Ten years ago today, I buried my mother...

10 years?

well, it's time to dig her up and make sure she's still dead.

I can't believe that it has been ten years. She was only 46. I won't go into details about the nature of her death, because I don't want this to be a depressing post. The reason for this post, is that I want to see how you of GLP, who have lost someone dear to you, remember them.
I have a couple of things that I do, but I'll share this one, since we are in November now:

My mother made Christmas magical! She made awesome candies and cookies, she decorated the house, from rooftop to foundation (not in a tacky way!).

I have been handed the Christmas cookie torch, by my maternal grandmother. They were a "sacred" part of the festivities and I think it makes her happy to see her daughter's tradition live on. The beautiful part of this is, my mom used to make them in honor of her maternal grandmother. My mom didn't even start baking them until Granny Rose passed away. She used her grandmother's recipe, and now, I do.

I still miss her immensely, but keeping this history and tradition alive really makes me happy.
I realize how blessed I am, to have had a woman like her, as an influence.

What are some of the ways you remember your loved ones?

Thank you all for your replies. The loss of a loved one is hard, of course, mine at least was in the "natural order" of things, so to speak. I can't be alone in doing things in memory of a lost loved one, can I?

I want this to be a triumph over death, in a way. I guess this is a bit philosophical, but the only proof that any one of us existed is in the memories of others.

How do you remember your lost loved ones?

I am so sorry for your loss.

If you want to communicate with your brother the best thing to do is to call out to him. The dead communicate with the living through sudden inexplicable smell, dreams, light touches, whispers, and hiding things. The living ignore the dead.

I will assume your brother is NOT Earth bound and has crossed over. Saying that, my advice to you is to sit in quiet meditation. Close your eyes and focus on your brother. Create a mental picture of him. Try to make it as detailed as possible. Try to remember the sound of his voice. Then call out to him mentally. Ask him to give you a sign. Then sit very quietly. Take notice of your body. What do you hear, smell, feel? Don't expect something to happen right away. Generally somewhere within 24hours they will make their presence know to you. You can also ask for him to visit you in a dream.

Physical sensations can be light touches, soft breezes, face tickles, or the sensation of hair being lightly tugged. It takes a lot of energy for the dead to manifest in our 3D world so don't expect anything huge. Be patient.

Sound phenomena can be a loud knock, sudden intermittent ear ringing, whispers, name called.

Olfactory phenomena: sudden powerful smell of flowers, when no flowers are present. Also, smoke, cookies, perfume, cinnamon. Your deceased family and relatives will generally come with a scent you would associate with that particular person.

If there is something you would like to say to your brother, you can do that as well. Death often has a way of leaving things unsaid.

I would have to advise against playing with EVP. You can inadvertently call in some dark, malevolent spirits which can be quite tricky to remove.

Thank you, all.

For those of you who have lost spouses, I can't imagine the grief you must feel as the holidays.

As a fellow human, travelling through this life, I can say with all sincerity that I truely do love you all!

I'm sorry if this post has caused any of you pain...

I really just wanted to see how we celebrate the lives of our lost loved ones.

Peace and Love to you all!

I lost my son..my beautiful boy.

he was four years old...I can barely type this and things are not much better. I think about him every day every hour every minute.