

He thrives on drama, could be from a broken home of divorced parents, I know from experience, but when things are good, and settled, that will send him into a panic stricken self-destruct mode and he''l break up with one and go to the other.

I could be wrong, and most likely I am. Either way Im sorry your being subjected to this, and nothing anyone says will make it easier. You have to draw clear boundaries, or else you'll risk having this happen again.
 Quoting: Drummy


Thank you so much. You are not the least bit off, that is actually right on. He likes/loves me parental qualities, my grown up qualities, the sex qualities, he likes/loves her ability to be irresponsible and available to him at all times, with no stress because she has no responsibilities yet.

I've always told him he is more dramatic than most women I know. It's sick, really.
 Quoting: IndigoSerenity76


Well I'm glad you see through all the drama. It makes things difficult when we have a strong desire to be in relationship with people, and sometime we (myself included) we will stay in a dysfunctional relationship because its better than "no" relationship.

Love is such a nebulous term, and I think a lot of times if gets confused with lust or infatuation. So we have this intense emotional response when we meet or start dating someone, but as soon as that "feeling" is challenged in any way, maybe an argument, our false notion of love is sent on a roller coaster ride, usually ending up with us seemingly "not in love" with them.

So we go searching for the next roller coaster ride of emotion, until the same thing happens, (rise cycle repeat) all over on the crazy train

Hope thats not to impressionist, musicians brains can be a bit out there....
 
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