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Domestic Men with Children how do you cope?
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[quote:My Fear:MV80NzUyOTE1Xzg2NTkzNjI4XzZDQTQ2RTkz] Your kids are still too young and the statics are against them and you if you divorce her now. Sounds like you married badly. She may have had a traumatic childhood and thus has developed borderline personality disorder or she is the histrionic type. First.. you can't fix her. All you can do is set up boundaries. You could try and rent another smaller household to set up and be apart form her time to time. Like a one bedroom with pool for the kids if you ever need to bug out. I doubt you can afford it though. So seriously... First, you need to see a psychiatrist that you trust and you think your wife may trust. Tell them your observations. He may mention meds for your wife or for you.. (Ha-ha). They may recommend you to a psychologist or social worker for family/ marriage counseling. Then you need to have a talk with your wife. You need to be blunt with her. Tell her your other friends are not having the same issue. It is not normal and she is a unique and special person you are concerned about too. Then you need to book and appointment for the both of you to set up with a better plan of how to do things in your household. It is going to take work. But, so she can calm down and be angary at someone else you need a referee. After that you need to talk to a good divorce lawyer and try to figure out over the long haul how to get out of dodge with this marriage. You are married to someone that will never be happy. So you either have to accept that fact and live with it or move on. The sad part is your kids are being traumatized and may pick up these same behaviors. So when she goes all emotional on you, teased the kids behind her back by copying her behavior. The kids will get the picture that it is her with the problem not them. Make them laugh about it. Laughter is the best cure for anything. Anyways, good luck. [/quote]
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All I want is serenity and day after day it's chaos, mostly on account of my severely emotional wife.
She has to have blow-outs with children on a daily basis or she goes out of her way to misunderstand me so she can have a blow out with me.
I work six days a week, physical labor. The 3 kids are 12 and under. She expects us all to satisfy an imaginary ideal world in which she fantasizes and cannot handle it when we act like human beings.
How do you cope?
I have dreams of meditation, fasting and enlightenment but instead I have crying, yelling, shouting, and drama everywhere I look and I have to spend 1/2 my day advocating for children.
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