Breaking the chains of the past - facing & healing toxic conditioning & false belief systems

Regardless of which geographical location we find ourselves on this planet, what family structures, economic circumstances, cultural or socio-political situations, religion or creed we were born into and what losses and traumas we have survived; anyone who is part of modern society has at one point or another been hurt and affected by toxic learned behaviours and false belief systems from each of these external factors.

If freedom from the traumas and global dysfunctions of our pasts and a more authentic existence is NOW what we seek. If our hopes are for changes (for the better) in the way our current world systems operate, then there comes a point, after considerable self-reflection, where realisation cuts through personal denial systems and we 'wake up' to personal responsibility and the potential for personal and collective change.

From that place of growing awareness, a desire to clear the false beliefs and cross-generational dysfunction and wounds in our own personal psyches and every day lives becomes strong enough in an individual to take action to clear and transform them. When enough individuals take personal action for positive change, then the reflection of that will manifest externally on the world stage, a bit like the 100th monkey tale.

To sum up: We are waking up (with the help of very tough internal and external circumstances) to the reality that the cross-generational dysfunctions and lies of all that has taken place before this point in time, now sits both individually and collectively on all of our shoulders. We may not have been the cause of the problems but we are responsible to heal the effects and move forward with healthier behaviours.

From this awareness, comes the realisation that we do hold the power to break the chains of the past and to prevent those dysfunctions and false belief systems continuing on in our youth and in our societies. The method to do this is to look at our pasts, the pasts of our families and cultures and see them for what they really are. To then find ways to grieve and heal the wounds we carry, to accept and to forgive and then move forward authentically. This is a very personal journey, no one can do it for anyone else - we can support each other along the way but ultimately these are steps that each on of us must make for ourselves.

This thread is dedicated to chain-breakers everywhere and it's purpose is to share experiences, tips, insights and pitfalls that we encounter as we strive to keep moving forward towards truth and a better way of being and living in these challenging times.

I think we need to examine all our beliefs. Really examine them - and then determine which ones actually serve us well."

IMO the FIRST thing to do is determine if our belief is TRUE. The truth can destroy your neat little world in the SHORT run but only the truth deserves your belief.

I am not a professional therapist or counsellor but I have been on a dedicated path of self-recovery since I was 7 years old when I was first impacted by a huge loss in my life (I am now in my 40's).

In posts to follow, I will share an introduction of the traumas and toxicity I have faced on a personal level and some of the steps I have taken that have helped me to heal my psyche to this point in my personal journey. I will also share benefits that have manifested around me as a result of my efforts. I would also like to share useful learned skills in setting limits and boundaries I have found helpful when dealing with people in my life who are still deeply asleep and continuing their toxic dance steps.

I look forward to sharing experiences and learning alongside fellow chain breakers as we continue on our personal/collective paths towards a wholeness of being/global community.

Recommended reading material:-

'The Four Agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz.

'The Drama of the Gifted Child' by Alice Miller

What is the truth? as definition?

Well thought out material you have here. Indeed, the roots of all change lie in our children, and how we rear them into young adults.

That is key.

IMO the FIRST thing to do is determine if our belief is TRUE. The truth can destroy your neat little world in the SHORT run but only the truth deserves your belief.

IMO the FIRST thing to do is determine if our belief is TRUE. The truth can destroy your neat little world in the SHORT run but only the truth deserves your belief.

Well thought out material you have here. Indeed, the roots of all change lie in our children, and how we rear them into young adults.

That is key.

heh - that is why I specifically didn't use the word truth. We can choose the beliefs we want to be "our truths", but certainly cannot claim them as THE truth. After all - they are but beliefs.

You cannot determine truth in the beliefs of others until they're the beliefs you hold yourself. Each perspective is slightly different and some VERY different. The key is not forcing any belief on anyone else. Speak of the benefits of our understanding to inspire a change in others, not against their beliefs. To accuse anyone of being wrong in their beliefs is to condemn them like a fire and brimstone preacher... as it seems I am doing, in a way, right now.... lol

Don't believe anything or anyone... Only learn and know and understand. And most people refuse to admit they're wrong, even to themselves, so they live a lie and lie to live. Can't really learn if you're never wrong. Treat people like you want to be treated, if you don't want to be lied to, don't lie to anyone else. Be prepared to lose "friends".

You people don't understand what a belief is if you say that. You don't need to believe in something that exists. A belief is something you accept by placing your trust in that belief or person who tells you about the belief. A belief stops being a belief if there's evidence for it existing in reality, it then becomes a fact. As long as you believe, you'll never know and always have doubt and never be able to truly learn anything that doesn't fit in with your belief.

I'm not just talking about religion. So technically everyone that has a belief is wrong because they're not proven or don't exist in reality. You don't need to believe if you know and understand.

BELIEF
1. a principle, proposition, idea, etc, accepted as true
2. opinion; conviction
3. religious faith
4. trust or confidence, as in a person or a person's abilities, probity, etc

A belief is simply something you accept as being true without any evidence or proof that it even exists or it is the way it claims to be. It is not truth, it is something you ACCEPT and CHOOSE to be true. But truth does not need your acceptance or choice to exist, it exists regardless of what you think.

But is truth: fact and is it reproducible or given to perception? Belief is solely that which you deem to be true to the extent that you find the proofs acceptable.

I see truth as a reflection of reality. If it's doesn't match up with reality, then it isn't true. The only way to see reality objectively is to see it as it is, with no preconceptions, no beliefs and no bias. Most people can't do this because they can't handle reality and live in fantasy. I define reality as all that exists in the universe. Until we observe something or interact with something that exists, it may as well not exist to us. It just remains a possibility.