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BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
User ID: 381742 United States 09/13/2010 12:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those of us that have come to love our own company perhaps a bit too much, are there any suggestions for coming out of our shells, and reintegtratin ourselves in a social context? Quoting: too introverted 621329I now desparately need help with my social skills, which have fallen way off the chart. Join a church function...doesn't matter which belief...well, stay away from Burkas...seriously though, most big churches have great social events to get to know nice people...stay away from bars and clubs... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 816754 United States 09/13/2010 12:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those of us that have come to love our own company perhaps a bit too much, are there any suggestions for coming out of our shells, and reintegtratin ourselves in a social context? Quoting: too introverted 621329I now desparately need help with my social skills, which have fallen way off the chart. Yeah, me too. But oddly enough, I just don't really care enough to make the effort. All I need to do is be in a group of people for an afternoon and listen to their inane chatter. Then I go home and remember how much I enjoy my solitude. |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 12:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those of us that have come to love our own company perhaps a bit too much, are there any suggestions for coming out of our shells, and reintegtratin ourselves in a social context? Quoting: too introverted 621329I now desparately need help with my social skills, which have fallen way off the chart. get the hell out of the house ! lol Seriously though- do you have a cause you care about- some sort of interest ? Join a group, volunteer, do anything. Just start getting out and around people. Maybe, as you are around groups of people who communicate socially you will become a little more accustomed to it :) I can tend to isolate too. Which is not born with the huge pleasure of liking myself best ;) For me, it comes from not feeling connected in a group setting. Feeling alone in a crowd kinda thing.. Smaller groups are better for me, but we learn what is best by trying different situations. I have found just blowing my personal fears off which are usually way out of perspective and just jumping into something has its benefits. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
User ID: 381742 United States 09/13/2010 12:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those of us that have come to love our own company perhaps a bit too much, are there any suggestions for coming out of our shells, and reintegtratin ourselves in a social context? Quoting: CuriouslyIncognitoI now desparately need help with my social skills, which have fallen way off the chart. get the hell out of the house ! lol Seriously though- do you have a cause you care about- some sort of interest ? Join a group, volunteer, do anything. Just start getting out and around people. Maybe, as you are around groups of people who communicate socially you will become a little more accustomed to it :) I can tend to isolate too. Which is not born with the huge pleasure of liking myself best ;) For me, it comes from not feeling connected in a group setting. Feeling alone in a crowd kinda thing.. Smaller groups are better for me, but we learn what is best by trying different situations. I have found just blowing my personal fears off which are usually way out of perspective and just jumping into something has its benefits. Yeah, large crowds are a NO...I can hear what everyone is thinking and it hurts...I leave totally exhausted...small groups are always good... Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 08:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That was beautiful! Thanks for sharing. Quoting: Sage McGreen:) YW ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 08:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
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Thoughts Faux Fodder
User ID: 1088934 United States 09/13/2010 08:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For those of us that have come to love our own company perhaps a bit too much, are there any suggestions for coming out of our shells, and reintegtratin ourselves in a social context? Quoting: CuriouslyIncognitoI now desparately need help with my social skills, which have fallen way off the chart. get the hell out of the house ! lol Seriously though- do you have a cause you care about- some sort of interest ? Join a group, volunteer, do anything. Just start getting out and around people. Maybe, as you are around groups of people who communicate socially you will become a little more accustomed to it :) I can tend to isolate too. Which is not born with the huge pleasure of liking myself best ;) For me, it comes from not feeling connected in a group setting. Feeling alone in a crowd kinda thing.. Smaller groups are better for me, but we learn what is best by trying different situations. I have found just blowing my personal fears off which are usually way out of perspective and just jumping into something has its benefits. AC After years at home with my children , i find myself in a struggle with social anxiety, often having a hard time communicating new people.I do NOT like large crowds at all but now can go in them and navigate them if i must, which used to be impossible for me :-) Most of the time i go anywhere i have my camera in my hand - which helps me to at once distance myself and connect with others around me if i choose to. Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune--without the words, And never stops at all.... Emily Dickinson |
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Thoughts Faux Fodder
User ID: 1088934 United States 09/13/2010 08:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ~~~~ sings along, THANKS ci :-) i needed that one tonight!!!Absolutely one of my favorite songs ever, i sing it with the kids quite often xoxox Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune--without the words, And never stops at all.... Emily Dickinson |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1054817 United States 09/13/2010 08:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thread: How To Be Alone Glad your thread is getting responses. I thought it was a very good message. Maybe people weren't ready for it last month. |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 08:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I posted this last month. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1054817Thread: How To Be Alone Glad your thread is getting responses. I thought it was a very good message. Maybe people weren't ready for it last month. I am really sorry I missed your post. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 08:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ~~~~ sings along, THANKS ci :-) i needed that one tonight!!!Absolutely one of my favorite songs ever, i sing it with the kids quite often xoxox lol I am thinking of a new woman :) "I AM" or "I AM BLISS" idk.... she will come to me. xoxo I love your woman painting the world ! (((((((((((((((big huge hugs ))))))))) joke em if they cant take a ... Last Edited by CuriouslyIncognito on 09/13/2010 08:53 PM ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
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Thoughts Faux Fodder
User ID: 1088934 United States 09/13/2010 09:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i like this one, don't know if is the one you're thinking of though, it isn't as up-tempo as the other. Thank you - She's gonna be my new AV once i manage to get my star back :-), you know i would never have found my voice if i hadn't had someone so dear whispering in my ear that i HAD one, somewhere, if i would just look... XOXOXO!!!!!!!!! HUGE HUGS BACK AT YA :-) Last Edited by Thoughts Faux Fodder on 09/13/2010 09:07 PM Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune--without the words, And never stops at all.... Emily Dickinson |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 09:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i like this one, don't know if is the one you're thinking of though, it isn't as up-tempo as the other. Thank you - She's gonna be my new AV once i manage to get my star back :-), you know i would never have found my voice if i hadn't had someone so dear whispering in my ear that i HAD one, somewhere, if i would just look... XOXOXO!!!!!!!!! HUGE HUGS BACK AT YA :-) wonderful vid :) ty for sharing. Sometimes we have to force our friends along our journey so that we ourselves can make it. You mean we have voices in there ? lol ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/13/2010 09:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I love this. Thanks for posting it. Quoting: Sophie:) yw ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 961432 United States 09/13/2010 09:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Loneliness is okay IMO since you have to come to terms with yourself. When you are with someone else you are always getting confused between who you really are and who they think you are. Quoting: BRIEF AND TO THE POINTLoneliness is being by yourself and wishing you had someone near...Being alone is a gift that should be appreciated... One can be alone and either not feel lonely or feel lonely. I have been alone for so long I know the difference. In fact I have been so lonely it was physically painful, it is at the moment of excruciating pain that you really get to know yourself better and come to terms with your loneliness which makes your alone times far greater to experience. |
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Thoughts Faux Fodder
User ID: 1088934 United States 09/13/2010 09:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | wonderful vid :) ty for sharing. Quoting: CuriouslyIncognitoSometimes we have to force our friends along our journey so that we ourselves can make it. You mean we have voices in there ? lol yep, no matter how hard they kick and scream they have no idea what you're heading for:::grins::: i know i am incredibly lucky to have someone prodding me to keep going past splat!!!!! Voices... what voices... lol Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune--without the words, And never stops at all.... Emily Dickinson |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1097844 United States 09/13/2010 09:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What a load of Cak, go smoke some crack. mix it with smack, get of your soon fat back because you can never go back, Be a slob,get a job,build,make,produce, Intellectual douche, Get fucked and have a baby, sign up for welfare, go to the supermarket and kick a fat person in the nuts, get a dog. IT is my poem to you. |
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CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/14/2010 08:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i love been alone i can't get enough of it. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1098025i only like being in the company of those i admire,like, love, concious and intelligent people only. I have found that people are rarely just one thing and that if we look we find we have more in common than not :) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/14/2010 08:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What a load of Cak, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1097844go smoke some crack. mix it with smack, get of your soon fat back because you can never go back, Be a slob,get a job,build,make,produce, Intellectual douche, Get fucked and have a baby, sign up for welfare, go to the supermarket and kick a fat person in the nuts, get a dog. IT is my poem to you. ummmmmmm ok then. :) Good luck with that ! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
CuriouslyIncognito
(OP) User ID: 1096531 United States 09/14/2010 08:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | TY even when I can barely flutter you remind me that fluttering is enough. Soaring will happen. I love you. I WILL call today- promise. xoxo!!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "....So I told my Mom I was a prostitute because I didn't want her to know I was HERE doing This Shit !!! " by NANCY REED ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.- JD Salinger |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1054817 United States 09/14/2010 01:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I posted this last month. Quoting: CuriouslyIncognitoThread: How To Be Alone Glad your thread is getting responses. I thought it was a very good message. Maybe people weren't ready for it last month. I am really sorry I missed your post. :huggue3: Aww, thanks. Now I don't feel so alone. |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT
User ID: 381742 United States 09/14/2010 01:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Loneliness is okay IMO since you have to come to terms with yourself. When you are with someone else you are always getting confused between who you really are and who they think you are. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 961432Loneliness is being by yourself and wishing you had someone near...Being alone is a gift that should be appreciated... One can be alone and either not feel lonely or feel lonely. I have been alone for so long I know the difference. In fact I have been so lonely it was physically painful, it is at the moment of excruciating pain that you really get to know yourself better and come to terms with your loneliness which makes your alone times far greater to experience. Perhaps you had to go that far to appreciate it...personally I don't need to fall off the roof to know it's going to fuck'n hurt...but sounds like you learned a valuable lesson...good for you! Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |