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Bigboat
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TEOTWAWKI
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BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
(OP) User ID: 1173023 United States 11/24/2010 06:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why should anyone care about your sorrow? All you ever do is act like a dick around here to everyone. Quoting: Turtles KnowGo fuck yourself. You should just be lucky it wasn't your own kid with an asshole father like you. Brief is not an asshole. And for you to say that only proves what an asshole you are. What are you doing for the world? Brief is raising his youngens, alone. Damn, AC, you suck. Haha, yes of course. The legions of paying members will suck this guys dick in his defense. No, you're right, this guy is a damn SAINT! I will try to aspire to be more like him. I'll start by doing something fantastic like raising the kids THAT I BROUGHT IN TO THE WORLD. That will make me pretty altruistic and special. I didn't call him a Saint, he is mourning the loss of a youngen. Show some damned respect or let me guess, you just like kicking folks when they are down? Brief and I don't agree on everything, but there is a dead kid we're talking about, a dead kid, think about it. And now you want to fuck with him? You suck far more than he does. Thanks, I think, but my purpose is not to express anything other than to simply love your kids and spend time with them... THIS ISN'T Karma or a pity party for me...just a message to think about our children and put in the time... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1125997 United States 11/24/2010 06:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why should anyone care about your sorrow? All you ever do is act like a dick around here to everyone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1000365Go fuck yourself. You should just be lucky it wasn't your own kid with an asshole father like you. Brief is not an asshole. And for you to say that only proves what an asshole you are. What are you doing for the world? Brief is raising his youngens, alone. Damn, AC, you suck. Haha, yes of course. The legions of paying members will suck this guys dick in his defense. No, you're right, this guy is a damn SAINT! I will try to aspire to be more like him. I'll start by doing something fantastic like raising the kids THAT I BROUGHT IN TO THE WORLD. That will make me pretty altruistic and special. I didn't call him a Saint, he is mourning the loss of a youngen. Show some damned respect or let me guess, you just like kicking folks when they are down? Brief and I don't agree on everything, but there is a dead kid we're talking about, a dead kid, think about it. And now you want to fuck with him? You suck far more than he does. A dead kid, a dead kid! There are god damn kids dying around the world ALL THE FUCKING TIME! Where is your compassion for them? Typical humans, let's just show our soft side when it's fucking convenient. Disgusting. Having buried my own dead kid I understand the ramifications of it. What you got AC? Just a bunch of pictures in your head and shit you have heard? Experience it yourself and then come talk to me. And honey, I just showed my compassion, I'm waiting for you to show yours. |
D's Pet
User ID: 1173233 United States 11/24/2010 06:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks, I think, but my purpose is not to express anything other than to simply love your kids and spend time with them... Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTTHIS ISN'T Karma or a pity party for me...just a message to think about our children and put in the time... They don't get it, Brief. It's not about you, you were saying something about parenting. Which is not something many people are great at any more. The good news is that, according to the Obama administration, the rich will pay for everything. The bad news is that, according to the Obama administration, you're rich. ~P. J. O'Rourke |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1173516 United States 11/24/2010 06:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry OP.This is happening more and more sadly.Also the murder/suicide thing is getting worse by the day.I have read of at least 4 in the last month or so in area newspapers.The last one an elderly man killed his wife that was sick and they couldnt afford proper care for her then killed himself so he wouldnt be with out her. Times are getting so sad and our kids just see no future and life seems hopeless for them I suppose.My sympathy to you and the family OP. |
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D's Pet
User ID: 1173233 United States 11/24/2010 06:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Having buried my own dead kid I understand the ramifications of it. What you got AC? Just a bunch of pictures in your head and shit you have heard? Quoting: Turtles KnowExperience it yourself and then come talk to me. And honey, I just showed my compassion, I'm waiting for you to show yours. So sorry to hear that, TK. This is about to turn into a tear fest for me. I should go feed the horses before I start blubbering. The good news is that, according to the Obama administration, the rich will pay for everything. The bad news is that, according to the Obama administration, you're rich. ~P. J. O'Rourke |
Fantasia II
Koo Koo Ka Choo User ID: 839765 United States 11/24/2010 06:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am so sorry... George Orwell was right..Black is White, Up is Down, War is Peace... "Never believe anything until it has been officially denied." Yesterday is history.......Tomorrow a mystery.......Today is a gift......thats why we call it the Present!!! |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
(OP) User ID: 1173023 United States 11/24/2010 06:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why should anyone care about your sorrow? All you ever do is act like a dick around here to everyone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 455519Go fuck yourself. You should just be lucky it wasn't your own kid with an asshole father like you. You obviously can't "read between the lines" with *op's* posts...... he's a good man with his head screwed on (despite all appearances to the contrary) annnnnd a heart the size o' Texas.... Perhaps leanrning to read with your heart would open up a whole new world to ya.... just sayin' LOL, well can't fool ya all... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
SeekerMi
User ID: 1170761 Puerto Rico 11/24/2010 06:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Kids these days experience pressures that we could not have imagined!!! I am a mother to a 25, 22, and 11 year old. The key for our family is making sure that the kids know they can tell us ANYTHING! We may NOT like it; but we still LOVE them. My 11 yr. old tells me a Lot (I don't dare say he tells me everything). I do my best to Listen with Non-parent ears first....and respond only after I have had some time to THINK! OP.....so sorry that you and Yours have to experience this tragedy!!! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1173492 United States 11/24/2010 06:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Heartbreaking. Just starting the journey and it became so painful for him that he took his own life. May he find peace in the next life that he couldn't find in this one. The Creator loves all His children, and this 14 year old was indeed just a child. Quoting: fillantpre 1173487it is appointed once for a man to be born and once for a man to die..............there is no reincarnation.......deceptive fairly tale by the devil so people will think they can get another chance to do what they should have done in this life. By "next life" I meant the life of the soul, in the spirit. I did not mean that he would be reincarnated. I hope that through God's mercy this young lad will have his soul, which suffered so much pain in this world, healed in the next world where the angels and saints dwell. |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
(OP) User ID: 1173023 United States 11/24/2010 06:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How heartbreaking. We just had a 14yo commit suicide in a neighboring county last week. Left a suicide note about bullys. :( Quoting: TEOTWAWKIMy thoughts and prayers go out to all touched by this tragedy. This kid wasn't picked on, he just had no love of a parent...but we don't have a letter to explain... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
mopar28m
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 997731 United States 11/24/2010 06:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why should anyone care about your sorrow? All you ever do is act like a dick around here to everyone. Quoting: Turtles KnowGo fuck yourself. You should just be lucky it wasn't your own kid with an asshole father like you. Brief is not an asshole. And for you to say that only proves what an asshole you are. What are you doing for the world? Brief is raising his youngens, alone. Damn, AC, you suck. Haha, yes of course. The legions of paying members will suck this guys dick in his defense. No, you're right, this guy is a damn SAINT! I will try to aspire to be more like him. I'll start by doing something fantastic like raising the kids THAT I BROUGHT IN TO THE WORLD. That will make me pretty altruistic and special. I didn't call him a Saint, he is mourning the loss of a youngen. Show some damned respect or let me guess, you just like kicking folks when they are down? Brief and I don't agree on everything, but there is a dead kid we're talking about, a dead kid, think about it. And now you want to fuck with him? You suck far more than he does. A dead kid, a dead kid! There are god damn kids dying around the world ALL THE FUCKING TIME! Where is your compassion for them? Typical humans, let's just show our soft side when it's fucking convenient. Disgusting. Having buried my own dead kid I understand the ramifications of it. What you got AC? Just a bunch of pictures in your head and shit you have heard? Experience it yourself and then come talk to me. And honey, I just showed my compassion, I'm waiting for you to show yours. Thanks for proving my point again. Only because you buried your own kid you were able to show compassion. What about all the other kids dying around the world every day? I have to experience a kid dying to be compassionate? No I don't, we're all born with the ability to do so without experience a reason to first hand. When the time comes, it just occurs. Unlike you, I'm not going to lie to myself and pretend that I'm not being a hypocrite, pretending to care when it's convenient. What makes any one persons death more special or worthy of emotion than another? Why do we only show compassion in tragedy? If everyone was truly as compassionate as they believe they are, this world wouldn't be half the piece of shit it is today. Stop kidding yourself so you can sleep at night. |
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Know Juan User ID: 1162196 United States 11/24/2010 06:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There is nothing worse than to lose ones child. The Compassionate Friends is a global group of parents that have lost a child and they the have meetings that are very helpful. This might be very helpful to them. Maybe there is one in your area. [link to www.compassionatefriends.org] The following by Rabbi Gellman is one of the best I have ever read. There are no "magic words" to comfort those who grieve JULY 24, 2010 Question: My husband's son, my stepson, died suddenly last month at age 33. As you might imagine, we're both having a very difficult time coping with the loss. I'm deeply saddened to watch my husband struggle with his pain. Are there any magic words or phrases to say to someone at this time? I feel helpless and would like to comfort him in a meaningful way. — K., via e-mail Answer: May God comfort you and your husband on your tragic loss. May the soul of your stepson be received in heaven among the holy and righteous. This is what I believe. Now, let me tell you what I know. I know there are no "magic words or phrases" you can use. As a great playwright once said, "Oh, you see, my dear, there is no cure for that on planet earth." The brokenness we experience as we live cannot be undone. Our job is to figure out what we need to do to make a spiritual scab form over our spiritual wounds. The scab doesn't make the wound go away; it just helps us live with it and keeps us from bleeding out at the site of the wound. The scary thing I know is for many of us who've loved deeply and then lost that love in death, there's a piece of us that actually wants to join the person in death. This is scary but normal, and usually this self-destructive part of us yields to the demands and loves of life that we still possess. At that point in our grief work, each person must figure out how to heal and return to life. Some people need to talk their way into healing with family or friends. Others need to pray their way into healing by constantly reminding themselves that even in their darkest days, their blessings exceed their burdens. Some people I know need to serve their way into healing by helping those in need or organizing to support those trying to find cures. I know that words are not that helpful to those trying to heal. Words address our mind, and our brokenness is in our soul. The only words I've ever encountered that seem to help a bit are one question and one statement. The question is, "How are you doing today?" This question is totally different from the similar question, "How are you doing?" The answer to the second question is often an expression of rage: "How do you think I'm doing? My son just died!" However, the answer to "How are you doing today?" comes easier because the query is more modest. Rather than asking how the person is doing in some cosmic, existential sense, you're asking how he or she is doing at the moment. This question reflects the deep knowledge that healing from grief is not like healing from a broken bone. Bones heal a little every day. Souls can also heal this way, then suddenly slide backward before resuming their upward arc. Over time — sometimes years — a grieving person will notice that they've formed a scab over the wound and found a new place to continue their lives. The test for me is whether they can smile a real smile. If they can smile and laugh again, I know they're on their way to healing. The second set of words I know are valuable to grieving people form a statement accompanied by a touch. You touch the person in grief, look into his or her eyes and say, "I love you and you are not alone." What you're really doing is reminding the person that he or she may have lost one person they loved, but they haven't lost everyone they loved and who loved them. There is, of course, also the love of God, but that's an idle promise to those who are not spiritually receptive. I urge you to be patient with your husband. Don't expect his grief to be resolved and tied up with a neat bow. Also, don't believe that his healing is in your hands. Ultimately, he must discover what he needs to find his way back to the light of a new day. Resist the urge to say, "Everything will be all right." That's not true. Nothing will ever be all right again, if by all right you mean a life lived with your stepson again. If what you mean is that everything will be new and different now, and that it can be all right in a new and different way, that is the truth. But you and your husband must decide that this is what you want and need. You can't save him or yourself from the agony of the journey from brokenness to a new wholeness. The only way out of this is not around it but through it. I believe with all my heart that we won't be separated forever from those we love. I don't know this but I believe it, and this belief, taught in my religion of Judaism, sustains me in the here and now. I pray for your healing, your husband's healing, and the healing in heaven that awaits us all. By Rabbi Marc Gellman. Send questions only to The God Squad, c/o Tribune Media Services, 2225 Kenmore Ave., Suite 114, Buffalo, NY 14207, or e-mail them to [email protected]. |
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BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
(OP) User ID: 1173023 United States 11/24/2010 06:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why should anyone care about your sorrow? All you ever do is act like a dick around here to everyone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 997731Go fuck yourself. You should just be lucky it wasn't your own kid with an asshole father like you. Brief is not an asshole. And for you to say that only proves what an asshole you are. What are you doing for the world? Brief is raising his youngens, alone. Damn, AC, you suck. Haha, yes of course. The legions of paying members will suck this guys dick in his defense. No, you're right, this guy is a damn SAINT! I will try to aspire to be more like him. I'll start by doing something fantastic like raising the kids THAT I BROUGHT IN TO THE WORLD. That will make me pretty altruistic and special. I didn't call him a Saint, he is mourning the loss of a youngen. Show some damned respect or let me guess, you just like kicking folks when they are down? Brief and I don't agree on everything, but there is a dead kid we're talking about, a dead kid, think about it. And now you want to fuck with him? You suck far more than he does. A dead kid, a dead kid! There are god damn kids dying around the world ALL THE FUCKING TIME! Where is your compassion for them? Typical humans, let's just show our soft side when it's fucking convenient. Disgusting. Having buried my own dead kid I understand the ramifications of it. What you got AC? Just a bunch of pictures in your head and shit you have heard? Experience it yourself and then come talk to me. And honey, I just showed my compassion, I'm waiting for you to show yours. Thanks for proving my point again. Only because you buried your own kid you were able to show compassion. What about all the other kids dying around the world every day? I have to experience a kid dying to be compassionate? No I don't, we're all born with the ability to do so without experience a reason to first hand. When the time comes, it just occurs. Unlike you, I'm not going to lie to myself and pretend that I'm not being a hypocrite, pretending to care when it's convenient. What makes any one persons death more special or worthy of emotion than another? Why do we only show compassion in tragedy? If everyone was truly as compassionate as they believe they are, this world wouldn't be half the piece of shit it is today. Stop kidding yourself so you can sleep at night. Again, I'm not asking for your sympathy...I only ask that you show your kids the love they need...I guess you are just used to being selfish and are trying to project that on me... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
D's Pet
User ID: 1173233 United States 11/24/2010 06:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Again, I'm not asking for your sympathy...I only ask that you show your kids the love they need...I guess you are just used to being selfish and are trying to project that on me... Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTExactly. Brief isn't seeking hugglefucks from you people. He's telling you to hug your kids while you can. The good news is that, according to the Obama administration, the rich will pay for everything. The bad news is that, according to the Obama administration, you're rich. ~P. J. O'Rourke |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 997731 United States 11/24/2010 06:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Again, I'm not asking for your sympathy...I only ask that you show your kids the love they need...I guess you are just used to being selfish and are trying to project that on me... Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTI'm no longer addressing you. Also, I don't have kids, but I have family members who are, and I try to show them my love because their parents don't. |
MountainTux
User ID: 873257 Canada 11/24/2010 06:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're absolutely right, but I'm taking this opportunity to point out this guy doesn't deserve a damn tear shed in his favor. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1000365I'll leave it to everyone else to give it to him anyway. EVERYBODY deserves a tear shed, even if only BECAUSE of how bad you perceive them to be. More to the point, if you can't find it in yourself to feel for HIM, at the least show respect to the boy, and his family. You may not believe in Karma, but it DOES believe in you... I understand your words, but I can't comprehend where they come from. I feel very sorry for you. And that's not compassion... it's pity. The power of Linux COMPELS you! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1125997 United States 11/24/2010 06:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for proving my point again. Only because you buried your own kid you were able to show compassion. What about all the other kids dying around the world every day? I have to experience a kid dying to be compassionate? No I don't, we're all born with the ability to do so without experience a reason to first hand. When the time comes, it just occurs. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 997731Unlike you, I'm not going to lie to myself and pretend that I'm not being a hypocrite, pretending to care when it's convenient. What makes any one persons death more special or worthy of emotion than another? Why do we only show compassion in tragedy? If everyone was truly as compassionate as they believe they are, this world wouldn't be half the piece of shit it is today. Stop kidding yourself so you can sleep at night. I am simply asking you to show the same compassion you expect from others. Thus far, you fail. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1125997 United States 11/24/2010 06:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Having buried my own dead kid I understand the ramifications of it. What you got AC? Just a bunch of pictures in your head and shit you have heard? Quoting: D's PetExperience it yourself and then come talk to me. And honey, I just showed my compassion, I'm waiting for you to show yours. So sorry to hear that, TK. This is about to turn into a tear fest for me. I should go feed the horses before I start blubbering. Yeah, I gotta go cook dinner. Much peace to Clint and his family. |
Dough Dude
User ID: 1102650 United States 11/24/2010 06:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Brief- I know you don't need help defending yourself, but may I say you are one of my favorite people on this forum. You tell it like it is, and laugh at yourself in the process. Your sig is the best on this site. Brutally honest! Alot of kids from broken families don't have a chance. Unless they have a dad like you. I think they call it tough love. lol I'm lucky to have a beautiful wife and son. Thanksgiving is tomorrow, but I thank God everyday for my family. I hope your son is dealing with this okay. He must have a million questions running through his head. With a dad like you, he'll be okay. Have a good Thanksgiving!! Failing to plan, is planning to fail. All intelligent people are conscious, not all conscious people are intelligent. |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
(OP) User ID: 1173023 United States 11/24/2010 06:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Again, I'm not asking for your sympathy...I only ask that you show your kids the love they need...I guess you are just used to being selfish and are trying to project that on me... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 997731I'm no longer addressing you. Also, I don't have kids, but I have family members who are, and I try to show them my love because their parents don't. If you are messing with Turtles you are messing with me :) There is an epidemic of parentless kids, so whatever good you can do is appreciated...by them and me... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1173537 United States 11/24/2010 06:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He was 14...My kids and I have taken him to the firing range and we let off fireworks together on July fourth... Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTMy middle son is 14, so this is hard for me...would be anyway I guess... Please tell your children you love them, spend time with them even if you don't think you are doing any good, you probably mean more to a child than you realize... His name was Clint. Sorry for the news. Good advice. |
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